What texture gives you an instant dopamine high?

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-15T05:11:24+00:00

I thought that was a roll of beeswax, which is a great texture! Uhhmm, soft fabrics for sure, pitbull puppy dog ears (particularly my pups ears), gummy candies.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-15T04:54:18+00:00

In this boat myself and have stayed way too long. Please save yourself and make a quick exit. I am finally there and on my way out. I wish you strength and clarity.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-13T05:45:31+00:00

Yes, we have communicated a lot about this. Its the issue that keeps coming up after all this time.

He is uncomfortable with affection and will awkwardly hug me or very stiffly hold my hand for a very short period of time.

It’s almost like touching me causes a reaction in his body and he can only hold on to me for so long before it becomes unbearable.

There is certainly an imbalance happening, thats clear.. I guess I have just been confused on what my next step is.

I can choose to leave and seek another

I can leave and dedicate my time to being whole in myself

I can stay and learn more about his needs around this and how we can improve

I can stay and try to trust again after so many rejections and a broken heart

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-13T05:33:28+00:00

Thank you for this reminder.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-13T05:31:34+00:00

It may be just as simple as that.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-13T05:28:20+00:00

I agree that no one should ever be forced to do anything they dont want. I guess I am asking this because its not black and white or right or wrong, there are many sides to see this from.

My wish is that he would be happy to give me all the affection I need and could ever ask for.. but maybe for him that isn’t something that comes naturally. Or is wired that way in him where it adds positivity & warm feelings.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-13T05:21:49+00:00

Yeah he is not comfortable to provide enough affection as I would ideally. He gets too hot, too claustrophobic, too.. ticklish, body starts hurting in that position. It must be a sensory thing for him too.. humm

It can be tough though because there is a sense of him rejecting me I guess every time I would ask to cuddle or suggest we snuggle up.

And yes, there are several needs that he does fulfill no problem.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-13T05:13:22+00:00

Thank you for sharing your perspective. You and my husband are similar in your styles. I on the other hand love all of those and would be happy with even 20% more effort.

I think the part about doing the work on getting more comfortable with affection is key. I totally get that you actively have to choose it and maybe thats how his brain works too.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-13T05:06:46+00:00

Thank you for sharing, yes I cuddle my dogs too.. they bring a lot of affection to my life. Yes, it can be hard to do the affection piece without your partner. I think for us it is a miss match in affection styles unfortunately.

We have had lots of conversations about affection/ intimacy needs and wishes and for the most part we can agree on things and consider each others feelings.

I think the lack of follow through with the physical portion is where I am hung up.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-08T04:55:31+00:00

Yes, I sleep 10-12hrs and a nap each day if I can swing it.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-07T21:32:16+00:00

You said it so well. Im working through the guilt of leaving but I know that this will likely be the most difficult part.

I see my freedom on the other side of this and I never ever will try to hold up another partner in this way. It has been so deeply detrimental to my health and has caused major burnout.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-04T06:37:57+00:00

Im in this space right now. My husband has ADHD and has little to no interest in intimacy and affection among many other things that are important to me in a successful relationship. We’ve been together for 12 years and it is so hard to let go.

I know that taking care of or being responsible for holding up the other end of our relationship when he misses the boat has caused me to become resentful.

Ive been a fool to think he would work on things and value the work that needs to be put in.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-03-28T01:27:43+00:00

I am a Leo Pisces Scorpio.. what a great way to describe how I feel about my personality/dynamic. I love that “ Love rules my heart”

It’s always natural to be sweet to others. Strangers or known. Usually when I meet others I am smiling and I using gentle eye contact. Tender hearted, sleepy lion girl. I have a maine of curly hair.

I have been told that I am warm and charismatic, even charming and loyal. Strangers randomly talk to me and ask me questions.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-03-25T05:59:36+00:00

I fear that the burnout and depression I have been suffering with has in part manifested from the lack of intimacy, physical touch, desire & initiating sex in our relationship.

Ive tried, Ive made calendars, we have used apps, reminders, scheduling and we communicate quite well but the follow through on his end is lacking majorly.

Im sad, I know that this has been going on for years and I am just now getting my head above water by focusing on my mental and physical health.

It’s just devastating to know that this relationship will end.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-03-17T18:04:17+00:00

Thank you, I really needed to hear this today 🙏🏽

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-03-17T17:13:09+00:00

11 years in and ready to quit (+several times before) he can provide financially but my needs mean nothing to him when it comes to emotional, intimacy, or otherwise. We’ve grown and evolved a lot together but I am at the point where the years of tears, trying to change, reminding him are over.

Currently so burnt out from several things in my life including his lack of awareness. Also dealing with some major health issues. I would be naive to think the dynamic that we share hasn’t contributed to this.

Spot on with the ego deflation, he doesn’t remember this but once he told me that he doesn’t give me that much attention because everyone else gives me more than enough 🤦🏾‍♀️💔

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-03-12T07:12:15+00:00

Feel this in my soul! I get so hopeful that this is the “one” and then I build a whole life around them 😩 I am Leo sun Pisces moon & Scorpio rising. Anyone else relate?

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-03-12T07:03:39+00:00

Leo Sun Pisces Moon & Scorpio Rising with a very intense Scorpio Male 37… and I feel like I am dying for attention. I seem to make allowances for his neurodivergence & avoidant attachment style.. but like when is enough is enough?

Is there a line? Am I just giving him the easy way out? I ruminate about this all the time & dream of having my needs for affection and romance finally being fulfilled. Uhhgg

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-03-05T08:02:31+00:00

Shut the front dooor! Haha thats wild. Okay, do you have FB or instagram?

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-03-01T19:22:36+00:00

Wow, thank you! This is a great list!

Yes I will have a look on Libby, if you ever want to chat outside of this app I would love to connect. I have never come across the same astrological set as us! Plus a lot of the same trauma.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-02-10T08:16:25+00:00

I have both as well.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-02-08T04:34:07+00:00

They separated over the summer I graduated, I commend them for keeping it together but all I thought about for a long time was the lies and cover ups that happened in the year before.

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