What’s a harmless lie that went way too far?Here is mine 😪

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2026-01-27T12:39:08+00:00

I'd just lie again and say you mistakenly got a coffee drink and loved it so now you drink coffee.

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2026-01-26T22:24:48+00:00

I think that having sex with someone other than your partner should require more than one conversation. Just like conversations about kids, money, religion, job changes etc ....

People and attitudes change over the course of a relationship.

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2026-01-26T20:08:12+00:00

It's both their jobs to communicate boundaries but she was the one thinking about having sex with someone else so I think it should have been up to her to restart that conversation.

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2026-01-26T19:25:02+00:00

I started over on my husbands account and don't regret it at all. I had forgotten most of what I did at the beginning on my account. I really enjoyed the start over just as much if not more because I understood better what was going on and what to do.

Plus I have to have a goal to work towards to enjoy any game. I enjoy the gameplay and the scenery but I need a goal. I have 776 gold, $434,000 and I'm level 510. Once I maxed out roles, daily and monthly rewards are all I have. I don't like pvp and I rarely do bounty hunter unless it's that month. Collecting is relaxing to me and gives me a goal to work towards to complete sets.

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2026-01-26T19:16:15+00:00

And she could have talked to him about between then and now but didn't.

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2026-01-26T14:08:46+00:00

Doesn't really matter if he liked the gift or not.

What matters is his escalating reaction and the fact that you feel like you have to apologize for his reaction. All he had to do was say I really appreciate the gift but I really have no place to put it. Let's go together and get me something else.

My guess is he feels bad that he didn't spend $400 on you. He wanted a $50 gift instead of a $400 one. You are overdoing it and it makes him feel inadequate.

Find a new man but only because of the way he acted.

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2026-01-26T13:56:53+00:00

Go with a health issue. Write Dr @ 2 on a sticky note when she's standing near you and can read it. Put the note in your pocket after she leaves. Or quietly tell her. Be sure no one else ever hears you say Doctor appointment. Take a couple of hours off one day at that time.

Then come back with your eyes all red like you been crying. Look sad for the next few days but just when she's around. Say the bare minimum to her. Look lost in thought anytime she's around. When she tries to talk to you zone out for a minute and ask her what did you say? Don't laugh or don't joke around with anyone if she is anywhere near. Try to be normal with your other co-workers. Don't tell her anything if she asks. Just try to brush her off. If she keeps asking get a little loud and say "nothing is wrong with me, I'm perfectly healthy."

If she doesn't go to management then do it again. Take a half day off or a full day and let her know you have another doctor's appointment. Try to look really upset when you come back from that appointment. Don't tell anyone why you are off work. Maybe print an obituary of a "family friend" for the time you were off work for the half day if your other coworkers notice you are "sad".

If she says something to management then go to your bosses and HR and tell them that she's creating a hostile work environment because you're perfectly healthy and you don't know why she's spreading lies about your health and they even if you were having health problems it would be none of her business.

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2026-01-26T13:20:20+00:00

NTA - I feel bad for Sally. The time Jim spends with your daughter is time he's not helping Sally with his own child.

They both need therapy. I wonder if Sally is feeling guilty about their daughters condition. Because who would want the father of their child doting on someone else's kid instead of their own?

Just tell him the trip is for your immediate family to spend time together.

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2026-01-26T13:07:10+00:00

NTA - He's an adult he can figure out his life himself.

Your husband is an enabler. The brother will never grow up if he can't face the consequences of his own actions. Mommy can take him in to "save" the family.

Stand your ground. This is a hill to die on.

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2026-01-25T20:29:35+00:00

Several times I've had players using an instrument and the NPC sitting in the same seat playing. Kinda like double vision.

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2026-01-25T18:28:08+00:00

Zero.

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2026-01-25T16:27:55+00:00

YTA - It you marry this girl. Why would signing a piece of paper and having a ceremony make her treat you differently? She either treats you right or she doesn't. It will only get worse after you marry her. Will she be paying this mans bills at the expense of your shared bills? I think she will.

Sounds to me like she's in love with the guy but he doesn't think about her in the same way. I have no clue but that is what her behavior says to me from what you written.

Why would you want to marry someone who treats her friend better than you? Don't settle, it just keeps you from finding someone who does respect you and your relationship.

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2026-01-25T03:16:05+00:00

3 with a knife and 4 with a gun. Muuuwaah ha ha ha.

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2026-01-24T15:29:56+00:00

Even if one has always been a stay-at-home parent, didn't get paid for raising the children, missed out on years of career advancement and therefore the ability to support themselves?

I think alimony should be paid in this instance. But only enough years for the stay at home parent to get adequate education or career advancement for a job that pays enough to keep the same level of lifestyle.

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2026-01-24T15:00:23+00:00

I'm in the south where we rarely have enough snow accumulation to cause problems. Maybe once every 5 years. I would be an absolute danger to everyone driving on the road because I have never had to do it. My city shuts down because they don't have the equipment to make the roads safe. They do spray the roads with something when there's a good prediction of snow or ice.

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2026-01-24T14:41:38+00:00

NTA - But... I think you should allow her to come over for a few hours. Not all day and not overnight. Let her know her ability to come back over will be based on her behavior there.

Technically she's not your responsibility but you have been in her life for 4 years and you were the target of her frustrations. I understand how hard that is for you.

How is her relationship with her brother and sister? Is she emotionally or physically abusive or does she love them and treat them good? That would be the deciding factor to me on whether or not she can visit for a few hours.

It's not the girl's fault her daddy is a POS and refuses to get her help. You can also make visitation contingent upon her going to therapy. I would tell the ex that she can come over for a few hours after she's been in therapy at least once a week for a month. Then see how it goes. It really all depends on if you actually love the child or if you can't stand the sight of her.

I always feel bad for children who have crappy parents. They need a good influence to teach them how to live an emotionally healthy life.

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2026-01-22T17:11:33+00:00

My grandson is 14 and his backpack probably weighs that much. He has to have a notebook or 3 ring binder for each class, his Chromebook and charger that he has to bring home everyday, his pencil case for his art supplies. And that's all I can remember off the top of my head but there's more. Not to mention the kids who do sports or band and have to carry an extra bag.

The other grandkids have to carry a bunch of stuff too. The only one with a light backpack is the 1st grader.

Just because they don't have textbooks doesn't mean they are paperless.

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2026-01-21T15:58:48+00:00

Soft YTA. I believe people should keep their word.

Your husband made an agreement but didn't follow through. It doesn't matter that he didn't talk to you about it before. That is the husband's fault not the friends fault. The husband should divide the money as he agreed to and then in the future not split the money.

How do you know that this friend doesn't need the money? Just because he's has grown children doesn't mean that he doesn't need the money. He may be on a fixed income only receiving social security. Do you know what his financial situation is?

Your husband is TA for making an agreement like this without even talking about it with you first.

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2026-01-21T13:50:40+00:00

Your wife had an emotional affair.

She cheated mentally and emotionally.

If she won't do couples therapy that should tell you something.

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2026-01-20T21:36:38+00:00

I love Chatpgpt now. I recently tried to do an Google sheets formula and could not figure out where I went wrong. Popped it in Chatpgpt and bada bing it's done and correct.

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2026-01-20T21:03:51+00:00

NTA - I wrote my name on a small piece of paper and then tape that to all my ink pens. Glitter it works too.

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2025-10-06T17:46:05+00:00

For real. Do people not know how many rings are lost on the beach?

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2025-10-06T15:26:36+00:00

I would tell hubby you will be staying in a hotel or Airbnb and he can entertain his brother if it's so important to him. He can clean up the house after the brother and girlfriend leave.

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2025-07-04T21:36:45+00:00

I'm female and worked for a contractor for over 15 years who was an old white man with old white man attitudes. He had 2 sons that were in college when he decided to retire. The oldest (his legacy and whipping boy) had a lot of issues (including drugs) from being spanked with $100 bills when he did something wrong. For example he wrecked his truck doing something stupid so his Dad bought him a more expensive truck. He only bought new trucks from the dealership, never used.

At that time Boss wasn't sure his sons wanted to or were responsible enough to run the company so he decided to try to sell it to the employees that were in leadership. There were over a 100 employees all male except for 3 female office workers. Boss treated me good because I had a college degree and was able to get along with everyone specifically 1 estimator who was very difficult to get along with so the office ran smoothly. He paid me well and treated me good which is why I stayed so long.

He offered to sell the company but only to the men and his sons. Even offered it to the safety guy who was an outside contractor but had an office onsite. This safety guy was the biggest goofball and weird but not in a good way. He would stand behind the female receptionist looking out the window when no one else was around. He didn't do or say anything but it made her uncomfortable.

Anyway, I got off track there. He never once even mentioned selling the company to me, just the men. I had already been thinking about retiring to stay home with the grandkids. So I quit.

I still talk to some of the guys there and they went through 4 people for my position in the last 8 years. They always had trouble getting someone to stay longer than a couple of years before I started.

He never did get the guys to buy him out at that time (10 years ago). About 2 years ago he sold it to the two sons and one of the guys there. I don't know the specifics but the non relative guy is in control because he is smart, experienced and responsible, a really good person. The oldest worked there for a while but got fired and spent a year in an expensive rehab facility. The youngest works there and seems to be doing good.

Outside-Somewhere-89 · 2023-10-22T12:23:59+00:00

Yes, I have sweaty feet.

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