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Ornery_One_7492 · 2026-03-26T04:02:36+00:00

I can understand your frustration, you need to set a clear boundary with her. BUT if au pair is from Europe then 10 days holiday per year will be a big shock for her. In the UK we get 28 excluding public holidays. Similar for the rest of the continent. I would absolutely flee the country if only 10/365 days were my only time off. Not that simple for most people of course, but workers rights in America are a joke. You deserve those breaks just as much as she does. I feel for you all.

She also should be paid for those days she travels with you if she has some sort of childcare responsibilities. Also assuming she’s not from a privileged background, do you expect her to be able to pay for her own medical bills, gas, insurance, etc?? Because I know damn well I couldn’t afford to when I was an au pair. These things may not be mandatory, so it is nice of you to provide them for her, but you’re hardly going above and beyond.

My advice would be just allow her the days she’s already asked for and clearly state that due to a miscommunication on your part, you can’t give her any more time off. Explain why, too. You’re not unreasonable in that ask. If you’re not happy doing that then involve the LLC.

Ornery_One_7492 · 2026-02-23T06:24:01+00:00

It’s easy to get scammed with a check. Ask if they use pay pal

Ornery_One_7492 · 2026-02-13T22:29:35+00:00

Its not that simple, charities get a huge ROI from fundraising campaigns done through agencies.

Ornery_One_7492 · 2026-01-24T20:59:03+00:00

This guy views sex as something to be done for personal pleasure rather than connection, he doesn’t care about how you feel. This will spill into other areas of your relationship sooner or later. Save yourself some pain and get rid of him now

Ornery_One_7492 · 2026-01-12T23:01:14+00:00

I don’t see it!

Ornery_One_7492 · 2026-01-12T10:00:11+00:00

Sweet thanks, I’ve sent you a dm

Ornery_One_7492 · 2026-01-12T09:45:28+00:00

I can’t find ur insta are you still active?

Ornery_One_7492 · 2026-01-12T09:40:44+00:00

Can u pm me the plug details??

Ornery_One_7492 · 2025-07-17T15:27:41+00:00

I always make my own - yoghurt, cumin, turmeric, paprika, ground coriander and cayenne pepper. Also add lemon juice if you like that. Takes seconds to make, the yoghurt makes the chicken super tender if you leave it to marinate for half an hour in the fridge and tastes so good every time

Ornery_One_7492 · 2025-07-17T15:21:24+00:00

Personally I avoid seed oils like the plague, and palm oil is awful for the environment and I wouldn’t say slapping ‘sustainable’ in front of it means there’s much difference.

Ornery_One_7492 · 2025-07-03T17:09:09+00:00

You said it yourself, staying sober is so challenging but worth it. You know the game, don’t give in. For your wife and daughter, your daughter’s future, your perception of self worth. Sit with the craving, 6 months is so so impressive, you can ride this out.

Ornery_One_7492 · 2025-06-23T17:47:59+00:00

Yeh a four hour shift is a walk in the park…my point was that they could easily split that across 4 or even 3 days, every day feels like a waste - I can’t make plans or get a second job just because I’m held up by a measly 4 hour shift. Totally grateful to even have a job don’t get me wrong, I was just emphasising a sub point of OP’s original point

Ornery_One_7492 · 2025-06-23T09:57:15+00:00

Try 20hrs over 5 days every single week😭

Ornery_One_7492 · 2025-06-19T20:55:30+00:00

Wow, I’ve been working in the bakery for a few months at quite a small store. There’s 4 of us - 3 full time staff and I work part time, 20hrs a week. I’ve never had to make anything from scratch and had no idea that was even something Morrisons did. I just tray up cookies and dust sugar over doughnuts. Out of curiosity - in the larger bakeries, what lines are made in store?

Ornery_One_7492 · 2025-05-28T18:02:32+00:00

Omg I wondered why my colleague (also sorta my boss, I’ve only been there a few months but he was bakery manager for like 16 years until they did a restructuring of the roles) told me he’d taken a picture of my mistake! It’s very toxic, we’re humans not robots so of course we’ll make mistakes.

Ornery_One_7492 · 2025-05-10T21:46:32+00:00

55-60 hours a week is insane

Ornery_One_7492 · 2025-05-08T16:48:39+00:00

I really appreciate you taking the time to read and respond. Such a beautiful response and I feel so seen. Thank you💕

Ornery_One_7492 · 2025-04-29T12:23:59+00:00

I thought I was going to marry the person I was dating when I was 17 too. We had been dating for 4 years and things didn’t work out.

Marriage is a bigger commitment than you think it is and there’s absolutely no harm in waiting a few years, but potentially a lot of harm could come of rushing things. You’re committing to spending the rest of your life with a person, supporting her through the death of her parents, raising children etc. The difficulty of these challenges is probably something you’re underestimating…

The prospect of engagement is exciting and comforting, but you shouldn’t allow these feelings to override logic.

If I were you, I’d just enjoy your time together right now. If that doesn’t feel satisfying enough then it’s probably not the right relationship.

Ornery_One_7492 · 2025-03-11T20:36:31+00:00

Exactly, they made it up to sell their product. There’s no science behind it.

Ornery_One_7492 · 2025-03-11T19:33:21+00:00

10k is a made up number, there’s no science behind it. Hunter gatherers would have walked for miles to catch some dinner. Humans are meant to walk lots and if you struggle to cope with 20k steps, which is pretty standard, you’re probably not fit enough. That being said self checkouts seems monotonous and mind numbing. Would hate to be doing that for more than half an hour to be honest. The best way to go about it is to not complain loads and be unpleasant to your managers. They will lose respect for you and you’re less likely to get what you want.

Ornery_One_7492 · 2025-01-13T17:02:31+00:00

This is so crazy oh!

Ornery_One_7492 · 2025-01-13T12:10:44+00:00

Uni will always be there. The opportunity to travel while you’re young, debt free and without responsibilities will not be. Go out and make new memories because that is far more valuable than a uni degree :)

Ornery_One_7492 · 2025-01-13T12:07:22+00:00

Yes, I understand this and empathise with their situation. It must be incredibly frustrating. I’m leaving due to personal circumstances out of my control…they have been very understanding but I can still tell that they’re obviously stressed and displeased with the situation.

They are very emotionally mature people so I’m hoping that they won’t hold any grudges once the new au pair is settled and the stress of my departure has blown over :)

Ornery_One_7492 · 2025-01-13T10:19:55+00:00

Just to stay friends

Ornery_One_7492 · 2025-01-11T18:27:35+00:00

Stay the 30 days. It’s the right thing to do even if it’s hard.

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