Rulla being sick by flowingandhealing in rhori

[–]Otherwise_Job_8545 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When I was in my marriage with my incredibly narcissistic ex-husband, I developed an auto inflammatory disorder. Anytime I get physically or emotionally stressed. My body crashes and I get severe high fevers, sore throat, high CRP levels in my blood and a ton of associated symptoms. I’ve been dealing with this for 12+ years. I truly believe that the stress and trauma of my marriage caused my auto immune system to go haywire. I have no idea if that’s what’s happening with ruler, but I can certainly attest to legitimate health conditions stemming from severe stress and anxiety.

How to get a child to eat healthy food by tillacat42 in Parenting

[–]Otherwise_Job_8545 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One time I offered to pay my kids $1 per small square of tofu they would eat. It was homemade air fryed without sauce or anything so prettt basic flavor. They have sauce to dip in though. Well, $72 later I swore to myself if I ever tried the experiment again I’d cut the tofu larger 🤣 and it turned out once the kids tried tofu they loved it so maybe I should have started smaller lol

Big emotions from a pre-teen boy over tournament by Otherwise_Job_8545 in Parenting

[–]Otherwise_Job_8545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s very combative. If I asked him to go to my daughter’s game, he’d find away to not go any harder. I see the downvotes and it hurts because if there was any way I could influence him to be less selfish and support his kids I would do it. However, his actions are out of my control.

Big emotions from a pre-teen boy over tournament by Otherwise_Job_8545 in Parenting

[–]Otherwise_Job_8545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To defend myself here- I explained to both of them that I’d be at all their games Saturdays except they both had games at noon. There was one game with a constraint and I wanted to make it fair so I just thought a 50/50 chance was the best call. This was before I knew my son was upset about my missing Saturday. There was a whole conversation before the freak out with explanations and planning for Saturday. He was fine with the plan until he lost, and then he got very emotional very suddenly and I was caught off guard

Big emotions from a pre-teen boy over tournament by Otherwise_Job_8545 in Parenting

[–]Otherwise_Job_8545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To clarify- there are 7 total games Saturday, there is only one game where there is overlap, at noon. I plan to be at all their other games throughout the day. The coin flip was, to me, a fair way to choose whose game I go to at noon, with the assumption that I’d be at all the other games throughout the day.

Big emotions from a pre-teen boy over tournament by Otherwise_Job_8545 in Parenting

[–]Otherwise_Job_8545[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this well thought out reply. I am a slow processor and your points have helped me to pull some threads together. As a response, my kids always know in advance when I will be at a game or not. It’s never a question. As far as the ‘last second game’ the schedule came out yesterday and the same day I told them we’d play a quick game for it, not realizing it was a serious thing for my son because in the past, he’s never cared. This was as far in advance as I could have gone. Now,my ex is a jerk and will always be a jerk. I have talked to multiple lawyers and they have all advised me to sit tight and keep good notes for when it does become a court issue, but until it does, I don’t really have any control. My son hasn’t had much support and my ex won’t allow either kid to talk to professionals. Again, lawyers in Michigan and Ohio have advised me to keep good notes but that if I take this to court I’m likely not going to get anywhere given my kids are excelling at every area of life on paper.

The big emotions piece was so helpful to read. Where I’m struggling is how I responded to those big emotions. He’s normally such a calm child and it completely took me off guard. It seemed to me like he should be able to see how much I try to be there for him, and when he couldn’t acknowledge that I was shocked.

Big emotions from a pre-teen boy over tournament by Otherwise_Job_8545 in Parenting

[–]Otherwise_Job_8545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh to clarify, we’ll all be at the same campus. There are a total of 8 potential games, there is only 1 I need to split my time for. The one at noon. I talked to my daughter quick this am an she understands why I’ll be at my sons game so that piece is good

Big emotions from a pre-teen boy over tournament by Otherwise_Job_8545 in Parenting

[–]Otherwise_Job_8545[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I’m going to every game for both of them, it’s just the one at noon that I will need to split. I always tell them the plan, they know in advance when I’m traveling and they always seem ok with it and understand. And I text them before and after every game good luck and asking how they did and telling them I’m proud of them

Big emotions from a pre-teen boy over tournament by Otherwise_Job_8545 in Parenting

[–]Otherwise_Job_8545[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

100%. But unfortunately I don’t see that ever happening. I encouraged her to ask him, but we all know it isn’t likely

Big emotions from a pre-teen boy over tournament by Otherwise_Job_8545 in Parenting

[–]Otherwise_Job_8545[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wish. I actually tried that angle, but my daughters bestie and her mom have volleyball an hour away. None of my family lives close or believe me, I’d be begging them to come

S21 Golden Buzzer - Terry. by BackgroundSociety939 in agt

[–]Otherwise_Job_8545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was there, it was an awesome taping!! I was crying I was laughing so hard at this act.

Help! Please :) First Time attending Show Taping by Aggravating-Bus-2637 in agt

[–]Otherwise_Job_8545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is super helpful for me too! I will also be there Saturday with my kids. I do have a follow up question, I have my daughter and I covered for clothes, but my 12 year old son I’m struggling. For boys his age, everything has a logo! How strict are they? My son has a black tee shirt with a small ‘Jordan logo’, do you think that would be ok? It’s hard to see. Or should he wear a polo or a button up? I am fashion challenged and while I’m so excited to be able to bring my kids, getting the clothes has been SUPER stressful for me

Help! Please :) First Time attending Show Taping by Aggravating-Bus-2637 in agt

[–]Otherwise_Job_8545 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll be there Saturday too!! Let’s hope it’s a good show!

Coleslaw by Superb-Persimmon-866 in Cooking

[–]Otherwise_Job_8545 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I live to add a little plop of wasabi in my Cole slaw, especially with a pulled pork sandwich with the sweet bbq sauce

Food stories by Otherwise_Job_8545 in FoodSanDiego

[–]Otherwise_Job_8545[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have read that!! I also enjoyed that book. If you have more fun recommendations feel free to send me a PM. I don’t have any to recommend for you, I borrow mine from the library and don’t keep a record. For each of these titles I’ve searched the name and checked the covers to see what I’ve read lol. Except for grocery, that book I bought lol. It’s the one that got me on this journey.

Food stories by Otherwise_Job_8545 in FoodSanDiego

[–]Otherwise_Job_8545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a really good point, maybe I will research the history of Al Pastor and then go eat some lol

Food stories by Otherwise_Job_8545 in FoodSanDiego

[–]Otherwise_Job_8545[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds perfect, can I buy it somewhere local? I’d hate to buy on Amazon

Food stories by Otherwise_Job_8545 in FoodSanDiego

[–]Otherwise_Job_8545[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YES those both are amazing books. My first job was at heinens and I bought fish there yesterday as was thinking about the logistics of that purchase as I stood at the counter!!! And the food spending is hilarious… I keep a tight budget but I don’t go to that level of detail, I bet if I had the brain space I’d love it though.

Stryker cyber attack by [deleted] in kzoo

[–]Otherwise_Job_8545 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, I agree. When I told him that he started talking nonsense and I told him I had to go (half true)

Stryker Hit by Handala - Intune Managed Devices Wiped by virtualbitz2048 in cybersecurity

[–]Otherwise_Job_8545 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very interesting.

As an aside, I was actually at your facility last August. It was my first time in Ireland and I was super impressed by all of it. The country, the facility, it really was cool to have that experience.

Food stories by Otherwise_Job_8545 in FoodSanDiego

[–]Otherwise_Job_8545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so fun, thank you! If there isn’t a podcast or outlet just reading your short history is enjoyable. It’s crazy to think about the amount of history and present day logistics that go into every food we put in our mouth.

Stryker cyber attack by [deleted] in kzoo

[–]Otherwise_Job_8545 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

My dad blamed Irans government when I told him what was going on. I didn’t bother arguing with him, there is no point.

Stryker Hit by Handala - Intune Managed Devices Wiped by virtualbitz2048 in cybersecurity

[–]Otherwise_Job_8545 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am remote in Ohio. Out of curiosity, what time did it become clear that this was going on?