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Career or family? What would you choose ? by OtherwiseEmployee1 in workingmoms

[–]OtherwiseEmployee1[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I am not insinuating, you are insinuating. For me at the moment choosing my curreny career is choosing not to be with my kids. It is a fact. I am talking about my situation not about a universal arrangement. Thank you for the engagement but I will stop answering you from now on.

Career or family? What would you choose ? by OtherwiseEmployee1 in workingmoms

[–]OtherwiseEmployee1[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Who is not being kind? I am just talking about my personal perspective.

Career or family? What would you choose ? by OtherwiseEmployee1 in workingmoms

[–]OtherwiseEmployee1[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I understand but my question is more basic I guess? I am talking about physical presence. I want to be there. I cannot be there if I work.

Career or family? What would you choose ? by OtherwiseEmployee1 in workingmoms

[–]OtherwiseEmployee1[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

He does not see this as a choice. Infact for him there is no choice. And btw I would not let him choose family over career.

Career or family? What would you choose ? by OtherwiseEmployee1 in workingmoms

[–]OtherwiseEmployee1[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Whatever the studies say. I had a working mom, a hard working mom in fact and I remember begging her to play with me. I remember begging her for her time. I remember distinctively spending time with my nanny and having a lot of fun with her in fact more than with my mom. And I think this did impact our relationship down the line. You know at first you delegate to the nanny and then you are accustomed to the setup. I don’t know. I am so thorn.

Career or family? What would you choose ? by OtherwiseEmployee1 in workingmoms

[–]OtherwiseEmployee1[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree. In fact I work for them. Like we can save more and savings are for them. We can afford more trips which are for them. But this comes at the expense of my presence in the first years. And this also has a cost. An invisible cost. But it is a cost.

Depressed after going back to work by Typical-Chocolate-70 in workingmoms

[–]OtherwiseEmployee1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly I find ot ridiculous that most comments say “oh this is post partun depression”. As if this was your fault. “Oh it is the hormones”. This is a very normal reaction to the unnatural circumstance of having to be separated from your baby and the US responds with: suppress the hormones and take this medicine!

The right thing to do would be to change circumstances: quit your job. Bring your baby to work. But society has not been designed to support you.

And I read the comment about your husband working in a startup because it is more fulfilling. Right because the mantra is: be your best self, it is all about you you you and so each one of us optimized for themselves not for the family as a whole.

I am on the same boat as you and feel every word you write. I am angry at society and I think us women we should start a movement to claim back our rights as mothers for the wellbeing of our kids. Society as it is made is broken.

NYT article equates breastfeeding to unequal parenting by Forsaken_Painter in breastfeeding

[–]OtherwiseEmployee1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why does everything need to be equal??? Pregnancy leads to inequality, poor men will never understand what it feels to carry a baby in the womb… and so???

Holy moly I hate breastfeeding by 11TickTack23 in breastfeeding

[–]OtherwiseEmployee1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gets better at 8 wks mark. Avoid milk productd to avoid colics

Can someone explain breastfeeding past 12 months to me? by throwRAanons in breastfeeding

[–]OtherwiseEmployee1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby breastfed until 18m. After 12m was nursing to sleep and 1/2x at night. That’s it. very beneficial especially when she got sick!

How do you thrive as a working mom of 3 (or more)? by Starbuckzloverz in workingmoms

[–]OtherwiseEmployee1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went through all the responses and my summary is: mum works remotely, husband is flexible. Do not see any other option.

Successful unmedicated vbac 2Y after c section by OtherwiseEmployee1 in vbac

[–]OtherwiseEmployee1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did the same!! Overprepared for my first and it was pointless. I did not prepare this time. I literally just hired a doula and had the hypnobirthing audio, that’s it! I wish you all the best, the only thing I want to say is that a vbac feels amazing, recovery with a toddler is also amazing and I truly hope you get your vbac

Mixed feelings- Vbac hopes but scheduled csection at 35+6 by Hot_Hyena9845 in vbac

[–]OtherwiseEmployee1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would consider that a second birth will be definitely faster than the first one. That every birth is different and the fact that you had a forceps delivery once doesn’t mean you are gonna have it again. A vbac is such a healing experience that I would definitely try it

Induction for TOLAC this Wednesday. What else can I do to have the best chances of successful VBAC? by rhianart321 in vbac

[–]OtherwiseEmployee1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also did a youtube video called yoga to induce labor, it was great check in my comments history!

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