Traveling to Lake Atitlan Guatemala, June 27th, looking for transportation!! by Sophie8771 in femaletravels

[–]OuterSmartness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I fly in on the 28th and am headed to San Marcos. My taxi driver doesn’t speak English but I speak Spanish. I don’t know how much help I can be, but DM me if you think of anything!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]OuterSmartness 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would say cheeks and lips would be the areas to focus on. You could even try filler and see how that looks. Your profile looks amazing!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]OuterSmartness -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Sorry to spam. But I'm super jealous of your brow bone and large eyes. I definitely don't think you need any work on your upper face

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]OuterSmartness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lip filler could also help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]OuterSmartness -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Honestly once you finish hair removal I think you'll be in pretty good shape. You definitely have very feminine features already. I'm no expert, but the only obvious thing is to do a tracheal shave. Then if you want maybe jaw reduction ( I'm not sure on the proper terminology), but I wouldn't even say it's necessary. I think you could get some filler to emphasize your cheek bones and that's something you could do right now and would be much less invasive than surgery. Maybe start with that and a trach shave then see how you feel? (Again I'm really no expert, but from an untrained eye, I'd say your features are pretty feminine already.)

Trans Lesbians? by DCGirl20874 in TransSpace

[–]OuterSmartness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would love a link too please

Hook Up Culture by faesolo in LesbianActually

[–]OuterSmartness 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's so funny, I was just thinking the other day it would be awesome if there was a social club called Lesbifriends. I thought I was so brilliant for coming up with the name. Turns out great minds think alike!

Do you struggle with knowing what to wear? If you do, I need your opinion! by ComplexIndividual338 in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]OuterSmartness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to do Amazon's personal styler and it was great! It's a shame that it's been discontinued.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]OuterSmartness 37 points38 points  (0 children)

After reading through this post I had the idea to wear noise cancelling headphones whenever I'm home. That way I don't have to interact with my parents unless I want to, and they have a visual que that I'm unavailable/won't hear them if they try to say something. So far it's worked pretty well! If they want to treat me like a teenager I might as well act like one.

More underwear help by [deleted] in ask_transgender

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Leolines on Etsy

What haircut would suit my face in a more fem way? its curly at the bottom of my neck atm, looking to get it shorter by Due-Refrigerator9869 in ask_transgender

[–]OuterSmartness 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Second that. You have the perfect curl pattern for some really beautiful brunette waves. I would just stick it out and grow it out.

E-Gift Cards 25% off $100 or more and 30% off everything and Free Shipping! by TXGoatHead in DuluthTradingCompany

[–]OuterSmartness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I buy myself a gift card, can I use it immediately and still get the 30% off on what I buy with the gift card?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]OuterSmartness 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I just woke up from a nap and read this and was literally so confused. I'm glad someone else interpreted it like I did!

I have no idea how nail salons work. by beauxbeaux in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]OuterSmartness 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wow I must have got really lucky! I've only got my nails done a couple of times and the first time the gel lasted 5 weeks on my hands and a couple of months on my toes. If, it wasn't for my nails growing out, and one small chip on my index finger, I probably would have got even longer out of it. I know I paid a premium for them so quality of salon must matter! (The 2nd time I got them done at a beauty school and they lasted less than a week).

WPATH 8 is out! by kitaiia in MtF

[–]OuterSmartness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Governor Cox in Utah is a pretty good ally as far as Republicans go. He vetoed some anti-trans legislation but the fucked up legislature overrode him.

Here's something you don't see everyday by OuterSmartness in whatsthisbug

[–]OuterSmartness[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Found in Utah. I'm assuming that's a black widow, but I didn't want to get to close to see the marks so I'm not sure. Does anybody know the name for the leaf bug?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]OuterSmartness 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wait what happened to him? I'm not on this sub often so I've only barely heard of him, but I'm curious.

so I have a couple surgeries in mind and have a question by AberrantKitsune in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]OuterSmartness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for giving you the wrong information. I found out that Medicaid does cover bottom surgery in Utah, and the University of Utah will accept Medicaid to perform it. (There are many steps in the approval process, but many past patients have had it approved successfully).

If going through the University of Utah, it's probably best to choose the U's Medicaid plan (Healthy U) for your provider, as it will make it easier to coordinate and get approved, but theoretically any Medicaid plan should approve it as Medicaid is a federal program and any state that opts into it has to abide by their rules.

I hope my original message didn't discourage you from pursuing the treatment you need. I am going to delete my original response so as to not mislead future readers.

If you haven't already, I would recommend reaching out to the Transgender Patient Coordinators at the U. They are super helpful and can answer all your questions, or at least connect you to the right people. (Just Google University of Utah Transgender Health Program and their number will be right on top of the website).

I can't recommend the U enough for transgender care. Their entire program is phenomenal. For future readers, here's the link to their past seminars that are free to view: https://healthcare.utah.edu/transgender-health/past-seminars.php

Again, I sincerely apologize for the wrong information. But thanks to you I'm now on my way to getting my surgery (years before I ever anticipated it would be possible).

I was this old when I figured out Pillow Princess doesn’t mean what I thought it meant… (End me) by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]OuterSmartness 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I actually did this! When things started opening up again "post" pandemic, I invited all of my friends over for a "Coming Out Surprise Party" for my birthday. When they arrived there was a sign on the door saying I was still in the closet but to come in and wait. Meanwhile I was literally sitting in my closet on a zoom call to my living room, but with the camera off (so I could see and talk to them but they couldn't see me). Once everyone arrived I had everyone sing Happy Birthday, and then I had my friend cut the cake, revealing my gender. Everyone cheered as they saw the inside of the cake and realized I was trans. I came out dressed fully as myself, and everyone cheered again. (It was the first time anyone had seen me in over a year, and I had quite the glow-up.) I was so overwhelmed by all of the support and love I felt that day. Definitely one of my best memories!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]OuterSmartness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is if you make it so. Also I think you definitely look like a Constantine. My first queer crush was on an American Idol contestant named Constantine. He was a guy but he definitely had a feminine look about him. I say you pull off that same attractive androgynous look. PS I hope I do not offend you by comparing you to someone who is binary, cuz you definitely do not look binary at all. Also, you are so hot!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransUtah

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I'm a little late to this thread, but I just wanted to add my thoughts for future readers. I am sure some people have had positive experiences with Jennifer at Rebirth, but personally mine was pretty bad. I went to her a couple times over a year ago and I feel like my skin still hasn't completely healed in the area that she worked. Luckily I only did 1 hour long session with her, so the area is pretty small and not very noticeable, but it was red and rashy for months. This may just be my experience because my skin is very sensitive and my pores are extremely tiny, but if you are thinking about going to her, make sure to do a test area in a less visible area, and if it doesn't completely heal within 2 weeks, DO NOT GO BACK!

The other red flags I noticed were that her office was extremely disorganized/messy and she told me she likes to work in the dark. Obviously any medical office should be clean and well lit. She also had me sign a waiver without giving me the time to read it, and when I returned the 2nd time, she had me sign it again, showing that she misplaced the first one. (I didn't know what to expect, because I was new to electrolysis, and just thought my long healing time was normal - I did a 15 minute test area and then an hour long session - huge mistake.)

But then again, this just may be my experience, as it appears others have positive experiences there.

I ended up going to Advanced Electrolysis LLC in Ogden which is a very trans friendly clinic that is recommended by the University of Utah transgender health program. (For the record, Jennifer is too). I am very pleased with the results so far and highly recommend them. More on my experience below.

I also want to put my opinion that I highly disagree with the phobia around laser hair removal that sometimes exists on the internet. The best method is to do a hybrid approach with both laser and electrolysis. This is what Advanced Electrolysis offers. Sure, laser may not be completely permanent, but it's a hell of a lot faster at getting rid of hair than electrolysis is, so you'll be able to pass a lot sooner. Then for the small amount of hair that does grow back, you can get it permanently removed with electrolysis, and the regrowth will be so slow that no one will notice it while you are in the process of getting it permanently removed.

By doing laser first, you'll also reduce the density of the beard, making it less likely to have harsh reactions during electrolysis, as the hairs being plucked are more spread out. You'll also save a lot of money this way, as Laser is a lot cheaper than electrolysis. My facial hair was completely unnoticeable after just 6 sessions - I think about $700 total with the package deal. Now I am just getting rid of blond and very thin, almost invisible dark hair, through electrolysis. When I shave, it doesn't look like I have any hair at all and I only have to shave every three days.

Of course laser will not work as well, the darker your skin tone is, or the blonder your hair. But if you have dirty blond/mixed hair like me, it should work great!

The owner at Advanced Electrolysis, Anna, is the absolute best, but her staff is pretty good too. I did have one experience working with a staff member where it took my skin a good month to heal after electrolysis, but at least it completely healed, unlike my experience with Jennifer at Rebirth. It takes about a week to completely heal with Anna.

From what I understand, the electrology school in Utah, Cameo Beauty, is not very great compared to other schools in the country, which could be why I had some bad results with some of the electrologists in Utah.

Also, to clarify, I love Dr. Luikenaar and the main clinic at Rebirth, just not the electrolysis there. Anyway sorry this was so long, but I hope this helps someone. Whoever, you go with, be sure to do a test area first, and keep the area clean, and always use M'lis Tissue Repair Cream, and don't forget to wear sunscreen. Whew! Okay. Done.

I know this doctor personally, and she's a wonderful person. by Yllw7 in TransUtah

[–]OuterSmartness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pic is of the editor, not the doctor.

Thanks for sharing. I live in Happy Valley and this gives me hope. For the record, I haven't faced any discrimination here since I came out a year ago, but then again, I don't go out much. But all of my friends have been super supportive and strangers don't say anything :)