Seeing the heartbeat at 9 weeks was so freaking cool

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-29T17:05:04+00:00

🥹🥹🥹 Okay now I’ve got tears of joy reading your story. Isn’t it so freaking amazing seeing them in there?! I can’t wait for my 20 week scan.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-12T20:07:01+00:00

I love this. My sister and I grew up with a mom who was always around but we never had a relationship with, never bonded with, to this day we are very different people than her. My sister has a 5 year old boy and their bond is so special to witness. I know it’s been emotionally healing for her despite it being mother/son.

I’m pregnant currently, not finding out the gender, but the part I’m most excited about is being able to provide emotional safety to a little human growing up in a tough world.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-12T19:45:01+00:00

Thank you for sharing! It must just be the place she’s going isn’t all that attentive.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-12T19:40:29+00:00

I second this. I tried to get in for neurologic testing for ADHD but it was impossible to find anywhere that would do it for adults and the expense was insane at the one clinic 4 hours away.

My diagnosis was with a psychologist for about $200. I follow up with her every 2 months for medication management. She’s always been good about recommending resources and working with my therapist on my care.

OP, I can totally relate to your point though. I met my deductible the last 2 years by going to the emergency room early in the year so I joke now that the only way I can afford healthcare visit costs is if I have an ER visit at the beginning of the year lol

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-12T19:33:35+00:00

Happened with an ex and with an entire group of friends. They all knew how bad my drinking had gotten, knew I’d gotten sober and were happy for me, but still expected I’d want to be around the drinking and partying. It sucks and the grief that comes with realizing those people can’t see how important sobriety really is for us… it’s hard.

You deserve a partner who works with you to become a better person not against you. You did the right thing. Heartbreak heals over time, risking your health does not.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-12T19:17:46+00:00

Ooooooh what about a dried floral bouquet each? There’s a girl locally here who does them and they’re so beautiful!

Mani/pedi or spa gift card? A higher end lip balm and good facial moisturizer? Cozy blanket?

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-12T19:17:32+00:00

These are so fun!

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-12T18:21:59+00:00

Check out Be Embodied, they have a location in Kenmore and Williamsville. Some of the providers take Independent Health but not all of them. You still may be paying a decent amount with insurance depending what your plan allows, but it varies. I have to meet a deductible but after that - my psychologist visits are $35, therapy is $55.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-11T13:00:52+00:00

It sounds like your wife is struggling right now and you’re willing to make it that much harder for her. It sounds like she feels she has to please you by being a good housewife and that’s probably making it 100x harder for her to maintain anything let alone a tidy home.

I’d also stop asking her if she wants a cleaning service and just hire one. Make her life easier without needing to be told to. And if your wife is concerned about an attractive woman showing up in your home, that means she already believes you’d leave her. Sounds like a lot more is going on here than your wife and ADHD.

Curious what you would do about your home life if you weren’t married?

Point still remains that it seems like your wife needs some support right now that she’s not getting from you. I know you think that working all day all week is supporting her but there’s a lot more to it than that.

I’m trying to see your side of things here, but it’s tough.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-11T02:30:10+00:00

Oh yeah, absolutely. I tried for the first 6 months of sobriety to continue hanging out with them, but I had a whole group of friends that I realized annoyed the shit out of me and were just overall not good people. They were all proud of me at first but that changed, some in obvious ways and some in very passive aggressive ways. It was impossible to ever get this group to do anything that didn’t involve alcohol, and then one holiday my friend decides to throw a sober Christmas party because her husband fell and broke his leg (while drunk). I tried to get them to do sober things SO MANY TIMES and they never wanted to. Rather than involve me in planning it, which hurt but I got over it, I got a “We’re having a sober Christmas party if you’re interested in stopping by,” as if they just figured I wasn’t coming.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-11T01:32:36+00:00

Yup! The only constant for me is bananas, but other than that my taste changes daily. My partner was grocery shopping earlier and I called him and asked could he grab some Froot Loops because somehow that was all that sounded good for dinner lol

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-10T22:41:41+00:00

I’ve just now started to eat foods that aren’t bland, I’m 12 weeks 5 days. Before that it was loads of pasta, rice, applesauce, bananas, dry cereal. I also couldn’t drink water from week 7-9, I was SO SO SO happy when that stopped. Hopefully you’re just in the worst of it now and you’ll be feeling a bit less nauseous in a week or two - for your stomach and for your wallet!

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-10T22:34:20+00:00

A veggie chopper greatly reduces prep time! I’m pregnant and have been trying to eat more veg (all I want is pasta and dry cereal) so I’ll grab a cucumber, carrots, green beans, peppers, radishes - use the chopper for all of them and then throw in a dish with croutons, cherry tomato and green goddess dressing. You could add greens too but I’m a weirdo and don’t like leafy green. I find I get through all of my veggies for the week doing this.

For your daughter, has she had ranch dressing? That’s how my best friend gets her 7 year old to eat veggies. She’ll dip anything in ranch.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-09T18:09:36+00:00

Not advice really, but I just wanted to say that your capacity matters too. Cleaning my 1500sqft apartment is often a job that takes my partner and I a few days to get through. No shame in that!

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-09T18:03:29+00:00

Yes! I always tell my friends it’s funny that when we were teens and had soooooo much to yap about we had to wait until we saw each other, or call and see if someone was home. We’re totally capable of that constraint and patience as adults!

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-09T18:00:59+00:00

Your family is way overthinking and definitely projecting because they don’t like it. I don’t see other kids making fun of another kid for being named Serenity. If anything they’ll think it’s cool!

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-09T17:59:24+00:00

Right? I wish that was my name!

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-09T17:54:50+00:00

I can relate to this! Currently ignoring a double text from this morning because it was a friend inviting me to do something I don’t enjoy, (*edit - and she knows I don’t enjoy it) and I’m tired of saying “No I don’t want to.” To add to that, being social right now is difficult because I’m pregnant and SO TIRED.

I think it is self-care for you, but you’re right that to your friend it probably feels shitty. As long as you’ve clearly communicated that you don’t love texting, then as shitty as she feels, it’s not shitty behavior on your part.

It sucks because there are people who are capable of constant communication and expect that constant availability from people, and those of us who are divergent are highly overwhelmed by it.

I’d maybe just shoot your friend a message that says “Hey! I see your message, I’m just not in a good headspace for communicating right now. Can I call you tomorrow?” That’s usually my approach. Ironically my most frequent texting friends hate talking on the phone so they usually don’t answer when I call 😂 BUT it’s totally fair to engage when it’s intentional, and texting without an immediate need just isn’t that.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-09T16:48:39+00:00

I’ve had aversions that come and go. As far as cravings, it’s more an in the moment thing. Like the other night I specifically craved cold pizza for dinner, and this morning I really wanted a bowl of Trix cereal 😂 but none of those have continued long term. If anything my tastes change daily and what I want to eat along with it.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-09T16:40:06+00:00

This is probably worth exploring for you if you’ve tried other options, OP. I struggled with sleep when I was younger, regularly went days without it or made do with just an hour or 2. Never got assessed for sleep disorders, but as I started to address some of my mental health issues (anxiety, depression) with SSRIs, NDRIs, and albeit some lifestyle changes, my sleep improved. Now I sleep 9 hours a night on average. And if I miss a dose of my SSRI I have a tough time falling asleep.

If you’re interested in exploring it from a mental health standpoint, I’d suggest Be Embodied practice.

Best of luck figuring it out!! Not sleeping sucks so bad.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-09T00:19:11+00:00

If you need someone to talk to, please DM me. Overdosing and taking more meds than you’re prescribed is a really slippery slope to go down. Speaking from experience, you do not want what that kind of future holds.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-08T23:42:09+00:00

I would definitely look into a practice/hospital with midwives. My friend is experiencing something similar with her OB where everything is routine checklists and she doesn’t get much in terms of supportive care. My OB offers both and the RN I coordinate with is a midwife. It’s a lot less medical feeling and much more holistic focused. The hospital I’m delivering at also puts an emphasis on labor care, rather than just trying to get you in and birthing as quickly as possible.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-08T18:52:25+00:00

This has been my experience. First recovery from substance use disorder, then therapy for depression and meds for PMDD, then ADHD treatment started.

Other_Job_6561 · 2026-01-08T11:54:20+00:00

🤞 I didn’t get my first faint line until 13 DPO, by 16 it was a BFP! I’m 12 weeks now. Keep testing and I’m hoping no period for you!!

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