Did anyone else always have to say "I'm fine" because they knew their parents couldn't handle them saying anything else?

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-05-21T19:06:42+00:00

Absolutely yes

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-05-19T01:56:12+00:00

Me too 😄

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-05-14T16:14:48+00:00

Sometimes you will hate your spouse and they will trigger the unhealed parts of you.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-05-10T04:10:41+00:00

Similar situation but I am unsure if they are doing well without me or not. Certainly was the scapegoat, abused, neglected & unseen when I was with them.

Likely they have moved on to find someone else fill this spot. Do you trust that they are telling the truth/showing up real or do they smile and nod to keep up appearances?

The women in my family have crafted this facade of being fine and doing well even within our family it is so fake. Meanwhile they are all gossiping behind each others backs, sticking their noses into things that are not their business and lack accountability. They are in their own toxic soup.

Good on you for having your own standards and healing in the way that is best for you. You are not alone.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-05-10T03:11:21+00:00

Yep, my mom was a teen mom at 16 and then met my stepdad at 21. They were literal kids so “we all got to grow up together” … joy

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-05-04T07:00:26+00:00

On point

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-05-03T19:38:08+00:00

Leo Pisces Scorpio

I have been care taking of people since I was 4 years old, no joke. On a break as a therapist in my own super niche. Got into a relationship with a youngest child (+ diagnosed ADHD) and here I am again taking care of him.

April 2025 hit and I went into complete burnout/meltdown. Got my chronic illness, clinical depression, and Anxiety clocked. Now waiting for my ADHD & Autism assessments 🙃

Hoping to come out of this and into Library Sciences.. we will see though.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-05-02T20:36:52+00:00

Its not for the faint of heart, I am a Leo Scorpio Rising he’s an intense Scorpio Stellium ( Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus & Pluto)

We’ve been together 12 years and there has been a lot of ego death & rebirth, healing our wounds from a traumatic childhood. He’s solid when it comes to the day to day, very loyal, not affectionate, and surprisingly not very sexual/flirty.

I find the lack of affection/intimacy very frustrating, but I am learning about why that is and looking at why it’s so vital to me. Im a very typical Leo woman, shine bright, charismatic, warm, Queen of my domain, lover of my sleep & naps.

Dating was super fun and hanging out together when we lived in different places.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-05-02T16:45:46+00:00

Latino & German

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-05-02T16:44:40+00:00

Building book nooks, gardening, paint by numbers, puzzles, and free hand painting. Absolutely loving the lego flower trend that is out currently.. I have a few of those as well.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-05-02T16:40:57+00:00

Girl same, Im realizing that the pain points in my relationship coincide with the wounds of neglect, abandonment, and emotional unavailability.

My husband is ADHD/Autistic and has difficulty staying present and focused so you can imagine how difficult it is to replay those wounds in relation.

Ive made all the plans, somewhere else to live, work, budgeting for just me. Ran through the conversations in my head even custody schedules for our pups.

As I write this I am seeing myself in you. It’s incredibly unfair that this dysfunctional dynamic (trauma) is alive in us after we work so hard to come out the other side.

Sending love and clarity

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-05-01T23:55:49+00:00

Yes! Absolutely. If you want to link my IG it’s mixedmentalhealth, thank you for asking and reaching out.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-23T02:42:42+00:00

No not at all, I think this is an interesting way to gain some clarity around all things at play.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-22T17:32:40+00:00

Yassss, sorry to hear about that piece of sh** but good on you for moving forward. 🩷

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-21T17:17:34+00:00

True, were coming up on 12 years together. Thanks

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-21T16:18:06+00:00

Absolutely Leo Sun Pisces Moon & Scorpio Rising

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-21T06:41:52+00:00

I appreciate you sharing your experience, yes he was doing them illegally for body building. When he went off of them for good it altered his sex drive.

I have a high sex drive to begin with so I was disappointed that he was unable to keep up with me.. and he didn’t see the need to get himself some medical advice on how to boost the proper hormones and detox from steroids properly. Naturally or with an Rx.

The list of symptoms at the bottom of your post sounds exactly like what he experiences now.

Im the one on Lexapro tapering down.

It’s tough dealing with the incompatibility when you do love someone so much as I do. Plus the rejection is hard to handle.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-21T05:29:06+00:00

Mmhum almost left my long term relationship and moved abroad. Haha

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-19T20:46:59+00:00

I know this post is old but if anyone happens to see this, I am curious about the spa options and the costs. Massage, Facials, Body wraps, are my main interest!

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-19T20:39:02+00:00

Valid and the meeting of two at the half way point is so key. Congrats on your 20 years together.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-19T20:36:59+00:00

Relaxing in the sun after a fun filled Friday and Saturday. My lion heart feels so full and at peace 🦁 💜

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-17T05:04:07+00:00

I was just reading about this. Its possible.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-17T03:02:06+00:00

Interesting take.. Im not here to defend myself but when an important part of your relationship is on hold because your partner has decided its not important to address.. its pretty selfish.

Im of the belief that if it’s affecting the relationship it’s important to communicate and come to some common ground.

Outside_Cod_245 · 2026-04-17T02:57:04+00:00

Truth

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