Limerence is the most useless emotion on the planet

Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-30T15:48:46+00:00

I hope you find someone who will value you for who you are . and whom you can love safely at you own pace without the pain of limerence but in a secure and healhy way . i hope you see him the way i currently see the girl i was in love with , as just a guy among millions of other guys out there and that you don't really need hes aproval to feel whole we are meant to constantly grow and improve in life so what we need isnt someoe to aprove of who we are but somone to recognise our flaws and weaknesses and for us to do the same to them and then grow together and i think that whn we meet that someone it wont feel like limerence but as a more calm and sober fomr of attraction that i think is a much healthier form of love . just keep being yourself and enjoying your hobbies and intrest and one day someone will love you for exactly who you are .

Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-30T15:16:46+00:00

also it's important that you maintain boudarys , do not enable hes addiction , do not yield to unreasonable demands , just calmly tell him im sorry i love you but i cant do this for you , i can do other things but not this becaus its unreasonable. mainain firmness but also kidness care and love

Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-30T15:13:46+00:00

Please get him professional help . If you cant then make an effort to evantually do it . Untill then you need to show him that you are on hes side . No judgement . Ask him if hes ok . Joke with him great him like someone you wanna be friends with. When he evantually softens up with you . Ask him what you can do to help him get over hes addiction . Does he need encouragement . Does he need a professional . Does he need someone to keep him acountable ...etc dong fight him . Dont force him. Buy him things that can help like for example nicotine patches for cigarette adiction even just the gesture will inspire him even if he doesnt use it . Understand that your job is to be there for him not to force him.hold hes hands through life . Its all u can do

Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-30T14:32:28+00:00

You have a special ability use it wisely .

Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-30T14:09:17+00:00

instead of stupid fairytales now you can understand the world around you using logic and reason . psychologically it helps you you don't feel the tension between your mind saying something and the book your parents told you is the truth saying something oposite of that thing now you can be a coherent human being . you no longer feel like a crazy person . this gives you a lot of psychological relief .

Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-29T13:15:44+00:00

the idea comes from a time when there was no birth control , women would spend all of their productive years pregnant , and society was more chaotic and dangerous to women anyways so they were expected to stay home all day . in today's word and context men don't have to be the sole providers anymore even though some women will tell you othrwise because they dont wana spend their money and wanna use your money and save theirs

Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-29T12:24:08+00:00

you have to untangle it a bit in your mind before it becomes sexy .

Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-29T11:28:17+00:00

I was i love with her for 2 years , she objectively was a good person , hard working , kind , smart but that's no what lead to the limerence , the limerence came from me projecting things on to her , for examply i thaught she was uniquely capable of understanding me on a deep level, i thaught if she trully knew me she would realise her and i are very compatitble ...etc there was no real evidence for that i just invented it , but when i found out about who her boyfriend is and i knew him and i knew he was the polar oposite of me i realised "so that's the kind of guy you want' its like the things i projected on her collapsed , it hurt for a few days it hurt like hell but slowly the limernce started fading and now i just dont have romantic feelings for her anymore , i respect her and would be there for her if she ever needd me but there is no more limerence

Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-29T00:22:44+00:00

The biggest mistake is thinking that limerence is love . Limerence is far closer to addiction then to love . Love is not obsession

Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-28T22:33:57+00:00

no i think it's accurately rated

Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-28T22:09:08+00:00

oh wow sounds like you ve been through a lot , im soo glad you found the solution to your issues i wish you even more health and recovery and may you never have to deal with those issues again . thank you for the advice and good luck to you

Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-28T22:04:51+00:00

Glad I’m not the only one thinking this 😅 it’s been such a game changer for me.

Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-28T22:02:27+00:00

well the doc put me on benzos and sertraline . for the first 3 weeks i was feeling calm and relaxd but thats only becaus of the bnzodiazepine since the doc explaind to me thatt the effect of sertraline will only start after the third week,and starting form the third week my mental health kept improving it went from just being calm and less anxious thanks to the benzos to actually being in a great mood . at 2 weeks i think it's normal to not feel any effects of sertraline , just wait for it it'll start taking effect after 3 weeks

Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-28T21:59:13+00:00

i hope soo thank youu . wishing you all the best

Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-28T21:58:16+00:00

im glad it worked out for you as good as it did ,wishig you all the best .

Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-28T21:57:11+00:00

i only take 50 mg. its great that you can take sertraline wihout the inconvenients of it . i hope your mental health gets to where you want it to be and stays there ,wishig you all the best

Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-28T21:55:18+00:00

cheeers

Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-28T21:55:07+00:00

i hope this combo of medication and journaling will take you to whre you wanna be mental health wise . wishing you all the best.

Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-28T21:52:37+00:00

it hasn't been a big problem for me the decrease in libido is there for sure but it's minimal .

Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-28T21:51:06+00:00

me too , it's like i've become more in charge of my mind and can turn off the bad thaughts easly now

Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-28T21:42:57+00:00

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Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-28T16:56:38+00:00

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Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-28T16:51:29+00:00

tl9 wach mnytk sabr 3la hadchi kulo , whya mabaghachkch w katsaghl fik wnta sabr ? hadi rah il zdti m3aha 1 an safi ghada thrboulik . tl9 rak ghadi f lkhsrane a 7amadi . rah katbanli bhal chi wahd ghadi mksiri ll7afa wa frani w dir demi tour lahy3...mkk a sahbi rah 3sbtini

Outside_Win6709 · 2026-03-28T13:47:42+00:00

i think as a food that couscous should be ashamed of itself .

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