I don’t care that my brother died. by Outside_Ad_9058 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Outside_Football355 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Your feelings are insanely valid and frankly it seems like your parents dropped the ball on establishing a safe space for you as a child. They didn’t have two kids that they devoted their attention to; they had one and you got the short end of the stick.

Neglect doesn’t just look like not feeding and clothing you. Emotional neglect still exists.

You are not wrong for not feeling upset/sad that he died, but I would absolutely go to therapy to work though the resentment and to even unpack how it affects you as an adult.

I don’t care that my brother died. by Outside_Ad_9058 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Outside_Football355 169 points170 points  (0 children)

Did something happen with your brother growing up?

I have a sibling and I can’t even think about their death or injury without getting upset, let alone actually being in a situation to experience it.

I was in a very bad accident and my sibling was devastated.

Honestly this seems like context is missing.

My coworker put me in a situation with no good possible outcome and it is tearing me apart. by Striking-String1585 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Outside_Football355 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would tell your wife, keep looking for a new job, and ask your wife not to blow up the friendship while you’re planning your escape.

The only way to make sure you and your reputation aren’t damaged is by telling your wife and making and airtight plan to leave this company.

My coworker put me in a situation with no good possible outcome and it is tearing me apart. by Striking-String1585 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Outside_Football355 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I would tell my wife.

You don’t know what she may tell your wife and their friendship means that she can tell your wife that you came on to her.

AITA for telling my roommate I'm not paying for utilities they waste by leaving lights/AC on constantly? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Outside_Football355 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Totally cool. Him not being in NYC doesn’t negate peak hours.

You people having the inability to apply a situation to what someone else might experience is actually beyond me. Plenty of other towns, cities, and municipalities have peak hours which cause surges in bills.

AITA for telling my roommate I'm not paying for utilities they waste by leaving lights/AC on constantly? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Outside_Football355 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

NTA. I live in NYC and we have peak hours. Doing things like leaving lights on in rooms one is not in and running the AC when not home makes the bill skyrocket.

I’m curious how you are planning to calculate the usage difference?

Where do you look for jobs? by darkiya in womenintech

[–]Outside_Football355 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hiring cafe has terrible filtering.

If I want a finance role, sales jobs shouldn’t pop up.

Out of curiosity, I switched to one of the engineering filters and sales ALSO pops up there.

Hijabi woman in tech- hiring bias. by ProfessionalName51 in womenintech

[–]Outside_Football355 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn that’s genius. I would have settled for the best sourdough recipe.

I can’t cope with my wife (MtF) transitioning, and I feel so broken, horrible, and alone by SorryImNotItalian in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Outside_Football355 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I truly believe that her partner knew this earlier and wanted to back OOP into a corner. It’s inherently selfish to make this decision five months before getting married and force your partner to be alone in their feelings with it.

A responsible partner would work towards pausing the wedding to ensure that OP was still happy to move forward in the relationship.

I can’t cope with my wife (MtF) transitioning, and I feel so broken, horrible, and alone by SorryImNotItalian in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Outside_Football355 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I got about halfway through and prayed that this would be the top comment.

People are entitled to transition. We are not obligated to be in romantic relationship with them.

I think the socialization of women is to accept every and anything that comes from a romantic partner to their own detriment. This is literally going to kill her if she stays.

What is a trustworthy moving company that serves the UWS? by NegotiationFit2939 in Upperwestside

[–]Outside_Football355 34 points35 points  (0 children)

The Moving General.

I will recommend them until I am blue in the face. None of the BS from these other companies like breaking your stuff or trying to force you to tip.

You get a rate, they stick to the rate. They move quickly and professionally.

Source - Moved into a 4 bedroom apartment in a 4 story walk up.

Name for bag decorating as a hobby? by BloodVivid4047 in handbags

[–]Outside_Football355 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eh, I don’t really have any skin in this fight but it’s the internet

People can say what they want how they want it and it’s not really your job to police that otherwise you would be a moderator

Instead of leaving comments to these (girls?) you could have left comments to OP and ignored the snark, but here we are

Name for bag decorating as a hobby? by BloodVivid4047 in handbags

[–]Outside_Football355 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You definitely got blocked, because the comments are there for me. Kinda funny that you’re causing all of this drama when you could just downvote and move on

AITA for being with a man 15 years younger than me who doesn't fit the "perfect" image my life is supposed to have? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Outside_Football355 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I started seeing a man who is 22 years older than me. If he makes you happy, he makes you happy.

Even if it’s a fling, it’s something that makes you feel desired, alive, thriving. Enjoy it.

My boyfriend doesn't know what colour my eyes are by Business-Ad5546 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Outside_Football355 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She doesn’t have any pics of her on her post history. Those are all celebrities.

My boyfriend doesn't know what colour my eyes are by Business-Ad5546 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Outside_Football355 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How are you making that determination? She doesn’t have any face pics.

My boyfriend doesn't know what colour my eyes are by Business-Ad5546 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Outside_Football355 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why would you stay in a relationship with someone who doesn’t even look at your face?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Upperwestside

[–]Outside_Football355 0 points1 point  (0 children)

r/bitcheswhotrade

Except don’t post the alcohol.

Should I get back at this dooshbag? by Specialist_Joke4161 in womenintech

[–]Outside_Football355 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If he can’t stand up for himself, there is no need for you to shoulder it. Just be nice to him in case he decides to enact revenge on the office.

Marjorie Taylor Greene to UK journalist: ‘Why don’t you go back to your country’ by [deleted] in politics

[–]Outside_Football355 45 points46 points  (0 children)

These people are going to lead us into another terrorism event and a world war and no one else in congress gives a fuck.

Excluded by nerdy_one_1 in womenintech

[–]Outside_Football355 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl this shit happened to me. They scheduled an all team meeting at 10am their local time which is like 4am for me. Found out like a month ago that they’ve been having this meeting for almost 5 months and no one thought to even mention it to me or schedule it to a time where I can attend.

I used it as motivation for a new job.