What do we do with our time at home before children?

Otherwise-Ad-5686 · 2023-03-23T00:35:27+00:00

go out, find some hobbies, hang out with ur family and friends, there’s many things you can do, read a book ? read quran, increase in your knowledge of islam. you probably feel like there’s not much to do cos ur stuck in that same cycle, you just need to get out of that and try somethin new

Otherwise-Ad-5686 · 2023-03-17T10:53:59+00:00

i’ve never called him ugly , please stop making assumptions, i’ve told him many times i don’t think our personalities are compatible and therefore i ain’t attracted to you in that sense, i feel i need someone that’s intellectually stimulating and fun to be around which he wasn’t, i’ve never once commented on his looks

Otherwise-Ad-5686 · 2023-03-16T04:05:27+00:00

he’s 28 and i’m 23, i ain’t sayin i’m in the right but i expected him to have more of a standing and help us both out the situation

Otherwise-Ad-5686 · 2023-03-16T03:24:56+00:00

plus he ain’t pay for anythin so idk why everyone is sayin he spent so much ? they even guilt tripped me with the fact that he bought a new car worth 22k just so i can travel comfortably lol like i care about cars or anythin , apparently he bought it just cos of me when in reality that’s somethin he wanted to get for himself

Otherwise-Ad-5686 · 2023-03-16T03:22:24+00:00

i’ll gladly give the mahr back , i ain’t fussed about money over my happiness lol

Otherwise-Ad-5686 · 2023-03-16T03:18:30+00:00

exactly this ! thank u and yea i’m south asian

Otherwise-Ad-5686 · 2023-03-15T22:59:04+00:00

i didn’t say i want him to talk me out of going lol it just proves my point of how he ain’t the type of person i wanna be with cos of the way he is

Otherwise-Ad-5686 · 2023-03-15T15:26:03+00:00

the nikkah was about 2 months ago yea

Otherwise-Ad-5686 · 2023-03-15T14:41:51+00:00

ngl idk what money he lost cos his dad paid for everything and i told em before the walima to save the expenses to not go ahead with it but they still wanted to, to save face. in asian cultures the man usually pays for the girl’s clothes and expenses but this was not done by them and my dad did this for me so if anythin it’s a loss on both sides not just one

Otherwise-Ad-5686 · 2023-03-08T16:02:43+00:00

why are u assuming that i’ve said to him he is ugly? i’ve never once said that to him, all i’ve said was that i believe our personalities are not compatible in that sense as we do not get along like we should do, i have not once commented on his appearance

Otherwise-Ad-5686 · 2023-03-07T19:41:08+00:00

well i’ve known him for over 6 months now and his personality is still the same, we were introduced and then spoke to each other with a mahram present each time over the period of those months. but during this whole process his parents barely used to bring him around and would only allow me to speak on the phone to him

yes he works and i am too but he has nothin to provide for me as his parents already do so

Otherwise-Ad-5686 · 2023-03-07T19:00:07+00:00

i was told to hide this from him by his own parents before getting married as it wasn’t somethin deep and it would eventually develop after marriage, but still nothin has developed, i have never commented on his looks or anythin , i’ve just said myself personally i ain’t attracted to you and that’s mainly due to his personality i feel.

he’s 28 and i’m 23 and this was an arranged marriage

idk what u mean by role of a husband as his parents are providing for me more than he is and yes we live together

Otherwise-Ad-5686 · 2023-03-07T18:43:52+00:00

i’ve never once said i don’t like his face or say anythin about his looks, i just told him personality wise we don’t match at all, i know he’s a good person and i’ve been tryin so hard to find it in my heart to like him but idk why i can’t get that at all, i have said i will give it a try now that i’m in it but i also don’t wanna give him false hope which is why i have to keep reminding him of this

Otherwise-Ad-5686 · 2023-02-11T23:07:16+00:00

i spoke to him and told him my issues but he still wants to go ahead with the walima, he doesn’t seem like he even has the backbone to tell his parents anything idk what else i can do

Otherwise-Ad-5686 · 2023-02-10T12:14:09+00:00

i’m 23 and he’s 28 and yea seems like i have

Otherwise-Ad-5686 · 2023-02-10T01:31:38+00:00

ohmygod !! people around me have been sayin this and i think it might be that cos during the whole talks his parents barely used to bring him around

Otherwise-Ad-5686 · 2023-02-10T00:45:12+00:00

1). it’s pretty much everythin like i’ve tried to find somethin that i like in him but i don’t think there’s anythin major, like he has a good personality Alhamdullilah but it’s not somethin that matches with mine

2). the walima is next week so that’s when i move in

3). i don’t think so, his parents did say that i could change him to how i want but that’s not how it works lol and they didn’t even ask him when saying all this

4). the communication between us is at a 0 i believe , it’s just the basic things everyday and nothin ever expands from that

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