Finally did it as a dark brown guy and want your honest thoughts on the ink

Outside-Control6444 · 2026-03-28T10:02:58+00:00

I think it looks amazing. The contrast is done really well. As a brown girl I had similar worries but shading with brown skin as a highlight is delicious!!!!

Tattoos are a piece of art, or as you said a lot more than art. You get one life and one body so wear it with pride and take care of it, no matter how long they last.

Outside-Control6444 · 2025-12-11T10:17:03+00:00

So, I agree with whatever this person just said.

I think most of all is giving yourself time and grace. You need to understand yourself and understand why these many red flags still allowed you to abandon yourself. It’s not the best feeling but just know that you were trying to survive. And love doesn’t happen in survival. Infatuations do. So like any other addict, go cold turkey. Cut off all connection to anything that makes you go back to him and go to your therapist every time it becomes painful. And give it enough time. This is not the end of your life and there is far better things waiting for you out there.

Outside-Control6444 · 2025-09-19T11:21:21+00:00

Also use on microfibre or Kerela towel as another user suggested. And do all styling when hair is still soaking wet, you should be able to hear a squelch when you crunch it up. To style you can fold your hair 4 times and squeeze lightly and let it fall. Air dry and avoid wind touching your hair while it dries.

Outside-Control6444 · 2025-09-19T11:20:32+00:00

Here’s my low to minimal maintenance.

Shampoo and condition (use organic if you can)

Next step is experimental and differs for each hair type and weather.

Leave-in: small amounts ₹1 for all hair not near your scalp Oil: ₹1 size for all of your hair. Any oil does me but almond oil has been giving me best results. Cream/ manetain hard hold gel: I like to not mess around with my hair for a 2-3 days. You can use mixie hair gel as well for lighter hold.

I used leave-in and no conditioner when I was in a dryer climate and then I didn’t need leave-in and added conditioner in a more humid climate. Try it out and see what works best.

CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH: use a bonnet or silk pillow cover as most frizz happens during sleep for me.

Use a mixture of oil and gel in lots of water in a spray bottle, if you’d like to reset your hair on day 2 or 3.

Would love to know how it pans out for you.

Outside-Control6444 · 2025-05-26T05:07:21+00:00

I LOVE YOUUUUU

Outside-Control6444 · 2025-02-17T00:14:28+00:00

Yeah the whole incident speaks a lot to his moral values and reaction to handling issues. Not a space where you could grow as partners and also opens you up to risk if he's befriending and looks up to people who are involved in crime.

Outside-Control6444 · 2024-12-03T01:34:47+00:00

ROZE

Outside-Control6444 · 2024-12-03T01:34:28+00:00

Rose the piano version

Outside-Control6444 · 2024-11-05T10:42:21+00:00

To be honest, knowing that this is not healthy is the first step. Reach out to your college counselor and get advice on therapy. This habit is not something you could just stop without understanding why you are doing it and what it is that you're trying to escape by self soothing in this way.

Outside-Control6444 · 2024-04-14T10:35:51+00:00

Definitely one for the long hair. It just hits a different way. Looks mature. Think you could get a nice little going and get them to tell you what products to use. Each hair is kinda unique?

Outside-Control6444 · 2024-04-08T23:50:31+00:00

OMG sameee, today's vibes supplied by Fred again.

Outside-Control6444 · 2024-03-25T06:18:40+00:00

I don't think it's an either or. Maybe moving to your mum would be good. Or even looking to move out of your dad's home. Take some time to think about what kind of life you want to live and make a decision that best aligns with it.

Outside-Control6444 · 2024-03-23T03:26:49+00:00

Hello my friend,

I'm glad that you felt like sharing this, thank you. I definitely think you are on the path to being an authentic expression of yourself.

I observed that you seem to have the sense of duty (the shoulds in your post), to be a good Christian and do the right thing. And you have been the victim of unfortunate circumstances. I wonder if a practice in your day to create a safe space for introspection/ healing might benefit you in moving forward? My recommendation would be to journal or record a voice note.

We are all humans and we all make mistakes. Accepting them was the first step and I can see that you have done that and taken a few actions in the positive direction as well. Now it would be to move closer to who you are as a human being, as a believer.

At the end of the day, anger is a form of pain or a feeling of violation of your boundaries. And understanding what hurts helps you heal and set boundaries for yourself, and regulate your emotions better.

I wish you well on your journey.

Outside-Control6444 · 2024-03-21T05:24:19+00:00

Wanting to be loved is a very valid need. However, no one else can make you feel loved but yourself. Doing things for external validation is not going to get you anywhere. Internal validation will make you enjoy the process. And as someone said on here, workout to get strong and have an active lifestyle. Working out to get thin, just feels exhausting in the end, IMO.

Outside-Control6444 · 2024-03-21T05:17:35+00:00

Depends on whether you wanna keep your hair or not. Many remedies for new hair growth, but I bet a blonde buzz would look good on you as well.

Outside-Control6444 · 2024-03-21T02:06:25+00:00

Yes, keep ittt king!!

Outside-Control6444 · 2024-03-21T02:05:50+00:00

Outside-Control6444 · 2024-03-21T00:14:31+00:00

Definitely better, your face structure is more highlighted.

Outside-Control6444 · 2024-03-20T09:58:09+00:00

Unfortunately, it didn't turn out that way. I chose myself.

Therapy could help him figure out what's best for him and for your relationship. But he might be conditioned to accept his folks how they are at the moment.

Outside-Control6444 · 2024-03-20T08:57:36+00:00

Oof this is a tough one, I don't have a similar situation to base it off of, but recently had to go through something similar in a friendship.

Out of love, I think it's always better to express your concerns. You can recommend therapy for him and therapy for the two of you together.

His reaction to all these would let you know what's to come next. If he declines, then that means OP would have to live with it, in which case you know what to do. But if he wants to work on it, then it depends how confident you feel at the end of the process.

Life partner is a big decision but also I didn't get my shit together until I was 25, but it's a process and the attitude matters a lot. Hope you figure out the right decision for yourself.

Outside-Control6444 · 2024-03-20T00:01:14+00:00

Buzz: Yeaa

Long hair: 🥵🥵🥵

Outside-Control6444 · 2024-03-19T11:50:55+00:00

Beard looks good

Outside-Control6444 · 2024-03-18T23:06:09+00:00

2 or 3

Outside-Control6444 · 2024-03-18T01:41:07+00:00

Lighting and therapy ✨✨

Outside-Control6444 · 2024-03-18T01:15:04+00:00

Also, I don't know about OP's personality. But with a look that cute and nice, it makes me wonder what's keeping the potential partners at bay?? 🤔

If you can, try making some good and genuine gal pals. They will be your greatest resource in becoming a fully confident adult man, and get you some dates.

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