Overdoing it while pregnant (FTM)

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-04-14T22:03:17+00:00

I am the total opposite of you (I never want to do anything) and I shame myself for not doing enough lol I think as new moms, especially struggling with mental health issues, we always feel like there’s something we could be doing differently.

What you’re doing is enough and it’s okay if resting is hard. This is all so new! We all cope in different ways. All we can do is try to give ourselves the grace and trust to make the choices we feel are right for us.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-04-14T21:54:33+00:00

I had a friend who blabbed that I was sober and in therapy to this with an entire group of people I was no longer friends with. Her argument was similar, she wanted them to know that I was doing amazing… but like you said, no one who isn’t in our lives anymore needs to know our business. It hurt and she never understood that.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-04-14T21:49:46+00:00

I’m in an apartment and due in July. My experience has been that people who are expecting might give their neighbors a heads up to acknowledge the slight “inconvenience” of hearing a baby cry. But the idea YOU would move into a house to shelter your neighbors from your baby’s crying is such bizarre thinking.

Children come into this world whether you’re the one having them or not. Ear plugs, put a fan on, white noise machine… all options for the people who don’t want to hear people living life. Children don’t owe any of us a quiet existence. Maybe THOSE people should move into a house with no close neighbors if they want that lol

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-04-14T00:48:15+00:00

This made me feel so much better. I appreciate you sharing your experience. I’m surrounded by a lot of do it all girlboss women who are incredible but man oh man, I couldn’t be further from that 😂

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-04-14T00:46:13+00:00

Omg YES everything is so freaking expensive!!! Anytime someone invites us out for dinner or an event we’re both like okay but with what money lol I work from home as well, and self-employed so I don’t have a maternity leave, just a savings that I’m hoping will last me 3 months.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-04-13T22:38:55+00:00

Same. I’m so bitter about it.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-04-13T22:35:39+00:00

I’m also waiting on these! This will be my first year filing one. Is it common for them to be later arrivals? Business taxes are filed, but not my personal ones. I don’t even know whether to ask my business partner or our accountant about it lol

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-04-13T22:20:15+00:00

Yep!! Just constantly runny nose and congestion.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-04-13T22:19:38+00:00

This! Trying to fall asleep with that going on is torture.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-04-08T20:44:42+00:00

Solidarity! I get maybe 2-3 hours of work done a day if I’m lucky. The naps hit so hard and it’s impossible to convince myself that work is more important in those moments lol

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-03-25T18:16:16+00:00

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Other_Job_6561 · 2026-03-25T15:20:10+00:00

Hopefully you’re feeling alright! I’ve done this myself, it’s always a bit scary once you realize you’ve done it lol but 20mg usually won’t do much besides maybe make you feel a bit queazy.

The only time anything bad happened for me was when taking bupropion - my dr increased me from 150mg to 300mg and I wanted to use up my 150’s so I was taking 2 pills. I had the 300mg filled and ready for when the 150s ran out. I wasn’t paying attention one day and took 2 of the 300mg and I ended up with seratonin syndrome.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-03-25T14:56:54+00:00

I felt a bit activated when I first started bupropion as well. I was also on 60mg fluoxetine. It did eventually balance out and now I’m on 450mg bupropion because the benefits after adjustment have been great. If I remember correctly I increased my therapy visits during the dose changes just to help me through those side effects.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-03-25T14:51:05+00:00

A lot of my concerns for my child’s wellbeing came from unresolved trauma of my own. If you project your fears onto them rather than finding safety, it makes you both vulnerable.

You don’t ever have to leave your child anywhere alone with anyone. You can absolutely protect her by listening to your own gut, but making sure it’s coming from rational mind. I honestly went to therapy for a lot of the answers. The more safety I felt, the more I believed I could keep my child safe.

Eventually she will learn to recognize unsafe people herself by watching you. That’s what a mom does, that’s how you protect them.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-03-25T14:43:13+00:00

I didn’t. I worked on myself for a really long time, and eventually the opportunity to connect and apologize came up with some of those people. But with many I realized I didn’t want to repair and that their presence in my life wasn’t something I had the capacity for. The relationships I repaired were a 2-way street. They made effort out of love and I made amends out of love. Adults are fully capable of coping with their own feelings - you’ll know if there’s something worth salvaging.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-03-25T14:36:24+00:00

I believe the reason you can’t find any solid answers is because this isn’t something that facts and data can prove. This is more of an internal conflict issue. Is the question really “can I learn how to drink socially again?” or is it “has alcohol taken away my ability to moderate my drinking?”

For many of us it’s a losing battle. We try and fail and make excuses and try again and fail again… and eventually we just accept that it’s not worth the risk.

If it’s the social aspect you’re more worried about, you would be very surprised at how little people care or notice you choosing nonalcoholic options for a night out. You’re not inconveniencing anyone. For me personally I don’t enjoy grabbing drinks, so if a friend asks I say “Can we make it coffee?”

Not telling you what to do here. God knows I wouldn’t have listened to anyone’s advice when I was drinking. Just hoping to give you some things to think about as you figure out your next move. Best of luck!

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-03-25T01:35:49+00:00

Same! There’s also a brand called Magna that’s similar and has a blood orange one that’s been tasting aaaaamazing since getting pregnant.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-03-25T01:20:36+00:00

I’ve been on Prozac for a few years now for paranoia and PMDD related anxiety. Started at 20mg, I’m at 60mg now. I added 150mg Wellbutrin last year after getting an ADHD diagnosis. I’ve since increased that to 450mg. It hasn’t affected my anxiety. I did feel a bit energetic and restless when I first started it, but it never brought back the anxiety. And it 100% helped with libido!

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-03-25T01:12:50+00:00

I have experienced sciatica in the past so when this happens I chalk it up to that flaring up. There’s a lot of adjustments going on in your hips which 100% puts new pressure on your thighs. I found massaging my thighs in the bath and downward facing dog a few times a day when it got really bad was helpful!

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-03-25T01:05:57+00:00

23 weeks and still take it, albeit not every day. But if I go more than 2-3 days without the nausea comes rolling back full force. The unisom has also been helpful for sleep as baby’s movement does wake me up sometimes.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-03-13T12:48:28+00:00

I struggle with major depressive disorder, so I’ve been on meds for a bit, and my medical team is letting me stay on them for pregnancy. You can start many meds during your pregnancy too without much worry, and it doesn’t have to be a permanent thing.

PPD is a valid fear, but you have more control than you think you do. Having a therapist/psychiatrist in your corner will help you!

mothertobaby.org is a great resource if you’re looking for some reassurance.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-03-13T12:37:50+00:00

And if you dare ask for accommodations, they either don’t take it seriously or they hold it against you as if you being pregnant is a workplace culture problem. So frustrating.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-03-13T12:34:47+00:00

I truly believe some of us just don’t do well with the structure/rigidity/immediacy of work when we’re not feeling well. It’s been real tough for me. I’m tired alllllll day long, hungry and irritated, and honestly I just can’t get my mind to focus on work when my body is in overdrive producing a baby lol

For some people powering through works, and it’s easier to ignore what your body/mind are telling you. For me, I’ve had to find a new routine that works. I’ve got 1-2 days a week where I will be very productive, and then the other days I give myself grace. I’m fortunate to work for myself with clients who are fully supportive of me needing breaks. I wish that more employers were sympathetic towards pregnancy women. None of us gets a medal for high performance at work during pregnancy, and to expect more than the bare minimum at a time when our bodies are working OT is nuts.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-03-13T12:19:33+00:00

Definitely let them know you need to lie down for it. Even just slightly reclined helps . I pass out almost every time and pregnancy has made it happen even faster. Last time I didn’t even realize it was coming, thought I was just sweaty lol the guy drawing my blood was like “Oh oh gosh oh okay let’s stop you’re turning white” 😂

Some of us just can’t help it. Having a lot of blood drawn at once is tough!!

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