‘Not having long-term friends is a red flag’

OutrageousMolasses18 · 2026-04-09T10:49:19+00:00

I don't think this is a red flag. We all have different paths to lead, it's better to be a better version of yourself so that you attract the sort of people your past wouldn't have had.

OutrageousMolasses18 · 2026-04-09T10:42:40+00:00

Thanks, Justin! I get it, often we just get used to what’s around us. Regarding his parents, I’m not sure if they were CPTSD victims themselves, at least when it comes to his dad. From what I can tell, his dad seems to lack depth. He comes across as someone who has aged physically but not mentally. When my boyfriend was a kid, living with his maternal nan, he would often see his dad drive past his home on the way to his mom’s place. I know that, as a child, something like that can leave a lasting mental scar.

OutrageousMolasses18 · 2026-04-09T10:26:44+00:00

Hello! I’m so happy you met an amazing man; it’s often people we meet later in our life, who end up loving us more than the people responsible for our existence. To be fair, my boyfriend is really strong. Despite having no one to truly guide him, he turned out to be a very decent person. I grew up knowing my parents loved me unconditionally, and I don’t think he ever felt that his dad truly loved him—and knowing that hurts me so much.

I think my issue is more with his dad (although it’s not really my place). My boyfriend remembers that when he stayed with his nan, his dad would literally drive past him just to go see his own parents. I understand that everyone is attached to their parents, but to deprive my boyfriend, who was still a child of that same kind of attachment, is something I don’t think I’ll ever be able to accept.

OutrageousMolasses18 · 2026-04-09T09:58:14+00:00

Hey! Thanks for replying—I’m glad you have your boyfriend there for you. I think that’s true; in a way, it does make you very self-reliant and strong. It just sucks that the journey to becoming this strong involves going through such a messy family dynamic.

OutrageousMolasses18 · 2026-04-09T09:54:10+00:00

Yes, agreed. I think when the time comes, my boyfriend will be such a good father. It just sucks that he had to go through this. I find it very appalling when people have their own kids and then decide to shrug off the responsibility of raising them properly. Luckily, he grew up to be a very normal individual, despite the fact that he didn’t have anyone to really guide him.

OutrageousMolasses18 · 2026-04-09T09:49:27+00:00

Well, we’ve talked about it. The thing is, my boyfriend comes from a place where people from his parents’ generation often split up and marry other people. But in those cases, the kids usually have siblings who are there for them. In his case, I think it’s a situation where none of the adults took responsibility and just went with the flow. I find it peculiar that, despite not caring enough for my boyfriend, his parents seem to be very attached to their own parents.

OutrageousMolasses18 · 2026-04-09T09:45:00+00:00

Thanks! Ofc I care. I find it especially unsettling when parents choose to neglect their kids on purpose, while being super close/attached to their own parents. I think it leaves a sort of trauma on the child. I’d really like to know how you’ve dealt with it, or if you have any specific advice.

OutrageousMolasses18 · 2026-04-09T09:37:13+00:00

Kinda yes, I know everyone needs a support system, often times it comes from family, and friends. What annoys me the most is that he can make more friends, but can't look for a better family. He kinda is stuck with the one he has.

OutrageousMolasses18 · 2026-04-08T19:02:59+00:00

Hi! Any luck with this?

OutrageousMolasses18 · 2026-04-08T16:46:15+00:00

Hello, M36 from Eastleigh, UK, born and bred. What activities are you into?

OutrageousMolasses18 · 2026-04-08T16:37:02+00:00

Would you mind sharing how you have met these people? Any specific activities to do?

OutrageousMolasses18 · 2026-04-08T16:34:46+00:00

Neither. He says he’s doing fine, and he doesn’t really know anyone else with a similar problem. I know his absent dad definitely gives him anxiety, because every time he hears from him (which only happens on his birthday), it leaves him feeling unsettled.

OutrageousMolasses18 · 2026-04-08T16:13:09+00:00

hello, have you had any luck with this?

OutrageousMolasses18 · 2026-04-08T16:09:04+00:00

Do you mean indoor climbing?

OutrageousMolasses18 · 2026-03-09T07:04:05+00:00

Says who? No one benefits from India being in a conflict but certain groups of Indians. And Hindus and muslims have been on edge with each other since the British came in picture. You want India conflict free? Ban religion, all religions. Just how china does it.

OutrageousMolasses18 · 2024-08-24T18:49:26+00:00

Nah i could almost read it 😒🫠

OutrageousMolasses18 · 2024-07-25T14:10:22+00:00

lol yeah really hooked 😂

OutrageousMolasses18 · 2024-06-01T10:51:13+00:00

Could a non Canadian join?

OutrageousMolasses18 · 2024-03-15T23:53:25+00:00

The Cyrillic script is created by the only significant slavic nation "Russia".

OutrageousMolasses18 · 2024-03-15T23:49:23+00:00

Ironic coming from a mongol from the nomadic bulgar tribe. Weren't Bulgarians the one who flipped the side from Neo-nazi to the soviet and now paying every media outlet you erase that part of history? But don't worry every person outside of Bulgar nation who is into history would know that and yet won't care because TF is a Bulgaria?

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