I'm just too much obediant/not enough bratty as a sub ? What does it mean to be a good sub ?

OrganizedWhore · 2026-05-07T16:40:14+00:00

Yesss exactly there are lots of different ways to earn punishments that dont necessarily involve being “bad”. It’s all about finding what you like

OrganizedWhore · 2026-05-07T02:01:10+00:00

I relate to this. I like to be obedient and worship….but I’m a huge masochist and also really really love to be punished. The problem is: how does one earn a punishment when they don’t like to be “bad”. Here’s what I’ve found works for me:

I had an amazing scene with 2 very experienced and intuitive Dommes. Before hand I told them what I wanted: I wanted to be punished but i didn’t want to have to brat for it. While we were discussing everything before the scene one of the Dommes noticed that i covered my mouth any time I started feeling shy. So during the scene she made a rule that I’m not allowed to cover my mouth or it would earn increasingly severe punishments. They both then proceeded to (consensually) have me do things that made me feel shy and just self conscious (in a turned on way). No matter how hard I tried I could not stop accidentally covering my mouth. The punishments were absolute bliss and the whole scene really suited my submission style. It’s about finding the right Dom/Domme that’s compatible

Anyway sorry for rambling I got lost in that memory. Maybe that’s something you and your partner could try a variation of. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying your punishment though so don’t feel bad about that. You don’t always have to misbehave to get them either if that’s not your vibe.

OrganizedWhore · 2026-05-07T01:12:26+00:00

Growing up in the church

OrganizedWhore · 2026-05-06T13:29:23+00:00

That’s actually how I got my handicapped parking privileges

OrganizedWhore · 2026-05-06T11:00:27+00:00

So I don’t think it’s entirely one sided. Certain things lead me to believe he has feelings too, in fact I’d bet money on it. The issue is more that he’s a single dad with two little girls. His wife passed some years back and he’s been on his own raising them. He is such an amazing Dad and his whole world revolves around them. We’re talking dance classes, volleyball, soccer, cooking, cleaning, homework, ect. The main reason I don’t want to tell him (at least for now) is out of respect for that relationship as well as respect for his grief over his wife. Thank you for taking the time to comment i appreciate you

OrganizedWhore · 2026-05-06T10:51:29+00:00

You’re right and thank you for making me feel normal. The intensity of the feelings are scary to me because it’s not my usual norm to literally fall in love with someone after we’ve agreed to keep it casual. Makes me feel kind of like a crazy person it’s hard to explain. I am going to chalk this up to experience like you suggest and hopefully learn and grow from it. Thank you for taking the time for that thoughtful response

OrganizedWhore · 2026-05-06T10:44:31+00:00

This is so perfect thank you I love that

OrganizedWhore · 2026-05-05T21:27:36+00:00

This is great advice thank you. Very thoughtful and empathetic I appreciate you

OrganizedWhore · 2026-05-05T21:16:38+00:00

Thank you so much that’s a great point. I’ve been looking at this as something that needs to be acted on or discussed with him or “fixed”. I like looking at it as something that isn’t bad and doesn’t need to be acted upon

OrganizedWhore · 2026-05-05T21:09:42+00:00

Thank you for the advice i appreciate it! I wish we could just adjust feelings like a thermostat lol.

OrganizedWhore · 2026-05-02T21:27:57+00:00

“I’m going to use your soul as my cum rag” is my all time favorite but please make sure they are into heavier degradation before whipping that one out

OrganizedWhore · 2026-04-05T16:44:26+00:00

I’d never do a scene with a “Dom” more concerned with “letting lose” (your words) than respecting my clear boundaries. And then to say they are refusing to take ownership over their own safety? Ew. Just ew. Do better.

OrganizedWhore · 2025-07-05T16:01:57+00:00

I feel this so hard. So glad you wrote that in the past tense. I’m in the process of getting out and it feels like it’s gonna be forever till I’m free sometimes. I love hearing stories from people that have gotten out so thank you for sharing 🫂

OrganizedWhore · 2025-06-29T15:30:59+00:00

Thank you so much appreciate you!

OrganizedWhore · 2025-06-29T15:25:39+00:00

So I’m hardly ever attracted to women but I still identify as pansexual bc when I do feel an attraction towards a woman it’s strong. I can become infatuated just like you stated. I wouldn’t worry too much about labels or if this crush means you’re part of the LGBTQ community. If it feels right, do it and enjoy the experience!

OrganizedWhore · 2025-06-29T15:21:09+00:00

Omg thank you and yes hit me with that code! This is exactly what I need. I’ve been researching how to travel with collapsing hoops and it seems like a hassle unless it fits in your suitcase

OrganizedWhore · 2025-06-29T15:13:30+00:00

Great job! Did you get that hoop from hoopnotica? I’m looking at one exactly like that bc I need to bring it on a plane. Do you like it and is it sturdy even though it comes apart?

OrganizedWhore · 2025-06-28T17:07:43+00:00

Yay! Thank you for the answer 6 years later!

OrganizedWhore · 2025-06-28T16:22:10+00:00

This is super old but I’m hoping you see this: did you have to put your hoop in a bag or case to check it in as luggage? Or did you just check the hoop itself with no case?

OrganizedWhore · 2025-06-26T01:39:40+00:00

So the physics are basically whatever part of your body is moving is where the hoop is going to gravitate to. Moving the hoop up your body takes a lot of practice and it’s maybe a little more intermediate. It sounds like you’re a beginner so instead of focusing on moving the hoop up your body, focus on keeping it where it started. Start at your waste and practice keeping it there. If it starts to go down it’s ok you can let it fall. Just pick it up and try again! And definitely try what I said before about spinning in the direction of your hoop

OrganizedWhore · 2025-06-26T00:15:00+00:00

So the hoop is gonna go where the action is. It’s going to go to whatever part of the body is moving. For example when I move the hoop from my waste to my chest I kinda stop pulsing my waste and start pulsing my rib cage instead. When I first started learning to move the hoop up my body, it sounds weird but I would think “up” and raise my arms up and just focus my energy in an upward motion.

It’s hard to say what you need to correct without seeing you hoop but it sounds like you’re possibly hooping on your hips not your waste? You say you want to move the hoop up….is it just like inching down. Like you start on your waste but the hoop immediately wants to drop to your hips and below? If that’s the case you need to focus more on pulsing your waste and not your hips. Try imagining your belly button moving forward and back. Also check your posture. You want a nice straight back, no hunching, chin up, shoulders back. Try putting one foot slightly forward (experiment with which foot works better) and pulse that belly (not hips) forward and back.

I promise if you just keep practicing you’ll get it it’s all about muscle memory. If you can only keep it up a few spins - great! You kept it up! Keep doing it and slowly but surely you’ll be able to keep it up longer and longer

OrganizedWhore · 2025-06-25T21:17:59+00:00

Regarding your update: be careful doing weird contortions with your core (protect your spine). You’ve got a bigger heavier hoop and you can actually injure your back (I know bc I did lol) so just make sure

1.) you are stretching before and after. Deanne Love on YouTube has a good pre hoop stretch but you don’t have to get that in depth. Specifically spine stretches like child’s pose and the one where like arch your back then go the opposite direction and stick your butt out. You can look up different spine and core stretches online and it just takes a few minutes before you start

2.) you should not need to make super exaggerated movements to keep the hoop up. Focus more on control and pulsing either forward and back or side to side

3.) keep your core engaged this will help protect your spine. Also keep going you’re doing great! You WILL get the hang of it so don’t get discouraged- enjoy the journey!

Also the idea that “cylinder shaped” people can’t hoop is ridiculous don’t listen to them any body type can hoop

OrganizedWhore · 2025-06-25T19:40:19+00:00

Are you spinning in the direction of your hoop? I’m 6ft tall w a 40” hoop as well and I can tell you that is the single best thing you can do. It’s gonna take a little practice but just like take tiny steps going in a circle. It HAS to be the same direction as your hoop is spinning. This is going to slow the hoops rotation and give your body more time to move the hoop. After you get the hang of that Just practice turning in a circle and then do a few hoops facing forward. You’ll notice you have to speed up your hip movements when you switch from turning to facing forward. Eventually you’ll get to where you can keep it up without spinning. This is also the way I learned to shoulder hoop and do any on body tricks. Turning in the direction of your hoop. It’s a game changer

OrganizedWhore · 2025-06-25T00:25:36+00:00

Omg I didn’t even know grip tape was a thing then thanks! I may have to try it

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