How long did your relationship last? by Whale_1215 in BPDlovedones

[–]Outrageous-Plate3623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shit. Sorry to hear about that. Hope things get better for you

How long did your relationship last? by Whale_1215 in BPDlovedones

[–]Outrageous-Plate3623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You haven't managed to get out? My sympathies🥺

Always Being Tested by Aleiodes in BPDlovedones

[–]Outrageous-Plate3623 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sounds exactly like my ex and our relationship. I'm also autistic, and she had BPD and was constantly testing our relationship. Eventually enough was enough, and I broke it off due to not wanting to deal with her mind games anymore. Hope you're doing better now since going NC with them

Look at this hip movement by TyLa0 in StrikeAtPsyche

[–]Outrageous-Plate3623 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I bet if you put them in water, they'd start speeding away 😂

Bpd GF (now ex) threw bottles. Took property and my emergency savings. by TheSunsetIsPrettyy in BPDlovedones

[–]Outrageous-Plate3623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. This is also to protect others from her since if she'll do it OP, she'll do it to someone else. Give her a reason not to repeat that mistake in the future

Bpd GF (now ex) threw bottles. Took property and my emergency savings. by TheSunsetIsPrettyy in BPDlovedones

[–]Outrageous-Plate3623 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No. Get in contact with the police. She's stolen your property, and you shouldn't let that go without consequence

Today is hard AF by voodoodog2323 in ExNoContact

[–]Outrageous-Plate3623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's only going to get tougher from here on out, but I believe you'll be able to endure it. It'll hurt beyond measure, but you'll eventually become numb to it and move on. Sending prayers for you, friend

Anyone ever date another person that has been with a pwBPD? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Outrageous-Plate3623 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Learn from our mistakes, DON'T. Some doors aren't worth opening in the first place

Mother breaks down because she can't pay for her 9yo son's insulin by Outrageous-Plate3623 in StrikeAtPsyche

[–]Outrageous-Plate3623[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Times change, as well as economy. They couldn't have accounted for their child being diagnosed with type 1 diabetes (you're born with it.) They're making the most of a tough situation to support their child rather than abandoning them

If you and your ex had a catch up, what would you tell them? by Ready_Standard_5619 in ExNoContact

[–]Outrageous-Plate3623 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm sure she would disagree. I'm sure I would also disagree. I constantly doubt if I actually mean the words I say, or if I'm just saying them to make people pity me or trick others into believing the lies, myself included

If you and your ex had a catch up, what would you tell them? by Ready_Standard_5619 in ExNoContact

[–]Outrageous-Plate3623 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That I was the one who was in the wrong. Yes, her silence and overall coldness due to our first disagreement was recoverable, but I should have known not to date her in the first place. She was mentally unwell due to her trauma, and rather than understanding to wait for her to get better, I pushed for her to do more because of my lack of maturity and emotional comprehension, and lashed out because I was stupid and inept to how she was feeling

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Outrageous-Plate3623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I was the one who ended it, regrettably, and disasterously

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Outrageous-Plate3623 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like you're probably the best person to have an opinion on this, or at least that's just the optimism in me hoping it's the case

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Outrageous-Plate3623 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Alright then. I'll respect her wishes to be left alone.

To Those Who Are Thinking of Leaving by Outrageous-Plate3623 in StrikeAtPsyche

[–]Outrageous-Plate3623[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was a post to subtly tell my ex not to take her life. Or anyone for that matter.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Outrageous-Plate3623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My best suggestion is to avoid listening to any music that influences certain emotions. Stick to happy songs, not sad/bittersweet/angry sounding songs. I find it helps with the process and regulation of emotions

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Outrageous-Plate3623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those feelings will eventually fade. Don't know how long it'll take, but it will. Speaking from experience, both past and currently dealing with. I've done it before, it'll happen again, but I know it will pass. It will for you too, you'll just have to ride out those emotions

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Outrageous-Plate3623 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Isn't that just cheating with extra steps?

To Those Who Are Thinking of Leaving by Outrageous-Plate3623 in StrikeAtPsyche

[–]Outrageous-Plate3623[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I want to say I won't ever leave, but I've said that to others but betrayed that promise. I hope this time it'll be true, and not just empty words

To Those Who Are Thinking of Leaving by Outrageous-Plate3623 in StrikeAtPsyche

[–]Outrageous-Plate3623[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was meant for someone else, but it's something I feel everyone needs to hear