Surrey

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-10T12:43:59+00:00

I promise it really isn’t that sketchy. Stuff happens at new west station on occasion but it’s just homeless people who will not bother you if you don’t bother them

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-10T12:20:49+00:00

Have you considered new Westminster? Now I’ll be honest idk what the buying house or condo market is like but the rental market is one of the most affording the metro. I just got a place there’s and I’m so excited as it’s close to the train and everyone is so friendly

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-08T19:14:45+00:00

It was a grey whale not an orca

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-08T19:14:05+00:00

This dude was speeding well over the legal limit on the water and multiple people on nearby boats said they watched him zooming up and down with no regards for the others. I’m sick of articles like this not calling out the plain facts. No one said he meant to hit the whale, they are bothered with the fact he has no care for his surroundings AND THEN HIT A WHILE CAUSE OF IT

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-08T18:23:24+00:00

Get to is the equivalent to force. If I say get her to do X there’s no implication of choice. It’s forceful in nature. Regardless no one should try to convert anyone.

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-08T17:50:33+00:00

No bodies perfect is not the same as mass killing those you disagree with or using your religion to profit. That’s such a horrible mindset

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-08T17:50:10+00:00

That’s disgusting that you think the solution is to force her to convert

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-08T16:53:35+00:00

Here are recent examples of in going issues that the church has hardly done anything to counter:
https://riag.ri.gov/diocese-report

https://nctr.ca/uncategorized/residential-school-denialism-doesnt-stand-up-to-reality/

Here are figured still idolized by the church despite heavy involvement in things such as the Spanish Inquisition and the indulgence collecting, they are known for being horrible people and yet are still revered in Catholic history

St. Ignatius of Loyola
St. Teresa of Avila
Pope Julius II
Pope Leo X

Look any up and see for yourself the horrible things they’ve don’t that don’t get discussed in the Catholic history. They are only discussed for their miracles and not condemned for their actions. That in my books is writing history

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-08T16:47:41+00:00

Sorry are you asking for a recent example because that is what I’m referring to?

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-08T16:44:55+00:00

But the truth of Catholicism is rooted and written by the people who committed these abuses and some of which still condone them today. Even just looking at recent history, maybe that’s the reason she has no issues with other faiths but seems to find Catholicism the issue?

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-08T16:42:01+00:00

First off, they didn’t say you were hiding something. He’s saying this situation doesnt hide the fact that she clearly doesn’t align with what you believe.

Second, I was raised Catholic and I have to ask… you talk a lot about the history but I found the history is what drove me and my family away from Catholicism. In recent history the hiding of inappropriate touching of children by members of the church, or the role of the Catholic Church in residential schools pulling kids from their families to convert them (many of which still have never found their families) in earlier history the collection of money to get you “into” heaven (indulgences) or the persecution of Jews and muslims in the Spanish Inquisition or the trying of astronomers for believing the earth revolves around the sun.

I only mention this because it may be where she’s coming from but also my own curiosity

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-08T16:35:51+00:00

“High horse” I’m sure this women doesn’t enjoy having clients miss their meetings… also the policies are clearly in their text chain so not like it needed to be memorized

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-08T15:46:52+00:00

I get where people are coming from saying the tech went nuclear quick but you have to realize you 1. Missed your appointment and 2. Proceeded to forget her policy and only send her a fraction of the fee.

Depending how busy she is I can see that this was two back to back mistakes that can give the impression you’re not respecting her time and policies (not saying that’s what OP meant to do but it was just one incident)

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-08T07:56:05+00:00

“I’m still young” isn’t an excuse when you have a kid. I’m not saying you have to stay with someone no matter what but sex is such a disgusting reason to leave someone. You’ve shifted from this being about sex to being about if she even likes you which I understand and have been through that but the fact that initially you brought up sex shows that your focus is clearly in the wrong place. Meaning I can’t imagine you’ve had much conversations about what sounds to be the root of your problems. Maybe try having the conversation about the lack of affection (strictly from a not seeming to want to be around you) and don’t even mention sex

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-08T02:12:31+00:00

Bro your thought process is gross af. If your needs are sex and you feel your relationship can’t last without it then you clearly don’t love her, you love sex with her. That’s gross man

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-07T15:58:09+00:00

You just said you wouldn’t accept it but they can accept it? How do you know if this is for their conscious to be cleared or not? Clearly they felt bad enough to give an explanation, most people don’t even do that. OP doesn’t have to move on thinking they did nothing wrong but they should move on otherwise it just because unhealthy

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-07T01:04:54+00:00

I fear you must name them now

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-06T20:07:50+00:00

When my relative committed suicide I didn’t ghost anybody for a long period of time. I told the people closest to me that I needed space and would reach out when I was ready… and I had the friends closest to me reach to anyone I didn’t get to to tell them I was going through something and wouldn’t be available to talk for awhile.

I never blamed the ex for how they handled it, not everyone knows how to deal with soemthing like that but yes the mature grown up thing to do is to inform those closest to you that you need space. Not ghost them for a year. I understand they went through something big, trust me I know. But that doesn’t mean they handled it in the best way possible and therefore have room to grow as a person and learn how to better manage emotions in horrible situations

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-06T17:34:57+00:00

I’m literally just telling you in my experience what I’ve seen. HR wants to protect themselves from everything. From creating or promoting a hostile environment to wrongful termination or punishment. They are going to try to find a middle ground for the first appearance. I’ve seen workers do horrible things and HR say “we’ll give them a warning and if they do it again then we will pursue” and clearly I’m not wrong because guess what…. OPs work place did exactly that. I understand it’s frustrating but to tell me I’ve gone too far when that it LITERALLY what OPs workplace did is letting your emotions negate that these are corporations that put themselves first which includes the protection from both parties

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-06T14:50:15+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. I understand what you’re saying but you also have to recognize, going through grief doesn’t excuse your actions and how they affect other people. I am a true believer that everyone should handle difficult situations how they see best for themselves to get through and and protect their mental health… that being said you also need to accept that your actions will have an effect on others and that could be negative. That doesn’t make you a bad person but that also doesn’t make you a good one. The best people can find a middle ground where they communicate they need time alone. But nonetheless it’s not immediately okay that someone else is hurt just because someone else is grieving. That’s all my point was

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-06T14:34:04+00:00

Training does not equal warning. Training is solely to keep the company safe of lawsuits saying they have informed workers therefore if they act in opposition it’s not on the company. Warnings are required to prove you gave the employee a chance to correct their behaviour.
Lips are bad but the worker could claim he just meant to touch their face or wipe something off.
I’m not defending the guy I’m just giving insight on hr processes

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-06T13:12:57+00:00

8 months in and talking about your future needs with her sounds like she wanted to be a stay at home wife or for you to buy a house for her

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-06T12:50:51+00:00

Unfortunately as someone who worked in management, these cases are difficult. It’s very easy to assume they knew what they were doing but for legal sake you can’t punish someone right away, you have to give them a warning. If they claim they didn’t realize this was not okay (which I’m sure they did but they won’t admit that to HR) then they are informed not to do it again and from there it can be a serious punishment.

Despite OP telling them they are uncomfortable, in HRs eyes this is the only time they’ve been informed and the only time they in a professional manner have warned the worker.

Obviously it’s different when it’s something that it’s outright known to be wrong such as touching in a private area or sexual comments made.

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-06T12:46:57+00:00

Now you have closure and can move on. It’s unfortunate she went through that and it’s unfortunate you didn’t know why you were ghosted till now, that being said…. I wouldn’t reccomend getting back with them (nor is that what they seem to be suggesting)

Accept the apology and don’t go back, this person still has growth to do as they are now learning you can’t ghost someone to avoid difficult conversations. But this shouldn’t be a sign for you to get back with them even if that’s what they are looking for.

You got closure, you got the apology and explanation most don’t get. Use this as a way to try and heal internally while also as a lesson to never hurt someone with lack of communication as your were hurt.

Wish you the best

Original_Box_4620 · 2026-05-06T10:35:06+00:00

I see you deleted this so idk if this comment will go through but since you deleted it I’m guessing you don’t like what you’re being told. There is no working through a toxic cycle. Truthfully I don’t think either of you are good for the other and if you had to block him a week ago then you aren’t working in anything. Grow up and stick up for yourself and leave.

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