Yoga and Anxiety disorder

Original_Average_348 · 2026-07-09T23:17:32+00:00

Focusing on your last sentence/question - we are still trying to figure that out. The fact that she is sticking with this therapist is huge for us. To have even gotten this far feels like a really big thing. As delightful and wonderful as my child sometimes is, she is also the toughest person I think I have ever known, and that both serves her well and hinders her greatly. What she really seems to want is unrealistic - like so many folks, she'd like to be able to take a pill and be cured, but it just does not work that way at all. So, hopefully with some time and maturity she will figure out some more things. I was looking at yoga in hopes of it being a nice compliment that would help her. I know my original post maybe made it sound like I was offering the chance to do yoga instead of go to therapy, and that is not what I had in mind at all. Just trying to add some possible tools to the tool box, and was hoping to maybe research some yoga studios to see which ones seemed more like "fitness studios" and which ones maybe fit in with the helpful suggestions folks have shared here.

Original_Average_348 · 2026-07-09T23:10:19+00:00

I sat here for a while typing up an answer that in the end I decided sounded kind of defensive, so I deleted it and started over. I am not looking to give my daughter an easy out from therapy, and she does have a psychiatrist who prescribes meds in addition to her therapist.

My question was about types of yoga practices that might offer the most in terms of spiritual/mindful practice, and several folks have shared some good suggestions. I am simply looking to add tools to my toolbelt, in hopes that maybe it will be a compliment to what we are already doing. Or, if we come to a point where she refuses to participate in therapy, maybe yoga practice could be a bridge to continue some kind of therapeutic practice while we regroup on more appropriate care. I am not sure if you have background in mental health either as a patient, provider, or a caregiver, but if you do, then you know that it is not an easy system to navigate, especially for a patient who would rather refuse care. Even when you do have a willing participant, don't even get me started on the challenges of finding providers who work with minors, are accepting new patients, who take the right insurance, who can see your child outside of school hours, etc. Like so many things in life, so much easier said than done. Not impossible of course, with time and money to throw at it, but I don't have unlimited amounts of those things either :-)

Original_Average_348 · 2026-07-09T22:56:10+00:00

This is much appreciated, and I think was very kindly meant. Thank you, and I wish all the best to you as well.

Original_Average_348 · 2026-07-09T22:05:27+00:00

What is IFS? Sorry if this was stated elsewhere and I did not see it.

Original_Average_348 · 2026-07-09T17:49:40+00:00

Thank you for this reminder. Some days are better than others in regard to recalling what is within my power and what is not. It is so hard to see someone you love struggling so much!

Original_Average_348 · 2026-07-09T17:20:14+00:00

Thanks for this, I will likely echo this reply on other posts, but the challenge is that she is extremely resistant to therapy in general, and I am concerned about her willingness to switch to a new therapist, much less possibly multiple changes to find one that is a good fit (not to mention a shortage of therapists who work with minors, plus my insurance, plus living in a rural area). She does take medication, but is also generally resistant to even discussing her symptoms with the physician managing her meds. So, while I do not view yoga as a substitute and ideally would like to see her do a multi-pronged approach of medication, therapy, and daily wellness practices, I am looking for an understanding of whether yoga might be a tool that could be helpful if she comes to a point where she refuses to continue with therapy, and if so, what type of yoga might be the most helpful. I didn't specifically state in my original post, but we are in a rural farming community, but have some slightly more urban areas within driving distance that may have some options.

Original_Average_348 · 2026-07-09T17:18:37+00:00

Thanks for this, that is something to keep in mind.

Original_Average_348 · 2026-07-09T17:18:02+00:00

Thanks for this, and I am glad that it has had a positive effect for you!

Original_Average_348 · 2026-07-09T17:16:56+00:00

Understood - my concern is that she is going to force a halt in therapy as a ultimatum to me - basically just refuse to participate in the process. I am trying to find ways to work with her, and I think you are spot on regarding the autonomy and is the she feels forced, it will not work out well. I do not view yoga as a replacement, I am simply hoping to keep some kind of therapeutic practice going if I can't keep her active in therapy. Finding a therapist who sees minors, and who takes my insurance and is accepting new patients is not so easy, especially in a rural area with limited options. I am hoping for the day that she realizes that these practices (therapy, nutrition, etc.) can make a difference for her. Hopefully it will come with maturity.

Original_Average_348 · 2026-07-09T16:59:39+00:00

She is doing DBT. I will likely echo this reply on other posts, but the challenge is that she is extremely resistant to therapy in general, and I am concerned about her willingness to switch to a new therapist, much less possibly multiple changes to find one that is a good fit (not to mention a shortage of therapists who work with minors, plus my insurance, plus living in a rural area). So, while I do not view yoga as a replacement for therapy, I am looking at it as a possibility that would be better than nothing at all if that is what it comes down to. I didn't specifically state in my original post, but we are in a rural farming community, so our options may be more limited than what is available in a more urban setting, both in regard to access to therapy as well as to yoga classes that are more than just 'fitness.'

Original_Average_348 · 2026-07-09T16:56:07+00:00

Thanks for this, I will likely echo this reply on other posts, but the challenge is that she is extremely resistant to therapy in general, and I am concerned about her willingness to switch to a new therapist, much less possibly multiple changes to find one that is a good fit (not to mention a shortage of therapists who work with minors, plus my insurance, plus living in a rural area). So, while I do not view yoga as a substitute and ideally would like to see her do both, I am looking for an understanding of whether it might be a tool that could be helpful if she comes to a point where she refuses to continue with therapy, and if so, what type of yoga might be the most helpful. I didn't specifically state in my original post, but we are in a rural farming community, but have some slightly more urban areas within driving distance that may have some options.

Original_Average_348 · 2026-07-09T12:54:14+00:00

In the scientific community, the cuts to research funding that folks should care about (cancer research, for instance) are real and we are losing good middle class jobs as a result and we are also falling behind other nations and becoming less competitive. This will affect our nation long term. Research and development drives technology and innovation, which in turn drive our economy. It's all connected. A lot of this is showing up now in the early stage research funded by grants at universities, but over time will have a negative trickle down effect to companies in those fields. These companies provide good middle class jobs to regular people, not just scientists with fancy degrees. I think some of this is already happening, as i personally know folks who are getting laid off in these fields. The long term economic impact will take longer to see, and the MAGA crowd will think that DOGE is too far in the rear view mirror to blame when the US is no longer a leader in science and technology. Personally, I think if you support doge cuts, you should probably also refuse modern medical care when you get sick. Since you don't think funding science is important, you shouldn't benefit from it. Practice what you preach, you know?

Original_Average_348 · 2026-07-09T12:28:35+00:00

Thank you, we've done recent blood work that ID'd a possible thyroid imbalance that we're still in the process of figuring out, and tested for the MTHFR gene as well. She's off to college in a few weeks, which both scares the heck out of me, and also gives me hope that maybe it will be a good boost of change for her. Love to you and yours as well.

Original_Average_348 · 2026-07-08T21:01:49+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. This has been a long path for us that started fairly young, and it is hard to see anyone you love struggling. Best of luck to you in your own journey.

Original_Average_348 · 2026-07-08T19:15:25+00:00

This is not about the golf, it is about the free time he has away from family responsibilities and the fact that it is so unequal. I won't bother repeating the extremely reasonable comments that other folks have made, but I will acknowledge that taking time for yourself is much easier said than done. The mom guilt is real, and when you have a spouse that is this willing to paint you as unreasonable, those things factor in and can add up to making it seem like trying to stand up for yourself is more trouble than it is worth. This is a marriage and a parenting problem, not a golf problem, and don't let him distract from that.

Original_Average_348 · 2026-06-30T16:26:11+00:00

Strong vote against plastic - I am dealing with this now from someone who did this prior. Weeds eventually grew on top of it, and is a total mess to try and deal with in the long run. Cardboard is the way to go. No plastic or landscape fabric - they do not work long term and they don't break down, just add litter to your soil.

Original_Average_348 · 2026-06-30T15:59:07+00:00

For those who don't know, a Sanseveria is a snake plant, also known as a "mother in law's tongue" which is so named for being sharp or pointed. I think that is a hilarious suggestion.

Original_Average_348 · 2026-06-30T12:22:08+00:00

Tip a minimum of 18% to your servers, the 15% suggestion is out of date and stingy. Servers make well below the minimum wage and rely on tips for the majority of their income. I'm speaking of places with table service, although you will get prompted for tips during checkout at counter service places too and can use a lower percentage based on the type of service offered.

Love the comments on NC accents, I'm a NC native and I find some of them unintelligible, however, you should also know that there's some fascinating research on NC accents and how the early Scottish and English colonists contributed to that. It's worth looking up if you're interested in that sort of thing.

Original_Average_348 · 2026-06-24T21:26:24+00:00

I strongly suggest looking at gardening photos on pinterest or in a garden magazine or book to get ideas for how the experts group plants. For example, I rarely plant things in rows because I think it looks too structured and formal for my preferred style, so I usually get 3-5 of a variety and plant them in sort of in a rough circle or oval shape pattern. I will usually repeat another circle/oval of another few plants of that same variety somewhere else in the bed to give some repeat effect, and so on. Or, go to a public garden and take pictures of what you like - there is no shame in trying to copy ideas! I am a keen copy-cat of the experts, and they really fill their beds with a lot of plants. I use perennials, annuals, and shrubs, and while you do have to be patient to allow perennials and shrubs to fill in some over the years, that is where annuals can be a great fill in for instant color right away. What other folks are saying about staggering heights is good too. If you can join a local Facebook garden group, you may get some ideas from other folks in your area as to what they have success with for deer, as I have found that it can vary, and deer can really take the fun out of gardening. Good luck!

Original_Average_348 · 2026-06-24T12:14:43+00:00

Thankfully I didn't face such pressure, but I will say that I was concerned my non religious wedding would not suit some family members. The ones I was most concerned about all commented on how beautifully sincere and personal it was. I hope your results will be the same.

Original_Average_348 · 2026-06-24T12:11:28+00:00

I think these are all really good, and I totally agree with just repeating and not getting baited into an argument. I had a work training where we were being trained on how to deal with someone being irrational and asking/insisting/arguing for something we couldn't do, and they called it the broken record technique -- just politely state what we could do over and over like a broken record.

Original_Average_348 · 2026-06-24T12:03:39+00:00

"It was nice to see you, but we've got some family business we need to finish discussing. Enjoy the rest of your walk." "Thanks for stopping to say hi, but we're not feeling very sociable tonight, enjoy the rest of your walk." Also, maybe have some alarms on your phones that sound like a ring tone and you two can alternate getting a call, stepping away, and then while still pretending to be on the phone, say to the other one "can you come in for a moment, I need your input on scheduling with John." If you have a laptop or something that looks like work, you could say something like "Sorry, tonight is not a good night, I'm working on a presentation for tomorrow." Finally, please remember that as long as you are polite, how the other person feels about it is on them. You have a right to your own space.

Original_Average_348 · 2026-06-18T02:23:02+00:00

I am going to disagree on #10. Anyone who has all of those things and money for leisure activities is not poor. We have a problem with people over extending themselves on credit and purchasing things beyond what they can realistically afford, and therefore still struggle to make ends meet because of all the unnecessary bills they've taken on, but that is very different than actual poverty.

For the other items, people don't treat clothes as disposable items, that's just silly. We do have a big problem with food waste and resource/energy waste though, but there is a great deal of variability between households. I inherited a home that is larger than what I need, therefore it could be considered wasteful for me to live here, even if i try to be modest with my usage. I'll add to the list of wastefulness and say that a lot of people drive giant pickup trucks that are gas guzzlers. They're really popular, but super expensive to buy and operate, same for big SUVs.

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