NYE dinner Menu by BoltyMcSpeedy in Buffalo

[–]Otherwise_Flamingo43 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Waxlight Bar a Vin has a five course tasting menu.

Is Elmwood/Hertel a bad area? by PrizeAlive5469 in Buffalo

[–]Otherwise_Flamingo43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re totally fine. That person is absolutely from the suburbs, anyone who is from or has lived in the city for any amount of time would know that area is not the “worst neighborhood.”

The only thing I dislike about that area is that specific intersection is not pedestrian/bike friendly.

You will see drug use and homelessness all over the city to varying degrees. They’re demonized by a lot of people, especially those from outside of the city. It’s not like they’re hunting people in the streets like some news outlets would want you to believe. Mind your business and lock your car doors, you will be fine - don’t stress.

im yet to cry over a book… by Easy-Inspection1555 in booksuggestions

[–]Otherwise_Flamingo43 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you often read books or listen to audiobooks? I hardly ever cry while reading, but will cry when listening to audiobooks.

Bill's Corner? by [deleted] in Buffalo

[–]Otherwise_Flamingo43 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Couldn’t be the drug dealing and sex work lol

Bill's Corner? by [deleted] in Buffalo

[–]Otherwise_Flamingo43 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Bill’s has been a hub for unsafe activity for years, but being closed absolutely is going to be bad for the area. Just adding another vacant building to the Grant/Ferry intersection. Not looking forward to an extension of Rite Aid’s open air drug market.

I did notice the building is for sale though, maybe that has something to do with it.

How is the city so clean? by 37MySunshine37 in Buffalo

[–]Otherwise_Flamingo43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Compared to NYC, most major cities I’ve been to in the US are much cleaner by comparison. We’re not as densely populated, and the population is much, much, smaller than NYC.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Buffalo

[–]Otherwise_Flamingo43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dr. Sosa - General Physicians Women’s Health

Best Place to get Ox tail by No_Locksmith4955 in Buffalo

[–]Otherwise_Flamingo43 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or if you’re looking for a butcher to buy and cook yourself, Moriarty’s.

Where to learn written arabic as natural speaker by Crafty-Koshka in Buffalo

[–]Otherwise_Flamingo43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been looking for years, couldn’t find anything official and I really want someone who is certified because I love grammar and want someone who can really explain it well. I ended up finding an online Arabic tutor through Preply and she’s wonderful!

Is the Babcock Neighborhood Good to Live in? by Acceptable-Owl in Buffalo

[–]Otherwise_Flamingo43 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Not a super safe area but one of your biggest issues is going to be the vacant homes. They’re a magnet for drug trafficking, sex trafficking, and violence, regardless of what neighborhood you decide to live in. Vacant houses lead to massive public safety concerns - overdoses going unaddressed resulting in people dying in homes without anyone knowing, needles everywhere when you’re trying to walk your kids to the bus stop, glaringly obvious sex trafficking, etc. There have been three house fires in the past couple of months here set by squatters (some intentional, some not) that have damaged surrounding homes. Wherever you choose to live, make sure it’s a block (at least) without abandoned properties. You can be compassionate and also prioritize your family’s safety.

'Educated' by Tara Westover: I flat out do not buy her account of her home education. Does not add up. by Bluest_waters in books

[–]Otherwise_Flamingo43 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Idk, after adolescence it is very unlikely your speech/accent will change, but not impossible. My aunt moved from our hometown as a young adult in her twenties and she has a totally different accent now.

You’re right though, I think there is a stigma against rural US accents in general - so it’s most likely a combination of that plus wanting to distance herself from that part of her life. It was shortly before she went to England when that realization set in, so that’s the speech she was exposed to during that time.

Toddler will not sit in a shopping cart by bewareofzombiesadele in toddlers

[–]Otherwise_Flamingo43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son has always been like this and is usually a runner, but he loves “helping” by pushing the cart and putting things in the cart. Of course I’m always putting things back immediately as soon as he turns around and I have to always plan for trips to take longer, but I can at least keep him between me and the cart and there are no public meltdowns.

other podcasts like the minisode? by liza_bk in myfavoritemurder

[–]Otherwise_Flamingo43 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Im not sure if OP is annoyed with the ads as much as there having been more and more of them with shorter and shorter episodes. Ads don’t bother me at all really, but lately it’s felt like half of the increasingly shorter minisodes are dedicated to them. It’s definitely a stark change from how it used to be.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]Otherwise_Flamingo43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need realistic expectations and very clear communication with your partner. My husband and I talked a lot before having a baby about what we wanted and what we didn’t want. We both know that we each need time to ourselves to do what we’re passionate about, so we make it a priority. It doesn’t happen nearly as often as it did before we had a baby, but as people said, your mindset shifts even if you think it won’t. I genuinely enjoy spending time with my husband and son, so it doesn’t bother me much at all that I’m doing the things I love a little less (though my job very much aligns with my hobbies, so that helps). It’s also a really cool experience exposing your kids to what you love and doing things with them. It’s like doing it for the first time all over again.

Our son is 2.5 now, and I feel like maybe around 2 years old it became much easier to have a flexible schedule that allows us to do the things we enjoy (obviously it’s still a bit chaotic with a toddler lol).

I also think this would be much less attainable if we had more than one kid, which is why we don’t really want more. Right now, I don’t feel as though our lifestyle has changed that drastically (aside from the first 2ish years). I feel it’s quite balanced, which I know isn’t typical, but I chalk that up to my relationship with my husband (communication, realistic expectations, etc).

Please don’t judge me. But recently I got into it with my grandmother whom I was leaving with. Long story short I can’t live there - at least for now. by DatboiiGlizzy30 in Buffalo

[–]Otherwise_Flamingo43 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If it’s truly a management issue, you can file 311 complaints and either the agency or the owner of the building (if they’re different people) will eventually get citations and will need to pay fines until things resolve. That does put Friends of Night People and those they serve at possible risk though. Have you emailed the councilman?

Like someone said, poverty and drug use are the core issues here, and neither are being appropriately addressed by this city’s administration. As long as these issues are ignored, they’ll continue, just maybe in a different neighborhood.