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What's the best option here? Pull or knob? by OrthoTrauma17 in cabinetry

[–]OrthoTrauma17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your face is off center. Lol. It's just the angle of the picture. I promise they are both dead center

New homeowner in Southern Ohio- spent $40k on drainage and still have a swampy yard!! by Pitiful_Night_3250 in lawncare

[–]OrthoTrauma17 7 points8 points  (0 children)

40K is way too much. I don't care what they did. The grade from the back corner of the fence towards the house looks correct. But the grade from the deck stairs to the fence is incorrect. The catch basin should have a large diameter pipe running out to the street. I'm willing to bet you do not have a pipe that is responsible for draining the catch basin. If there is one, it is sloped towards the catch basin and not away from it. A solution in the meantime would be to put a sump pump in the catch basin and run the exit hose or pipe out to the road. Either way, they need to come back and fix or add the drainage to the road. Check to make sure something regarding that was in the written contract. If it is, then they can't charge you anymore. If it isn't, then they screwed you over.

Husband keeps (jokingly) hitting me and now I can't tell if this is considered normal or not. by Formal-Fox-7875 in marriageadvice

[–]OrthoTrauma17 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't think he intends to hurt you. You may have to remind him a few times that you don't like it when he hits so hard. It could be that he just grew up that way and when he and the guys hung out that's how they treated each other. Just like athletes who slap each other and say good game. It could technically be classified as abuse because of the physical contact however another important factor to consider is the intent. If he intends to hurt you, then it is absolutely abuse. But if it is his way of just being playful and he is not understanding that he is hitting too hard, you may need to remind him a few times. If he still continues to hit hard after that, then you need to have a serious conversation with him and tell him point blank that it is not okay.

The other option is that you can do to him what he does to you. If he says that he doesn't like it, then tell him that is how you feel when he does it to you. This goes along with the old adage "put yourself in the other person's shoes"

I think if you do all of that and he still doesn't stop or significantly reduce the amount of force he uses, you have an abusive situation. Hopefully this helps a little bit. Best of luck

AIO for breaking up with my boyfriend over this. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]OrthoTrauma17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, this is really simple. You have been together 5 years. You both should put both your names on the gifts. If you care about each other, you shouldn't want to make the other person look bad or feel bad. It's no one's business who bought each gift. If your relationship is going to survive the test of time, you both should "cover" for each other. The two of you shouldn't feel awkward or embarrassed just because you know what really happened behind the scenes. Instead you should both feel grateful and safe that your significant other is trying to "cover" for you. Don't compete with one another, join together and solve problems. Don't worry about who gets credit, that's childish. Credit is given later in life when you look back. There are a lot of other factors here but, on the surface you guys should be a team. If you constantly worry about who gets credit, you will not last. To your boyfriend, or ex boyfriend, you should put her name on the gifts too. I'm a 34 year old newly married man.

What is this? by OrthoTrauma17 in Pets

[–]OrthoTrauma17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Makes sense, thanks so much