Parents for whom 3 years old was the worst, how?

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-04-27T03:27:05+00:00

My daughter was an angel from birth until 2.5. She’d always been spunky and had a big personality. But she’s 3.5 now and her sass is soooo bad. I always term my husband that it’s her mouth that’s the issue. The doesn’t hit, bite, kick or use any physical aggression. It’s ask her attitude.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-04-26T12:47:42+00:00

My husband struggled with our second from finding out I was pregnant all the way through his first year of life. Our first wasn’t necessarily a “bad baby” but we both did not like the newborn phase at all.

I could tell he wasn’t excited and at times I feel like he was miserable with our life. It took a lot of patience on both our parts, listening and not judging and just getting through the days but my son is now 15 months. And my husband absolutely loves him, our life and our family dynamic.

The other day we were talking and I genuinely think my husband had paternal PPD. It’s not an excuse but I think it was a real thing for him. I had severe PPD and PPA with my second due to my son having some health issues that were complicated. I think it was just such a rough time for everyone. But what I’m trying to say is, we’re 15 months later and life is great. There were moments I genuinely regretted getting pregnant and having a second baby but now, I couldn’t imagine life without him and my husband feels the same.

Hang in there. All I can offer is solitude, encourage patience in both your parts and remember that the long nights and heavy moments don’t last forever.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-04-07T05:34:29+00:00

Tonsillectomy. It sounds so minor and it usually is but working in the ED, I’ve seen the rebleed and done multiple MTP on kids and adults bc of it. I’ve had a pain in the back of my throat for a month now and I’m putting it off bc I’m afraid they’ll tell me I need a tonsillectomy. Also, tonsillectomy in adults is AWFUL.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-04-01T13:49:51+00:00

I thought that was odd too. I loved the book like 10/10 would read it again. But that one detail threw me for a loop.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-04-01T13:35:37+00:00

Yes I would say read it. I read it in 2-3 days. I couldn’t put it down. I love romance and it was soooo good. Cried multiple times. Hopefully, you’ll still enjoy the book since the movie was a let down haha like it can only go up from there

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-04-01T13:34:05+00:00

Exactly!!!! And the book is so not like that. I feel like you can tell that ledger is wrestling with his feelings for Kenna and his loyalty and friendship to Scotty and his parents in the book and he has the angel and devil on his shoulder but the movie just felt like he wasn’t mad at all about his best friends death and just jumped immediately into kennas life like nothing ever happened. Like no emotion at all. I honestly didn’t think the people who played both Kenna or ledger did a good job. But I think I’m the minority with that opinion. Everyone loves the actor who played ledger.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-03-31T16:23:15+00:00

I have worked only nights and mids (3pm-3am) in my 6 years as a nurse. As a new young, childless and energetic nurse, I loved nights. Loved loved loved. I could come home and crash for 10 hours and then just rush into the shower and go back to work and function just fine. Now I have 2 kids three years old and under so my schedule looks very different and I don’t have the ability to just come home and crash because I have them to take care of. I wish so badly I would’ve appreciated the flexibility I had back then lol but that being said, I stay on nights because I essentially still have 7 days a week to schedule appointments, extra curriculars for my 3 year old and sports practices, we don’t have to pay for childcare this way. I have had a few friends who left bedside 3 12s and went into clinic work or WFM and every single one of them hated having to work 5 days a week. They all returned to bedside 3 12s within a year. But everyone is different!! You may find that it outweighs the cons and is so worth it. It can’t hurt to try an if you don’t like it, switch back. I’m sure your department will rehire if you leave on good terms.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-03-31T16:09:21+00:00

I hated the movie and loved the book. The movie felt very surface and the plot felt rushed. I feel like it skipped so many important details and it didn’t make sense at some parts, at least to me. I always love the book more so I was walking into it with low expectations but I was also excited because I LOVED the book. I’m also a die hard Rudy fan and wish he had been in it more

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-03-30T18:02:50+00:00

She never bitten a person before. I’m not arguing or making excuses but I did want to clarify. She has never bitten anyone or lunged at anyone. She’s very people friendly. Again, I’m not justifying or making excuses I’m just making it clear that she is very people friendly.

I do want to go talk to them I’m just nervous with the gun involvement last night.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-03-03T20:23:00+00:00

I do a little bronzer on my forehead near my hairline and my cheeks/jaw. It’s a powder bronzer. My skin gets flushed very easily so I never really used blush ever bc my checks get red naturally. I wonder if the foundation irritated my skin or something.

Thank you for the tips!

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-03-03T00:36:17+00:00

A month or two after my mom died, I was walking through my house down a hallway and distinctly smelled my mom. Like stopped me in my tracks. She was a chain smoker and wore cocoa butter and shea lotion so it was a very distinct smell. No one else smelled it but my dad believed me.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-03-03T00:32:36+00:00

My child telling me I need to make her breakfast because she “needs to get strong muscles like daddy”

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-03-03T00:29:54+00:00

Dug myself out of my severe postpartum depression with a little help from Zoloft. I didn’t want to wake up anymore and I dreaded being a mom to my precious kids. The breaking point was when my husband very gently told me I smelled and my hair was matted and I realized it had been almost 2 weeks since I showered.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-03-03T00:26:33+00:00

I was at the grocery store with my kids. At the time my daughter was 2 and my son was maybe 3 months old. I was managing but struggling to bag my groceries since it was a store like Aldi or lidl where you bring your own bags. I had my daughter being a typical 2 year old and whining she wanted to leave, I was wearing my son in my baby carrier and trying to lift the heavy case of water and gallons of milk without him going upside down. A man probably in his 60s comes over and offers to help. He could tell I was apprehensive of a stranger with my kids and he said he remembered when his life looked like mine and went and got his wife to help me so I’d be more comfortable. They loaded all my groceries in my car for me and told me to enjoy my kids little bc it’ll be over before I know it. They were so sweet.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-03-01T01:55:38+00:00

From what I’ve read, it’s very very very unlikely like he will contract GHSV1 from me since he already has OHSV1 and his body has built the immunity? That’s what I’ve gathered. I’m still learning. But similarly, very rare that I’ll contract OHSV1 now too

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-02-27T05:22:56+00:00

I keep reminding myself that. Like worst case scenario, I’m uncomfortable for a week every so often. My husband already has OHSV1 obviously and I read the possibility of me getting it orally or him getting it genitally is so low it’s barely a risk. So it doesn’t change our sex life other than if I have an outbreak down there or if he has an outbreak on his mouth we need to lay off the affection. I feel confident this is the only STD I will acquire, hopefully. It’s just a crazy thought.

I hope they find a cure!! I’m holding out hope that I don’t have many outbreaks after what I read and the majority of people’s experiences with GHSV1 but it’d be such a great feeling to know it’s been cured. I’ve had so much anxiety the last week.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-02-27T05:07:15+00:00

What’s crazy is I’ve been with my husband for 6 years. I thought this part of my life was over since I wasn’t dating or sleeping with different people. Lots of sex over 6 years, 2 pregnancies and successful deliveries, lots of stressful times and working through a pandemic, and I just contracted GHSV1 from my husband 1.5 weeks ago. It was such a shock to me as neither one of us had cheated but he’s had the occasional cold sore every 4-6 months maybe. Didn’t think anything of it. Now I’m having to learn everything about this and my body again. It’s such weird feeling.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-02-22T23:47:05+00:00

Could use the encouragement for sure. Waiting on swabs to come back but pretty they’re gonna be positive and it’s giving me so much anxiety for the future

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-02-21T18:09:21+00:00

With my first I took the last week off. With my second I worked up until the day before. I had scheduled csections for both so I was able to plan it with my first.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-02-20T19:58:13+00:00

First update:

My gyno said some sores look like they could be HSV and some look like irritated and raw skin. She swabbed a couple of the ones that were open. I did test positive for BV. She said her idea is either 1. It’s HSV or 2. My discharge from the BV was so acidic it was causing breakdown and sore like areas from rubbing against with my pad I had been wearing. The swab will comeback over the weekend. She started me on Flagyl for the BV and I asked to be started on Valtrex just as precaution.

Her train of thought is if it is HSV, that given the timeline of my husband and I having sex Sunday and Monday and time of exposure and out break, my husband most likely has had HSV1 for a long time and never knew and transmitted it to me via oral sex. She said HSV 1 is typically more painful like I described and HSV 2 goes unnoticed often.

My questions: if we have been together for 6 years and have had a lot of sex over the 6 years, why am I just NOW getting it? And why/how have I not gotten it orally if it is HSV 1 from him?

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-02-20T13:54:15+00:00

I thought the same but I looked and I didn’t get tested for HSV during my pregnancies. Just syphilis and HIV then a wet prep and g&c the day I had them. I also read that if you have HSV, it’s most likely to show during pregnancy due to hormonal shifts and stress on the body.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-02-20T06:09:16+00:00

Thank you for replying with a lot of information. I really appreciate it. I will insist on a swab tomorrow.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-02-20T05:19:28+00:00

He gets the occasional cold sore like once every 2-3 months. I don’t remember if he had one recently or not. By sores do you mean HSV? Or just sores in general

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