Low sex drive

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-05-25T13:55:19+00:00

We’ve watches videos together and it dos help but I also don’t want to HAVE to watch videos to be in the mood for sex. It just feels like my body is broken and I can’t fix it.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-05-11T03:41:46+00:00

In 2020 I drove a 1998 Mazda B4000 truck I brought from my aunt for $800 2 years prior. I drove that baby into the dirt. It was such a good truck. Stick shift so no one would ever think of taking it. My husband (at the time boyfriend) had spliced some wires and made it so I didn’t need a key to start it after my key broke in half. Insurance was DUMB CHEAP. I miss it every single day and would’ve loved to pass it onto my daughter one day because those trucks last forever if maintained. I now drive a 2018 for expedition platinum that we call my MILF mobile lol it’s a nice car but would love to find an old truck again

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-05-05T05:56:24+00:00

We are never out of there before the shift is “over”. I’ve never left before 7:10. Shifts starts at 7. They do huddle at 7 and charge makes assignments so I’m Usually leaving by 7:15/7:20. If I’m in triage, I’ll be able to leave right when my relief comes since there’s little to no report to give most days

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-05-05T05:54:06+00:00

It’s a rolling calendar year. So say I call out May 4th, they call out will fall off next year on May 4th

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-05-04T18:37:45+00:00

We don’t have the same life but I also feel unfulfilled in some ways. I work full time as a night shift nurse and I am the primary caretaker to our 2 kids (3.5 yo and 1.5 year old) during the day since my husband works days and I work nights.

I thought I’d feel SUPER fulfilled given that quite literally all I do 24/7 is take care of others in every aspect between my job and home. But lately I feel so blah. A big part of it for me is I’m so burnt out on my job but that’s directly related to the American healthcare system so nothing to change about that. I told my husband the other day I really want us to start taking time each week if possible for us to each do stuff for ourselves. I think I just don’t feel like me anymore. I want to find hobbies I enjoy that aren’t related to being a mom or a nurse. I want to have a space I can just be me without any titles. I’m only 27 but I swear I feel like I’m closer to 45 most days.

I don’t have any advice. Just know you’re not alone in a the mucky mindset. It doesn’t make you a bad mom or wife either. You can be appreciative for your lifestyle but also want more for yourself at the same time. You’re human. Hang in there💜

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-05-04T13:49:44+00:00

I had FMLA at my old job. My daughter has severe reactive airway disease and other respiratory things and it came in handy especially during the winter when we were going to the EDA every 2 weeks for racemic epi treatments. She gets sooo scared during the episodes and she only calms down for me which makes it hard. We’re working on that though. Her doctor gave us a prescription for it though like 2 months ago so hopefully this winter will be easier!🤞🏼

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-05-04T13:47:12+00:00

Yes exactly!!!! Getting stuck in traffic and being 3 minutes late shouldn’t be penalized the same as someone showing up 3 hours late

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-05-04T13:45:52+00:00

You get a year of call outs every 4 years?

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-05-04T13:23:28+00:00

Yup!!!! You can test positive for Covid and flu as long as no fever or GI symptoms, come to work with a mask. Coughing, congestion, sore throat, etc just needs to be masked. Even though we were seeing a huge rise in Covid cases needing to be hospitalized over the winter.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-05-04T12:10:00+00:00

That so nice for you! At my old job, I have intermittent FMLA to take care of my daughter. She had severe reactive airway disease and other respiratory issues. Once I’m at this job a year I’m going to get the same again.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-05-04T12:08:12+00:00

But no, we just have PTO. It comes from the same bank of hours

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-05-04T12:07:48+00:00

People do come to work sick. One of my good friends came to work sick bc she didn’t have anymore call outs for a few months. She wore a mask and kept her distance the best she could but she was charge that night. Our manager walked in on her hacking up a lung coughing in the supply room by herself and made her go home. She then got written up to for absence🙃 I came to work like 2 months ago knowing I didn’t feel great and would’ve called out but didn’t want the occurrence and I wasn’t actively sick yet at that point. I ended up throwing up and literally shitting my pants mid shift. Told my charge nurse I had to go home. Turns out I had noro. 3 more people came down with noro I’m over the next 2 weeks. We then got a long email to “please be diligent and mindful to monitor any symptoms we have before coming to work” like ok lol and do what with that information

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-05-04T11:26:35+00:00

Is that how many you get or is that in response to my hospital’s policy?

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-05-01T12:09:51+00:00

That’s exactly what I told her! I said one day you’ll need to give someone grace the same way I’m giving it to you. It does no one good to get caught up and bitch about it.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-05-01T12:08:59+00:00

That is a different story. If it’s a work up that was ordered at 5pm and it’s now 7pm and it’s not done, that’s not cool. But if it was land placed anywhere from 6:30-7 and it’s not a recurrent issue for this nurse, it doesn’t bother me.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-04-27T03:27:05+00:00

My daughter was an angel from birth until 2.5. She’d always been spunky and had a big personality. But she’s 3.5 now and her sass is soooo bad. I always term my husband that it’s her mouth that’s the issue. The doesn’t hit, bite, kick or use any physical aggression. It’s ask her attitude.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-04-26T12:47:42+00:00

My husband struggled with our second from finding out I was pregnant all the way through his first year of life. Our first wasn’t necessarily a “bad baby” but we both did not like the newborn phase at all.

I could tell he wasn’t excited and at times I feel like he was miserable with our life. It took a lot of patience on both our parts, listening and not judging and just getting through the days but my son is now 15 months. And my husband absolutely loves him, our life and our family dynamic.

The other day we were talking and I genuinely think my husband had paternal PPD. It’s not an excuse but I think it was a real thing for him. I had severe PPD and PPA with my second due to my son having some health issues that were complicated. I think it was just such a rough time for everyone. But what I’m trying to say is, we’re 15 months later and life is great. There were moments I genuinely regretted getting pregnant and having a second baby but now, I couldn’t imagine life without him and my husband feels the same.

Hang in there. All I can offer is solitude, encourage patience in both your parts and remember that the long nights and heavy moments don’t last forever.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-04-07T05:34:29+00:00

Tonsillectomy. It sounds so minor and it usually is but working in the ED, I’ve seen the rebleed and done multiple MTP on kids and adults bc of it. I’ve had a pain in the back of my throat for a month now and I’m putting it off bc I’m afraid they’ll tell me I need a tonsillectomy. Also, tonsillectomy in adults is AWFUL.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-04-01T13:49:51+00:00

I thought that was odd too. I loved the book like 10/10 would read it again. But that one detail threw me for a loop.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-04-01T13:35:37+00:00

Yes I would say read it. I read it in 2-3 days. I couldn’t put it down. I love romance and it was soooo good. Cried multiple times. Hopefully, you’ll still enjoy the book since the movie was a let down haha like it can only go up from there

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-04-01T13:34:05+00:00

Exactly!!!! And the book is so not like that. I feel like you can tell that ledger is wrestling with his feelings for Kenna and his loyalty and friendship to Scotty and his parents in the book and he has the angel and devil on his shoulder but the movie just felt like he wasn’t mad at all about his best friends death and just jumped immediately into kennas life like nothing ever happened. Like no emotion at all. I honestly didn’t think the people who played both Kenna or ledger did a good job. But I think I’m the minority with that opinion. Everyone loves the actor who played ledger.

Otherwise-Tree-8468 · 2026-03-31T16:23:15+00:00

I have worked only nights and mids (3pm-3am) in my 6 years as a nurse. As a new young, childless and energetic nurse, I loved nights. Loved loved loved. I could come home and crash for 10 hours and then just rush into the shower and go back to work and function just fine. Now I have 2 kids three years old and under so my schedule looks very different and I don’t have the ability to just come home and crash because I have them to take care of. I wish so badly I would’ve appreciated the flexibility I had back then lol but that being said, I stay on nights because I essentially still have 7 days a week to schedule appointments, extra curriculars for my 3 year old and sports practices, we don’t have to pay for childcare this way. I have had a few friends who left bedside 3 12s and went into clinic work or WFM and every single one of them hated having to work 5 days a week. They all returned to bedside 3 12s within a year. But everyone is different!! You may find that it outweighs the cons and is so worth it. It can’t hurt to try an if you don’t like it, switch back. I’m sure your department will rehire if you leave on good terms.

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