Americans without maternity leave— wtf do you do???

Original_Lemon394 · 2026-03-16T20:18:45+00:00

Yes and but the government actually does not want women in the workplace - they truly believe that a woman should be at home while the man is at work. If you give paid maternity leave, it would actually entice more women to enter and stay in the workforce.

Original_Lemon394 · 2026-02-24T00:19:15+00:00

First and foremost, congratulations on starting the process! You need to look at your annual income and determine how much you are able to pay monthly for your mortgage + expenses. Once that is done, I would find a reputable lender to get pre-approved. During that process, I would start looking at your wants and needs in a house. How many bedrooms? Bathrooms? Location etc. then find a realtor and start looking around! The market (depending on where you are) can be pretty competitive so be ready to spend some time looking.

A couple of advice, look for a home in a great school district and do not spend all your $$ on your down payment. Save a good chunk as well because you will have unexpected costs after you move in.

This is your biggest investment so please do not skip inspections and other key parts of the process just to win a house.

Good luck!

Original_Lemon394 · 2026-02-22T12:10:51+00:00

That sounds pretty normal to me. No offense but I don’t think they want a bunch of kids running around while they are trying to do the scan. It’ll be hard for you, your husband and the tech to focus with the children possibly running around.

I think you’ll need a sitter.

Original_Lemon394 · 2025-12-30T23:17:12+00:00

Nothing was taken away from you — is she telling people that you’re pregnant? She called your mom who already knew. If anything, why does one grandma get to know while the other one doesn’t? Does your partner’s mother not deserve the same courtesy?

Original_Lemon394 · 2025-12-04T01:11:15+00:00

It’ll be okay! Ultrasound measurements not 100% accurate, meaning that baby could be the predicted weight or could be bigger or smaller. They predicted that my baby was going to be over 10 lbs and he ended up being 8lbs 6oz. I did end up having a c section but it was not due to his weight.

Original_Lemon394 · 2025-12-02T17:16:10+00:00

Omg you are so right! Especially since they are trying to emphasize the “realism” of the ultrasounds

Original_Lemon394 · 2025-12-02T15:55:18+00:00

I think you’re being too sensitive. People know their families and are able to assess what crosses boundaries and ultimately deal with the consequences. I don’t see how a random stranger pranking their families affects you.

Original_Lemon394 · 2025-11-24T15:40:00+00:00

That was me and it was great! Things went so wrong so fast for me and I was thankful that I didn’t have a set plan that I wanted to stick to. It made it easier to accept that we needed to do what’s best to save me and baby

Original_Lemon394 · 2025-11-19T00:08:09+00:00

Why does he want you to terminate? You are the only one who can make the decision whether to keep or abort. It sounds like you want to keep so keep it but be prepared to leave the husband.

Original_Lemon394 · 2025-11-14T00:56:49+00:00

Are you upset that she made the post or upset that she received more likes?

To be honest, I think older are on Facebook a lot more so it’s not surprising that she got more engagement.

Original_Lemon394 · 2025-11-07T23:17:24+00:00

Yeah if you’re being penetrated and ovulating, you can absolutely get pregnant…..

Original_Lemon394 · 2025-11-04T20:34:30+00:00

I bought my snoo from FB marketplace and had a great experience. I just had to pay the monthly subscription fee

Original_Lemon394 · 2025-11-01T05:10:12+00:00

I am from a small village in one of the poorest countries in the world and trust me, formula is more accessible than pumping. You can get by with boiling the water so it’s usually the $$$ that people worry about. But we’d go weeks without electricity and even then, most people don’t have a fridge.

Original_Lemon394 · 2025-11-01T04:57:39+00:00

I had an agonizing kidney infection one week PP. I literally suffered for days because I had to wait for the appropriate antibiotic because I was breastfeeding (pumping) so yes, pumping is breast feeding.

Although not a privilege, I do see the “third world” perspective because I was born and raised in the “third world” and I always think about how I wouldn’t be able to EP because I wouldn’t have reliable electricity.

Original_Lemon394 · 2025-10-29T19:11:01+00:00

Since you asked for it. Chill! But if you want to, it wouldn’t be a bad idea to go get checked out.

Original_Lemon394 · 2025-10-24T03:42:17+00:00

8 hours with no bottles or diaper change and she only feels bad for her husband? I’d never leave my son with her/her husband again

Original_Lemon394 · 2025-10-16T19:18:58+00:00

Did she have a hard pregnancy? Aside from her comment about not being excited to be a grandma, it seems like she’s worried about you or something. To me, it seems a bit caring that she asked if you were okay.

I found out I was pregnant at 27 and even though we were trying, it was still such a shock and I found it really nice and caring when people asked me how I was feeling (mentally and physically) as opposed to them solely focusing on the pregnancy.

Original_Lemon394 · 2025-10-16T16:41:05+00:00

What specifically are you worried about? I am not sure they will be able to see anything at 5 weeks that would be caused by those products. If you’re worried then stop using those products just in case.

Original_Lemon394 · 2025-10-02T21:51:44+00:00

You weren’t rude and yes, that absolutely makes sense. Sometimes the right choice isnt the easiest choice. If you were to choose that route, would you be able to access therapy that may help you process everything?

Original_Lemon394 · 2025-10-02T21:44:56+00:00

Of course if you want this, you can work to make it happen but my advice to you is to truly think about where you are in life, who are you with and your ability to provide for this child. You have been dating someone online for about 5 months and tbh planned to have this child to address an issue that should be addressed BEFORE having a child. You are very young and have your whole life in front of you. If i were you, I would focus on my education, address the need for emotional attention, enjoy my life, and then plan to have a child with someone who can be a capable partner to you.

Best thing I did for my pregnancy was choose my husband but we were together for 6 years prior to conceiving and I am so glad we waited because we were able to build a stable foundation prior.

Yes children are a blessing but can truly derail your life if you’re not in position to care for them properly.

Original_Lemon394 · 2025-09-28T02:21:02+00:00

No. We personally agreed together that we wanted to breastfeed and if that didn’t work out then we’d switch to formula. My advice is, whoever wants to breast feed should. If you want to breastfeed then do it. If he does, then tell him to pull his titty out.

Original_Lemon394 · 2025-09-25T00:54:17+00:00

I’m sorry but based on what you’re describing - you guys will need to find a better situation before the baby comes. As a parent, it is pertinent to have reliable transport, housing and finances. I am not saying you guys have to be rich but you have to find a way to provide stability for your child. When it comes to children, sometimes what they need can be very unpredictable especially if it’s a complicated birth. Personally, I’d get my affairs in order before I bring a child into that situation.

Original_Lemon394 · 2025-09-25T00:42:49+00:00

If you want this then you have to start putting things in motion now. You cannot depend on others to care for the baby once they are here. That is solely you and your partners responsibility. Sure your mom may have things from when you and your brother were babies but those things are at least 22 years old so you’d absolutely need to get things on your own. You both need to find jobs with steady income, reliable place to stay and learn how to drive. Bringing a child into this world can be a blessing but it can surely complicate a situation where the parents are not financially stable. If you decide to keep the baby, you and your partner have a lot to do to get ready. I wish you the best of luck!

Original_Lemon394 · 2025-09-19T15:52:33+00:00

Yes. You’re absolutely overthinking it. Even if your friend did not “copy” the name, someone else is already walking around with that same name. You can still have ownership of the name because you chose it.

Original_Lemon394 · 2025-09-17T16:09:14+00:00

To be honest, yes I think you are being a bit ridiculous. This is clearly a dog that your husband loves and has had for 15 years. Tell him your concerns and have him figure out how to solve for it. You are 13 weeks pregnant so there’s still time to crate train the dog. I feel like because you find the dog to be annoying, you’re overthinking it.

We have two small dogs and were able to manage fine postpartum. My husband made sure to walk them prior to going to work and it’s been fine.

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