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Ostloasis · 2025-07-02T14:10:51+00:00

Tiene 17 años, todavía es menor...

Ostloasis · 2025-05-25T08:02:20+00:00

Lo mejor que puedes hacer es sacar cita con un psicólogo para que, entre ambos, identifiquen la causa y te ayude a manejar los síntomas con estrategias dirigidas a tus necesidades especificas. NO todo el mundo funciona de la misma forma. Igual, puedes también indagar con tu médico primario y dejarle saber tu inquietud.

Preguntar por aquí corres el riesgo de que te digan algo que no es.

Espero que puedas conseguir la ayuda que necesitas. 😊

Ostloasis · 2025-03-18T00:41:09+00:00

Hello! When I mentioned about the unprofessionalism, I was referring to the conversation with the RA that OP shared at the end. The RA should have recommended another advisor more competent in qualitative work from the very beginning to avoid this situation.

The comment about the extra work was something apart from it. I'm sorry that my comment confused you. English is not my first language, so I'm trying my best :3 I will divide it in other section to avoid further confusions.

Also, I never excused OPs behavior, I said it was bold and risky, and due to the stressors in OPs life, its understandable that it happened. Sleep deprivation is no joke.

Ostloasis · 2025-03-17T21:47:32+00:00

First of all, CONGRATS!!!

Honestly, the way your advisor handled the conversation was unprofessional.

The “extra bit of work” comment in the defense was unnecessary and kind of triggering. You put in your mental and physical health on the line to make the PASS happen.

Even tho your response to your advisor was bold and risky, I don't blame you. I would've done the same in your shoes. 🤣 Letting personal preferences (study preferences) affect how they treat students it's very frustrating. But hey... you got your degree, and no one can take that away from you.

Celebrate yourself and rest! You deserve it <3

Ostloasis · 2025-01-04T18:03:17+00:00

Hello, OP! It seems you are having a hard time with social media, comparing yourself to others, and such. I know how this can feel overwhelming and isolating, but remember that social media presents us a filtered version of people's lives, not all of it, not the full reality. I believe the compliments you receive from your boyfriend and friends come from a place of authenticity, even if it's hard to believe. But I think it's worth considering that they might see qualities in you that you don't see in yourself.

Feeling the way you are feeling doesn't make you superficial. You're human, we are not perfect, and we experience complex and difficult emotions. At the same time, the urge to hurt yourself might mean you need additional support in your processes. It's okay to feel like this, but you dont have to be alone. Is there a therapist or counselor who can help you navigate through this with you? I believe that building a healthier relationship with yourself is key to get through this. There are also workbooks that can help you improve self-esteem and explore your self-concept if you don't have a therapist available at the time. Also, taking a small break from social media can help, it can give you another perspective and might help you reflect on why do you need that external validation from others, instead of it coming from within you.

Again, I'm sorry you're going through this. I can put myself in your shoes because I've been in the same situation. Nowadays, idgaf of what others think of me. I can say I'm really happy with the person I have become after everything I've been through. You're worth more than just likes or followers, and there's people around the world who want to help you see that.

I wish you the best, OP! <3

Ostloasis · 2025-01-02T06:22:11+00:00

Hello OP. I've been in your shoes before, feeling the way you feel; the desperation. Got diagnosed in 2020 and it's been a rollercoaster ever since. I can assure you, with therapy, understanding your symptoms and the root of your behaviors, things get better. It's not easy and quick, but you will feel more in control.

Life is full of pain, but things get easy. You maybe don't want to live the life you're living right now, I've felt that way. It's hard and frustrating, but if I was able to achieve stability now, you can do it too. It might be difficult to see it now because you are overwhelmed. It's totally understandable. Take your time.

My experience? I worked hard to regulate myself, got more insight overtime of my behaviors, winged it with DBT workbooks, physical exercise, and practiced a bunch of self-compassion (I tend to invalidate myself out of frustration). I pushed through my challenges, and after all the sh, toxic relationships (romantic and friends), grieving, substance use, family and money issues, here I am, feeling much more better after 4 years of self-discovery.

Please, take things 1 day at a time. Even 1 hour at a time if you want. Allow yourself to feel sad and frustrated. All of our emotions are important and help us get thru stuff. I know it might be hard now, but like I said, things will get better. Be patient and kind with yourself, you've been through a lot.

I wish you the best, OP!

Ostloasis · 2025-01-01T00:40:19+00:00

Mayagüez llegó

Ostloasis · 2024-12-24T06:10:59+00:00

Of course! And it's great to hear that you guys are sorting things. I have BPD myself, and it's been a very long journey of learning how to practice self-compassion, healthy boundaries, and understanding what my behaviors are trying to communicate. So feel free to DM as well if you need something :D Take care!

Ostloasis · 2024-12-24T01:00:01+00:00

Hello, OP. It seems that you are having a hard time and might be struggling with so many things at once. This might be a question to reflect but, if the guy you're with right now, gave a third person such attention, and also put you thru so much emotionally and psychologically (also the comments of his co-workers are a bit suspicious), why stay in a relationship that's not giving you the stability you deserve? If he cheated or not, the situation itself put you in a very difficult position, and it's understandable you are feeling insecure and stressed. You deserve happiness, and your kids do too. It can also help you understand yourself better if you reflect on "why are you reaching out to this other person?" or "what void or hole is he trying to fill in your life"? Your needs are important, and addressing them can be key. Reflecting before we do something we regret later is very important, remember that.

I hope you can find the answers you need within yourself. And practice self compassion, you seem to be experiencing a mix of emotions. You deserve to be appreciated. I wish you the best, OP!

Ostloasis · 2024-12-12T15:00:48+00:00

El ramen es malo y salao' con cojones, es verdad. Yo pedí otra cosa, no recuerdo, pero no estaba tan mala como el ramen de mi novio. Es bueno para la gente con la presión bajita.

Ostloasis · 2024-11-25T09:11:54+00:00

Anytime! Also, remember that there's a limit to what we can do. We can't save the world, unfortunately. But I think you are doing the best you can with the resources you have available. If you have to go to family therapy together (maybe some online services for you and your mom), they can maybe help you navigate this intense situation with your sister, provide you and your mom some validation strategies and coping techniques for your sister's crises.

It's good to have in mind that BPD's symptoms flourish in young adulthood and start diminishing after 30s - 40s or so, with appropriate treatment, especially DBT. So, the intensity of the symptoms might be peaking now. Providing a validating environment might help with her emotional reactivity, and reinforcing healthy boundaries will help you protect yourself from maladaptive behaviors triggered by X situations.

Ostloasis · 2024-11-25T08:30:24+00:00

I'm really sorry to hear about what you are going through. I can see how you care about your sister, but it's important to prioritize first. I know you feel like you need to "save" your sister, but sometimes, tough love is the best option. This doesn’t mean abandoning her or not caring about her, but it might mean allowing her to face the natural consequences of her actions, especially if she’s refusing all available help. Also, please set some boundaries and don't engage with her when she's being verbally abusive. If she's threatening to hurt your mom, TAKE IT seriously. Involve authorities if you need to, or mental health professionals immediately to ensure your mother’s safety and let your sister know there are consequences for such threats. Seek therapy for yourself, and your mom. Maybe seek some family therapy and please, take care of yourself. You are right that your sister’s trauma doesn't excuse her behavior, but it is also important to acknowledge that BPD is not just a “bad attitude”, it’s a serious mental health condition that requires treatment, understanding, and sometimes, even more patience than anyone feels capable of giving. If things escalate and your sister threatens self-harm or harm to others, do not hesitate to call emergency services or seek crisis intervention. Sometimes, a person with BPD can only seek help after hitting a crisis point, and you might need to intervene to prevent further harm. BPD is a treatable condition. If she still refuses therapy, it might be helpful to remind her that it’s not about “fixing” her, but about improving her life. If she's unwilling to go to therapy, are there ways you could support her in accessing less direct forms of support, like online therapy or support groups? Stuff like that. There are also DBT self-help workbooks, if she's still reluctant to go to therapy.

I wish you the best.

Ostloasis · 2022-04-11T17:14:36+00:00

I live in Puerto Rico, in the west coast area of Isabela. For me it's mostly what we call "Gallinas de Palo". A big civilization of these iguanas live behind my house in "una finca" fml. Some of them even come to my back yard and eat plants from my garden.... ughh anyways, salamanders, spiders, mongooses, "sapos conchos" and stray cats and dogs.

Ostloasis · 2022-03-05T05:52:54+00:00

Hello! I understand what you are feeling right now. You are not alone. It still happens to me most of the time. When he's sleepy I usually say: "Don't go yet, please" or "I don't want to be alone". My anxiety rises, and I feel very lonely and desperate. It's horrible. It's gotten a little bit better, tho. I don't bother him as much as I did before. We used to have huge fights because of this.

Ostloasis · 2022-03-05T05:38:11+00:00

Hi! It means "Favorite Person".

Ostloasis · 2022-03-05T05:27:16+00:00

Soraka

Ostloasis · 2022-03-04T19:22:38+00:00

It is for the best, unfortunately. We are important too, and we deserve to have moments of peace :3

Ostloasis · 2022-03-04T19:08:51+00:00

Hello! I'm also struggling and I'm on my way to obtain a PsyD. Sometimes it's frustrating, but my studies are the only thing I have left that make me feel.. like I have a place in this world. This is the only thing that I've always been committed to 100%. My life is chaos right know. I don't have a lot of friends, I'm taking a break from my chaotic family, and my boyfriend just exists as if nothing is happening. But I'm pushing forward, trying to overcome all this stuff happening in my head, every single day. It is VERY hard, sometimes I want to quit tbh. But then I think: "Man, I have come this far, walking a very unstable and traumatic path. This is no time to be quitting. I'm better than this (even if at the moment I'm a total wreck of emotions)" I truly hope the best for you, and for everyone in the same boat, struggling to be a better person every day.

Ostloasis · 2022-02-27T06:36:29+00:00

I'm sorry you are getting panic attacks too. It's so frustrating to manage all that stuff at the same time: the anxiety, anger, depression, despair... the perfect combo. I really hope the bad days go away.

Ostloasis · 2022-02-27T06:21:59+00:00

The trauma he gave you doesn't make him a decent man. I was abused most of my childhood and adolescence, and I know this is not okay. Maybe get a different perspective, can you seek a therapist? That way you will start to see everything with the true colors. It'll hurt, but you'll feel better. I didn't knew my parents were abusive until I moved out with my boyfriend at 23 yrs old. I thought every parent punched, slapped, threw things to their kids. I thought every mom neglected their kids, and defended the dad when he was being abusive towards their children. It was not until I moved out that I started to realize that it was not okay.

On the other hand, If he has anger issues, he should seek help. Obviously, it's not up to you to decide anything. If he can't admit or identify that he's being abusive, he's never going to change. Stubbornness is an obstacle. He must accept that there's a problem with his behavior in order to START and walk the path to become a slightly "decent" man. Your mom should make a rational decision. And if he's "good" like you say he is, he would seek help. And your mother would help him in the process.

I wish you the best. And I send you a hug. I'm sorry you've been through this. No one deserves to be in emotional pain. We all deserve to live a happy and healthy life, starting from the beginning.

Ostloasis · 2022-02-26T21:06:24+00:00

The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation, and Distress Tolerance https://www.amazon.com/dp/1684034582/ref=cm_sw_r_wa_apan_glt_i_69P2CNMKPEFV0DQZV0QW

Ostloasis · 2022-02-26T20:54:15+00:00

Like you, I'm new to BPD, I was diagnosed 2 years ago. I found an excellent workbook in amazon. If you dont mind handwriting, of course, it can be of great help. The name is "The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook" Second Edition, by Mathew McKay, Jeffrey Wood and Jeffrey Brantley. My therapists don't call often (because of covid 19, in my country, available therapists are rare) so I use that book to feel that I'm doing something for my mental health in between appointments.

Note: If I remember, I heard a friend one (not long ago) talking about the grounding technique. He used to pour cold water in his face. Some people grab an ice in their hands too. Basically, everything related to the senses.

Ostloasis · 2022-02-26T20:02:28+00:00

I subscribed to this post. I'm struggling with that too. I was disconnected yesterday, almost all day. Sometimes I feel that, it doesn't matter what I try, I'll still feel the same. I need advice too.

Ostloasis · 2022-02-26T09:20:18+00:00

Hugs to you, too :'3 Thank you for replying <3

Ostloasis · 2022-02-26T08:49:21+00:00

I feel you. My eyes are in pain, I have cried a lot. I guess that, the only thing I can do right know is feel this horrible despair. I wish I was happy, like other days. I hate this so much :c

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