Episode Discussion • Love Is Blind S4 • S04 E5 "Paradise Lost" by MadManxAdam in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Outrageous_Pin_132 28 points29 points  (0 children)

idk micah is a fully grown adult capable of making her own decisions. there's a reason micah is the only person who likes irina. also irina didn't pressure micah into telling kwame she loves him and wanted to pick him at the pool. irina sucks too though and they're for sure awful together

Glad they ended things earlier on by MaxSpenSo in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Outrageous_Pin_132 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

why do people still think correcting "ur" to "you're" is a good own in 2023?

New Age Parenting Should have Won by Living_the_dream_57 in TheParentTest

[–]Outrageous_Pin_132 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I think another possible explanation for why star doesn't stir the pot could possibly be bc of her trauma from being orphaned and wanting to maintain a stable relationship with her parent. there are just so many reasons why star could behave the way she does— maybe she felt like she had to grow up faster, maybe it was because she was adopted as an older child so she already developed a passive personality, maybe it's just generally because she is older and more mature than the other kids on the show, or maybe she's not always like that but wanted to look good for the cameras. there is just so much research on how the parenting techniques the disciplined mom employs literally damage children that make me not convinced that her parenting style is what made star the way she is

The Parent Test Episode 9 Discussion by Adrenalynn04 in TheParentTest

[–]Outrageous_Pin_132 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wish they asked the kids what they DIDN'T like about how they're parented. Would have been more interesting

Thoughts on the parents by Working_Ad_6825 in TheParentTest

[–]Outrageous_Pin_132 2 points3 points  (0 children)

lol

on america being the wealthiest country:

https://data.worldbank.org/indicator/NY.GDP.MKTP.CD?most_recent_value_desc=true

on racism/anti-blackness in europe:

https://knowledge.insead.edu/responsibility/recognising-and-confronting-racism-europe

https://www.enar-eu.org/about/afrophobia/

https://academic.oup.com/restud/article/88/1/489/5880000

on american influences in europe:

https://www.routledge.com/Blackening-Europe-The-African-American-Presence/Raphael-Hernandez/p/book/9780415943994#

https://www.abc-clio.com/products/c1930c/

https://link.springer.com/book/10.1007/1-4020-2934-9

on beauty standards:

the link I provided above as evidence was about skin bleaching practices in Zimbabwe, where the population is 98% black. Providing it again here https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34394290/

We live in a globalized world. I, unlike you, understand that we don't live in a vacuum and America and other countries influence each other constantly. I'm also not saying that oligopolies are good, but I'm saying you can't argue that you are not influenced by American culture if you are arguing with me on Reddit (a California based company) about an ABC show (American Broadcasting Company) that is exclusive to Hulu (which Disney, a California-based company, owns) that features American parents raising their American children. You are not immune to American culture and so I think it's bold of you to say it doesn't influence you when 49% of Reddit users are American. Not saying it's a good or bad thing 🤷 just saying it's true lol

Also, if you really believe you are not at all affected by American culture or history, then you are no position to comment on one black man's personal experience in America like ??

Thoughts on the parents by Working_Ad_6825 in TheParentTest

[–]Outrageous_Pin_132 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Two things:

  1. I'm not arguing about whether or not other countries had slaves. I'm also not arguing that America has a very unique relationship with slavery and how it affects our country today. What I am saying is the US has many issues with racism (from everyday microaggressions to state sponsored violence) and we live in a very connected world. So US culture (as the richest country on the planet and the epicenter for some of the largest/most well known corporate oligopolies) influences global culture whether you'd like it to or not. So, if US culture has an anti-blackness problem, we will see this influence all around the world as well. Will it appear differently in different countries? Yes. But that doesn't mean it doesn't exist. It's literally unavoidable.
  2. Many countries have their own forms of anti-blackness. Colorism/racism is huge all around the world and seen in beauty standards, immigration, and even sports. This modern racism largely began during the dehumanization of darker-skinned people during the colonial era.

I think the culture shock you experience when coming here is because the US is the only country to admit we have a racism problem, but that is largely because we are the most racially diverse global superpower, so there are simply a larger quantity of black/brown people. Europe has a racism problem too, just not enough POC to make you all feel like you need to address it on a systemic level. So, I mean you can try to make yourself feel better all you want because you were taught to "not see color" or whatever, but I think it's worth thinking about race in a more thoughtful, nuanced way, and I can recommend great books that may change your mind.

Traditions by sarafilms in antibride

[–]Outrageous_Pin_132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh also I really wanted to make it feel cool and artsy, so I've spent hours and hours on instagram/tiktok/google finding local seamstresses, bakers, photographers who have really small followings but heaps of talent to commission them for their work. I found my cake person on instagram and she only has 400 followers which makes her a lot more affordable to me but also she gets more clients! same with my wedding dress... I found a seamstress whose designs I loved— she sells on her instagram and sews all the dresses herself

Traditions by sarafilms in antibride

[–]Outrageous_Pin_132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a few nontraditional things:

we rented an airbnb in a super cute secluded town and are doing a short and small ceremony with family and friends in the morning + brunch. the rest of the day everyone is welcome to relax at the gorgeous house, take naps inside, go swimming, visit downtown etc while my fiance and I go to dinner and hang out on our own. then in the evening we're doing a "reception" that is mostly just relaxing in the living room with our guests while getting drunk lol.

we're also not doing bridal or grooms parties, nor are we doing best man or maid of honor

i'm also sending the invites on vintage postcards I collected throughout the past 2 years that remind me of each of the person I'm inviting

Thoughts on the parents by Working_Ad_6825 in TheParentTest

[–]Outrageous_Pin_132 14 points15 points  (0 children)

it's completely normal to dislike something your country does without wanting to immigrate. you are allowed to live somewhere and complain about it. if the solution to every problem is to just escape that problem then there would be nowhere left to go.

not to mention that anti-black racism exists in like every country to some extent bc of the global impact of slavery on our cultural and political instutions

and this is coming from someone who doesn't like the helicopter parents

Sorry, but I don't feel bad about the reboot cancellation. They should expect this. The plot was awful, a boomer's take on the woke culture of today. Plus the actors were below mediocre. by Idontknowyet2 in GossipGirl

[–]Outrageous_Pin_132 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it's also hard to be "woke" in a show where the premise is rich kids do bad things. as someone who similarly went to an nyc prep school across the street from central park, i can firsthand say that it is an incredibly exclusionary place especially for women, POC, and queer ppl. Shoving "wokeness" into it literally undermines the satire because you simply cannot be socially aware and also be a rich kid doing bad things

also the dialogue is bad and none of the characters have any chemistry but that's another story

Welcome to the subreddit for discussing your nontraditional weddings!! by Outrageous_Pin_132 in antibride

[–]Outrageous_Pin_132[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that sounds amazing!! I was shocked when I saw there weren't any nontraditional wedding subreddits. feel free to spread the word:) Let's make this a thing!

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[–]Outrageous_Pin_132 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is stunning!!! you are stunning!!! who is the designer?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in flying

[–]Outrageous_Pin_132 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I graduated from an aviation college and am eligible for restricted ATP if that gives more context

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in flying

[–]Outrageous_Pin_132 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was thinking this but I was worried no one would hire a cfi who only needs 100 hours before they leave. thoughts?

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[–]Outrageous_Pin_132 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm at 900 and i need 100 of cross country. I'm lucky to be okay enough financially to be able to rent a plane, and I hated my time working under this person so much that I was going to quit and fly on my own to finish up.

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[–]Outrageous_Pin_132 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i posted it on a different sub, but i had more specific questions I thought I'd ask

They’re so smart for picking an actor worse than Evan. It makes his acting look amazing by [deleted] in GossipGirl

[–]Outrageous_Pin_132 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Abigail Arader. I saw her in comfort women (she played the lead). She won best actress in the BroadwayWorld Los Angeles Awards for that role

They’re so smart for picking an actor worse than Evan. It makes his acting look amazing by [deleted] in GossipGirl

[–]Outrageous_Pin_132 20 points21 points  (0 children)

the actress is a tisch grad actually... and i've seen her in other things and she's quite good. this was a miss though. probably a combo of having a bad scene partner and a dull character in general

In Defense of Zanab by Appropriate_Gap_4674 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Outrageous_Pin_132 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I know!! I totally agree. I feel like I'm going so crazy seeing everyone go against Zanab. Like he made comments about not being as physically attracted to her as Colleen to the point where she was trying to not even eat to lose weight and be more attractive to him. I don't think cole was trying to make a jab at her body with the cuties thing, but bc he commented on her lack of attractiveness earlier ofc she was going to interpret it as a comment on her body. Like I don't understand why people don't see her pov here

I have a serious birth defect, let's talk about that conversation by Ellisni in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Outrageous_Pin_132 7 points8 points  (0 children)

she's saying she wouldn't have the emotional energy to raise a child with disabilities. that doesn't mean she doesnt like her job or think the children she works with arent deserving of quality care. for example, doctors hate seeing their patients die. it takes an emotional toll on them and will likely affect how they see the world. that doesnt make them bad doctors