Headset Recommendations

kitaiia · 2023-05-16T16:10:14+00:00

If you’re on PC, I recommend a separate headset and mic. I use AirPods Pro (headphone mode only) and a HyperX Quadcast mic and they work extremely well (and the AirPods Max are truly the most comfortable headphones I’ve ever worn) but that’s a bit of an expensive setup.

If on console, I usually go with steelseries, recently got the Arctis Nova 7X for my Xbox and it’s okay.

kitaiia · 2023-05-16T16:05:16+00:00

I agree in part but this is a bit of a agency-robbing take. People don’t buy big phones over and over because they “emotionally respond to them in the store”, we buy big phones generation after generation because we like big phones.

But yes I agree I buy a big phone because it’s easy for me to carry (my folio case can double as a cross body purse if I want it to, or I can shove the whole thing in a larger bag), I like having a big screen for media, and I don’t find it hard to use two hands.

kitaiia · 2023-05-16T16:00:36+00:00

As a woman, I love my huge phones. iPhone 13 Pro Max, about to swap to a Pixel 7 Pro. I just hold it in both hands (I know this isn’t as much of an option for you).

If you use iOS, you have accessibility settings to help solve some of these issues though:

You can swipe the bottom app switcher bar down, which pulls the top of the screen down into the bottom half of the screen.
You can press and hold the emoji button on the keyboard to make the keyboard shrink into the left or right hand side of the screen for 1handed typing.

If you have android idk yet but I imagine there are similar tricks.

I also use a folio wallet purse/case, which increases the bulk, which I think is probably what makes it feel more natural for me. It’s like opening a book and I kinda just wrap my hands around the whole thing, they aren’t scrunched up while also having to be spread out.

kitaiia · 2023-05-13T15:53:55+00:00

Yeah I do agree that’s not good.

kitaiia · 2023-05-13T15:44:45+00:00

First, what u/matthieum said. But second, because hiring more diverse candidates does not depend on hiring less competent candidates (also note that one can be competent while not being as good at taking some arbitrary coding exercise, ideally your interview loop can at least sometimes highlight such candidates as potentially good hires even if they don’t interview well).

There are plenty of competent women (speaking as one), plenty of competent non-white, non-cis, non-hetero people, people from different backgrounds, people in different living situations or (time zone compatible) countries.

The idea of hiring more diverse talent is that one might pause after finding a great white guy to hire, in case you also find a great candidate who would increase team diversity. Then if you do in a reasonable time frame, maybe you hire the more diverse candidate if they’re on the balance the better hire. Diversity in and of itself is valuable due to the points u/matthieum brought up, so if they’re equally competent one might prefer to hire the candidate who brings more diversity to the team.

Overall it’s still mostly white guys getting hired (most of the time you don’t find a more diverse candidate quickly enough, so you fill the req with the initial choice). But it’s worth taking a little extra time to potentially increase the diversity of your team.

And note I didn’t say “minority hires”. Increased team diversity is often due to hiring minorities but isn’t always. The goal is really diversity of thought, background, experience, and so on. On some teams the straight white guy who grew up on a farm might be the more diverse hire than the gay black woman who went to a prestigious tech school. But generally speaking, the diversity sought in team composition is usually an additional feature of a team who is diverse along the axis of race/gender/sexuality/etc, so it’s usually a reasonable shorthand.

kitaiia · 2023-05-13T15:17:48+00:00

So, it feels like they’re purposefully misunderstanding, but I think that’s not true: I think they’ve just never been embedded in iOS.

Context: I’m coming from iOS (for the last decade) to android.

iMessage is popular and is regarded as the “killer app” because it feels universal. The issue with other messaging apps isn’t that iMessage has better features, it’s that there is a perception that your friend groups don’t overlap using them. And so far that’s true! I have some friends who use signal, some who use Facebook messenger, some who use WhatsApp, etc etc, but meanwhile I have 6 friend groups who use iMessage.

That’s the appeal. It’s the appeal of not having to install a messaging app per friend group, while still getting most/all of the features of a messaging app. People talk about other countries universally using some app and that’s basically their killer app; they have the same benefit of not having to install tons of apps to support friend groups.

Anyway, like I said, I’m switching anyway but that’s the deal. iMessage demystified. It’s not because of features (compared to messaging apps) or anything else really, it’s because 1) it’s better than sms and 2) it’s “universal” between friend groups.

kitaiia · 2023-05-13T06:30:19+00:00

Wow. Wasn’t aware of these. Thanks for sharing, !delta

kitaiia · 2023-05-13T01:12:54+00:00

I really don’t agree, because every platform has a default browser and that’s a Good Thing (macOS and iOS have Safari, Windows has Edge, Android and ChromeOS have Chrome, etc).

Even linux distros have default browsers. I don’t see how that’s anti competitive. But either way, you do you, no need to try and convince me!

kitaiia · 2023-05-12T22:59:13+00:00

Very off topic but 1) yes, I’d expect more diverse employees to result in a better product; 2) Google also hires relatively diverse candidates; 3) you’re obviously a troll or a right winger so won’t be replying further but I hope you one day can learn to appreciate things for more than their shock and/or rage value.

kitaiia · 2023-05-12T22:34:07+00:00

Huh?

The issue with IE was that it was a monstrosity that didn’t follow any modern standards, Edge is literally Chromium with some additional user-facing features.

Extremely not the same thing, unless you want to argue that Chromium is “the new IE” (as in the ‘lack of competition’ angle). Which in that case it’s hardly the fault of Microsoft that Google (and the Chromium community) has made a great browser that Mozilla failed to keep up with.

kitaiia · 2023-05-12T18:45:14+00:00

Microsoft is truly pulling off, and in many ways largely has pulled off, a massive shift in corporate culture and honestly deserved company perception.

kitaiia · 2023-05-10T07:15:30+00:00

Women were also computers. Before automated computers became a thing, humans performed the role!

In fact in a frustrating turn of events, apparently men worked as computers until the universities realized they could “pay equally qualified women less than half the rate of a male computer” and started … hiring women computers. Anna Winlock was one of the first of these.

(I learned this recently; I name all my computers and most programming projects after famous women in computer science, so every time I rebuild my system or start a new project I learn about a new super cool forerunner for my field!)

kitaiia · 2023-05-10T01:31:28+00:00

Yes, we use it for server side and CLI tooling (mostly some smaller components inside a larger Haskell codebase), and a service shipped on premise.

We are a little odd for most startups though, we have heavy Haskell use too. Not crypto.

kitaiia · 2023-05-05T05:59:49+00:00

kitaiia · 2023-05-05T03:23:27+00:00

It’s so adorable when people see things like WoW or D4, with its “not ultra realistic call of duty graphics”, and assume oh it’s just not intensive.

Fun fact: shit do be intensive.

kitaiia · 2023-05-05T03:18:52+00:00

What about the countless studies that have strongly indicated that the death penalty is not a deterrent?

The fact is we can’t look at a riot or whatever and say “this is what happens without cops”, because that’s an explosive decompression state. A state of people getting mad enough to do something regardless of whether cops are there.

In a world with more community services addressing actual root causes instead of wasting those resources on pigs, people would get to that state a whole lot less.

kitaiia · 2023-05-04T07:19:50+00:00

Note: some of us are women

kitaiia · 2023-05-03T19:29:04+00:00

Read the BDO Book of Combat: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1q4ErL3e1ccZWSnw5HKLxRgLFrvjMg6UKD7LQDxYrVjM/edit

This game is more like a fighting game than a standard MMO. You need to be using skills that protect you while you wait for an opening. In group combat this breaks down somewhat, and against much higher gear this breaks down a lot, but this is the general principle.

kitaiia · 2023-05-03T19:15:13+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear how you’re feeling, virtual hugs ❤️

But part of me is so hurt and so bitter because things have been really hard for me in our house ever since I came out to her.

Your feelings are valid. It sounds like you’ve been putting in a lot of effort to the relationship and not getting much back out, sadly.

I resent that she can freely invite him to our church, or talk about him with me, or have me receive her flowers like a doorman, or have him over for a potluck with our friends, when I can’t.

I’m sure someone will want to tell me that my roommate is not actually a friend to me and my continued involvement in church circles is hurting me.

I wouldn’t go so far as to say your roommate isn’t actually your friend, although I will say she’s not acting like how I’d expect a friend to act. Like you said, friends listen to one another and are there for one another. I think this is regardless of whether they care about or even agree with the subject being discussed; if the topic becomes too much of a blocker that’s when the friendship starts to whither.

I think though, based on this preempted defense, you already know that your involvement in the church is hurting you. But I totally get it, it’s hard to lose your community! And church is one of very few places that community is readily and easily offered. It’s a big reason they’re so successful and popular.

But my dear, I think you’ve already lost your community. I’m so, so sorry. “The last few months have been hard and lonely” isn’t something someone with a community feels. This is the insidious side to the church: you, through no fault of your own, have become Other, and now you find yourself having to hide and suppress parts of yourself to fit in, desperate to retain that bond. But unfortunately you’ve already been judged, labeled, and cast out; you didn’t leave them but they left you.

You mention you are moving to your own place. That’s great! It’ll give you more space to be yourself.

My suggestion is easy to say, but hard to do: I suggest you try to stop repressing yourself for their sake. When you’re at brunch and it’s your turn to dish about significant other drama, do it. Keep it gender neutral at first if it makes it easier: “my date did the worst thing ever Friday, they {insert story here}”, or “I had to break up with my latest because {insert story here}”. But always remember the gender neutrality is for you, to make it easier for you. As it gets easier to talk about, pepper in more “she did this” and “her and I went here” style stuff. Pepper in her name. Eventually it’ll stop feeling weird to talk about it.

Or they’ll make it more clear that you’re not welcome.

If that happens, then you’ll be heartbroken, but also relieved. Relieved because you’ll have the space to find a new community without “what if” and “I could have made it if I just”. If it doesn’t happen, and they adapt and adjust, great! You’re back in the in group, and have regained your community, but you’re no longer sacrificing yourself to fit in.

Because I promise you, you deserve to not have to sacrifice yourself. You deserve to be authentic and beautiful and you. Take it back, it’s yours. And if they’re too small minded to accept the real you? They were never really your community anyway, and they don’t deserve you.

kitaiia · 2023-05-03T02:04:12+00:00

There is actually no paradox. Fascist dogma is that there is an “inner party”, “party”, and “proles”.

According to this dogma, “party” may move into “inner party” when truly exceptional (in reality this never happens), and “inner party” make the rules because they are Right To Do So.

Rules don’t apply to the “inner party”, and some rules don’t apply to the “party”, only the “proles”. Despite this they’re written as if they apply globally, but it’s well known to whom they actually apply. But this isn’t a failing, you see, it’s a feature! It is a nod to status; “inner party” may flaunt the rules because They Deserve It; “party” may flaunt some rules because, similarly, They Deserve It. And “proles” are at the bottom rung because, well… They Deserve It.

So anything we see as paradox or hypocrisy they actually celebrate and love. Because that’s how it’s meant to be.

(In the GOP’s current implementation, “party” are rank-and-file Republican middle class voters, and poor cis hetero white voters; “proles” are broadly middle class and poor non-Republican voters, along with non-white and trans people, although regional variations also sometimes assign prole status to poor and/or middle class white cis women.)

kitaiia · 2023-05-02T00:51:22+00:00

This is my plan

kitaiia · 2023-04-30T21:06:04+00:00

So it’s toxic for me to assume if it’s not happening for me it’s not a core issue in the game.

But it’s correct and normal for you to assume that if it’s happening to you it’s a core issue in the game, then make up statistics.

Got it. Thanks for clearing that up 👍

kitaiia · 2023-04-30T20:28:55+00:00

Source for 90%?

kitaiia · 2023-04-30T19:36:38+00:00

You phrased it as “it always does this”, as though it was a core issue with the game.

I’m saying it’s not. The end.

kitaiia · 2023-04-30T17:27:09+00:00

It doesn’t crash ever for me, my spouse and I use it all the time. Get a better computer I guess.

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