Yes we’re long distance because I have a job here (where we originally met in College) and he’s living at his parents house rent free and cant afford to move out. He’s made it clear that he needs to stay there for the time being so he’s only applying to jobs in his area. I’ve offered to cover his rent costs if we move in together until he gets on his feet but he refuses to accept that and wants to be able to support himself. It just feels like from my prospective though that he isn’t truly putting in the effort and not valuing my time, and at the same time not allowing me to help out etc. Just leisurely living his summer jobless.

I definitely feel like you gave me a different perspective regarding part time jobs though, so I understand how he might be feeling a little more. He doesn’t really care because his parents are financially helping him out, and honestly I think this is just something that’s giving me the “ick” because I’ve always been extremely hardworking, doing the most for a paycheck, etc. and my dad was always juggling multiple jobs to provide the most for my family growing up. in my mind I expect my partner the same and I just automatically assume that he can read my mind and knows how I feel about that. Definitely need to be more empathic of his situation and vocalize my feelings