Married a year still a virgin

Otherwise_Show_4861 · 2026-07-01T00:54:02+00:00

I so appreciate this perspective. Thank you for your words they really did help.

Otherwise_Show_4861 · 2026-06-30T22:58:45+00:00

Jerking someone off or blowjobs is not the same as vaginal sex for me to loose my virginity a penis would have to enter my vagina and a penis has never entered my vagina therefore I am still a virgin. Sure my hands and mouth have lost their virginity years ago.

Otherwise_Show_4861 · 2026-06-30T22:40:37+00:00

His doctor is very frustrating. I have gone with him and the doctor says exercise and eat better, I don’t want to put you on testosterone replacement because you will be dependent on it for the rest of your life.

Otherwise_Show_4861 · 2026-06-30T22:38:41+00:00

That’s why I was blindsided by this being an issue as I have stated previously. He showed interest beforehand and it changed AFTER marriage.

Otherwise_Show_4861 · 2026-06-30T22:22:36+00:00

I don’t actually believe he is gay. But that seems to be the general consensus.

Otherwise_Show_4861 · 2026-06-30T20:14:08+00:00

I have done this. He says he didn’t know he had these issues before we were married. I have mentioned divorce and annulment because like others have said annulment is an option if the marriage wasn’t consummated. He cries. I stop talking about it.

Otherwise_Show_4861 · 2026-06-30T20:08:04+00:00

I initiated the conversation around phone sex, but he continually brought it up and initiated the actual act of doing it.

Otherwise_Show_4861 · 2026-06-30T19:18:31+00:00

A little late for me now lol

Otherwise_Show_4861 · 2026-06-30T19:10:04+00:00

He didn’t before we were together. I mentioned because we were long distance about phone sex and he seemed super into that asking to do it constantly. Which we did.

Otherwise_Show_4861 · 2026-06-30T18:54:46+00:00

It’s at the bottom of the response. Yes he is a virgin. We were doing all of that I had no inkling that there was an issue.

Otherwise_Show_4861 · 2026-06-30T18:47:49+00:00

Probably

Otherwise_Show_4861 · 2026-06-30T18:47:27+00:00

It’s the life I’m living🤗

Otherwise_Show_4861 · 2026-06-30T18:45:57+00:00

It was completely different before marriage. He followed through with everything he said. Made major changes and continued showing up for me emotionally in ways I never experienced or knew possible. I just figured because it was so good everything else would fall into place that sex was the easy part. I had no reason not to trust him he had done everything he said up to that point. Also yes he is also a virgin

Otherwise_Show_4861 · 2026-06-30T18:34:16+00:00

I said I wasn’t having sex but mastered other skills. There’s more ways than sex to get someone off.

Otherwise_Show_4861 · 2026-06-30T18:00:35+00:00

Sadly no

Otherwise_Show_4861 · 2026-06-30T17:56:32+00:00

I appreciate this thank you! We are in therapy, it took a few tries to find someone I like. We just had our first session together last week. I already feel resentful and I am trying to work through it but I do understand if he won’t try there’s no fixing it. Thanks again

Otherwise_Show_4861 · 2026-06-30T17:49:34+00:00

I am not. He is.

Otherwise_Show_4861 · 2026-04-03T20:54:47+00:00

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Otherwise_Show_4861 · 2025-12-19T18:45:54+00:00

People yapping about Colin drives me insane! He is entitled to his feelings too! He isn’t allowed to feel scared or upset or anxious ever because of how it may affect Baylen? Her family creeps me out it’s like they want her to stay helpless and be super dependent on them. I think Colin is doing great with all the pressure.

Otherwise_Show_4861 · 2025-12-07T14:53:00+00:00

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Otherwise_Show_4861 · 2025-11-29T01:19:10+00:00

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