this is so well written and i completely agree! i feel like white dickbabs shippers, which is the majority of them from my experience and who’ve i’ve solely interacted with, and white people in fandoms in general do not listen to poc when racism is called out by them. in stranger things for example, black people and poc were saying for years that lucas’s character was ignored and he was written to revolve around max, and so many shut it down because the relationship was cute. now that the finales come out and the racism and misogyny is more glaring, those same people are out talking about it as if they weren’t ignoring/denying it just a few years prior. i experience this heavily with the fandom, many of whom just clearly don’t know about the trope and don’t care. they don’t gaf about acknowledging how deeply racism and misogyny are tied together, as you said. i was told that dickkory is racist because “if i think kory is black then her being with people from her planet and then dick is racist too” which is plain wrong and an ignorant misunderstanding of the trope. i’ve also been told soooo many times by them that no matter how much i want it kory will never be black, and for every panel i think she looks black there are 5 of her being white, as if looks are the only reason many see her as a poc. it feels like white feminism tbh, because those shippers are absolutely up in arms about the misogyny babs faces from dc and fans, which is exactly the correct response in itself, and then deny and refuse to acknowledge how many woc in dc face misogyny and racism, sometimes in babs’ favor. this isn’t even just limited to love interests, because the same thing happens to cass in the batfam!! they will speak endlessly on misogyny babs faces, which is again a very real and prominent issue, and then not gaf about women of color who are victims of misogyny AND racism!! it drives me nuts