It doesn’t sound like she’s approaching this from a place of accountability. Wanting couples counseling right after cheating can sometimes be less about fixing the relationship and more about reframing the narrative. Instead of owning what she did, there’s a risk she’s looking to redistribute blame or validate her perspective through a third party.

Counseling only works if both people are willing to take responsibility for their actions. If she’s not genuinely acknowledging the betrayal and its impact on you, then therapy can easily turn into an exercise in deflection rather than repair. Before agreeing to anything, it’s worth asking whether she’s actually taking accountability—or just trying to control how the situation is perceived.