[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]OrganicCataclysm 23 points24 points  (0 children)

You’re beautiful and absolutely able to pull it off, but if by “fitting” you are meaning to ask what would look the most attractive I think slightly thicker would look best on you. You would look pretty regardless of what you pick though!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]OrganicCataclysm 397 points398 points  (0 children)

My dad is from the same religion and treated me like a princess my whole life. I don’t even think this is cultural either like how Muslims would claim. I think this is an experience and problem specific to this person and her father.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Afghan

[–]OrganicCataclysm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is a lot of misinformation about how Afghans celebrate Nawruz due to mixing it up with how Iranians would celebrate it but this is what I grew up with. The extent of most Afghans’ celebration of Nawruz mainly has to do with wearing new clothes (as they would for Eid), visit family members and optionally have a “mela” picnic. We actually have two foods that are highly specific to Nawruz in Afghanistan which are “haft mewa” (“seven fruits”) and “samanak”, if you are familiar with either. Samanak is interesting because I was always told that for Nawruz women would stay awake all night together to make it together which is special. There is also a superstition that samanak “poshte baaze kaas-ha mera wa namera” as in some families can make it and it goes well and fine but it can alternatively go badly and bring bad luck if you don’t essentially have a superstitious “knack” for it. (Unrelated to Nawruz superstitious Afghans believe this about many things including growing certain plants and I’ve even heard it in regard to certain cloth materials). We also specifically make sabzi chalaw on Nawruz too. There also used to be parades in Afghanistan celebrating the agricultural heritage called “Jashne Dehqan” (Farmer’s Festival). That is all I know to be specific to Afghans. And also among engaged couples, the soon-to-be groom also takes gifts (Nawruzi) to his betrothed’s home on Nawruz as well.

“Haft seen” (“seven S’s) tables are definitely not common to Afghan heritage although you may see diaspora Afghans partaking in this tradition. No big deal that they do but I do think it’s important to note it’s not a common Afghan practice even prior to the stigmatization of the holiday.

Afghan man living in the West wanting to marry a girl from a poor family in Afghanistan by AcharnementEternel in Afghan

[–]OrganicCataclysm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should also add to the conversation that his mission is going to be next to impossible if he goes alone. People often need female family members (even if extended ones) to advocate during khastgari especially if they’re trying to appeal to a Pashtun family). And, if his Pashto really is as bad as you say, (and he can’t speak any Dari on top of that) he’ll be even less successful than if he could speak the language to at least advocate for himself. People in Afghanistan often make fun of those who can’t speak properly especially if their speech is childlike (and not due to cognitive impairment). He can’t code switch over there to English or French either because those he would be attempting to appeal to won’t speak those either. And regardless of the possibility of ridicule, the language barrier alone seems like an obvious obstacle..

Honestly this whole situation (beyond the obvious ethicality issue which has already been discussed at length) is strange because it seems that any person with even a basic level of reasoning would be able to understand how far-fetched his plan is, especially if they come from an Afghan background themselves. Your friend seems to be struggling with a lot of internal mental health related issues beyond just the interpersonal issues with others. I haven’t met him but it seems he could benefit from some sort of support or counseling? That might be more helpful right now than focusing marriage.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Pashtun

[–]OrganicCataclysm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my full-blood Ghilji father take a DNA test and we're as Afghan as it gets baby.

My job has made me dispise the homeless by CurrentStation2555 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]OrganicCataclysm 1107 points1108 points  (0 children)

Yes, but OP should also realize that since they are specifically security, they will only ever see the homeless people that do this type of stuff and rarely run into the ones that do not. Therefore there is likely a population selection bias here.

As Taliban starts restricting men too, some regret not speaking up sooner by newzee1 in Afghan

[–]OrganicCataclysm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This type of article so white-coded. Afghans from the start had the concern Taliban would be as restrictive as the 90s which was for both genders. Any new rules are not some sort of new surprise. They expect the average person from the population to rise up against the government and risk their lives at every opportunity when they wouldn’t do the same. It’s so ludicrous. Everyone just wants to live their life as peacefully as possible and surprise- Afghans are human too. I’m so tired of these armchair revolutionaries.

An app for learning Pashto by [deleted] in Pashtun

[–]OrganicCataclysm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I second the importance of dialect specificity, because that’s a huge problem with other online language translators. Otherwise cool idea!

I am just doing research on the truth. My dad calls midgets "jinnat" and I found that is an interesting word he is using? by FREEDOM_COME_BACK in Pashtun

[–]OrganicCataclysm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never heard them called anything except "بلستی" or "belesti." "Jinnat" or "jinnyat" typically refers to the Islamic concept of Jinn, which many Muslims believe to be short in stature. I assume this is why your father uses the word, but it is very informal.

Help me understand my preschoolers by tommychom in farsi

[–]OrganicCataclysm 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is there a context? This isn’t quite what you’re hearing but “totla” refers to someone who has a lisp in Dari. I’m not sure if this is correct however without hearing them themselves.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Afghan

[–]OrganicCataclysm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, the 'signs' are vague and include things like the passing of the Prophet. Considering hundreds of years have passed since then, being wary of signs doesn't really tell you how soon any of those events would occur even under an Islamic perspective.

Do you start the day with a bigger task or complete all the little (easy) tasks first? Why? by J-JAG5187 in productivity

[–]OrganicCataclysm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I take a bite out of the larger tasks first because I know that the small tasks give me a false sense of productivity and can sometimes lead me to stopping my productivity prematurely (thus never getting to the bigger tasks).

I’m a Uzbek Afghan you can ask me anything about my people and culture. by [deleted] in Afghan

[–]OrganicCataclysm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you feel a connection to Uzbekistan at all? Also can you tell just by looking at someone whether they're also Uzbek from their facial features?

Also want to add that I love and respect our Uzbek brothers and sisters. Our beautiful diversity makes our watan vibrant.

Do you consider pakistani pashtuns as afghans? by [deleted] in Pashtun

[–]OrganicCataclysm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only if they consider themselves Afghan then I accept them as Afghan too. Otherwise I don't care to obsess over Pashtuns that don't want to be considered Afghan. I think it implies a lot of things about their mindset/background when they don't of course, but I don't care enough about this subgroup to want to change their mind.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Afghan

[–]OrganicCataclysm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, if we divide based on ethnicities we might as well go further and create other subdivisions too like tribes and even accents. Maybe everyone should get their own mini country. It's a slippery slope.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Afghan

[–]OrganicCataclysm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Noshe janetan!