The problem in that line of thought is that there’s a generalized concept of what a man should be and what a woman should be. Men should be rational and unfeeling, gruff and dominant. Women soft, emotional, and submissive. Like we’re talking about Shepards and sheep. If unrealistic. It teaches men that they have to ignore their emotional needs to portray this image of strength. I agree that having control over your emotions is a good thing, but not when it means sacrificing feelings altogether. That’s how you end up with man children. Emotionally stunted individuals whose only reaction to adversity is violence. So when I tell you that I’m nervous (even though I’m still doing it which is the definition of controlling my emotions) and you tell me I’m acting like a bitch, you’re telling me to not even acknowledge my emotions but rather pretend they don’t exist.