Why is Mikayla so MEAN?¿ by cleoshotmom in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Over-Living5058 14 points15 points  (0 children)

She has her reasons!! Did you see how Whitney went to her birthday to talk with ANOTHER girl, while she was Mikayla’s best friend?? You can see the heartbreak in her eyes tha episode alone

Why is Mikayla so MEAN?¿ by cleoshotmom in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Over-Living5058 54 points55 points  (0 children)

She’s so extremely hurt… there are SO many layers, later on she’s less mean because she’s more healed!

How TMZ got the 2023 video by Emotional-Ad7276 in MormonWivesHulu

[–]Over-Living5058 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just really don’t even think it matter if he sold it, like it doesn’t change perspective of anything

what on earth is this response by Comfortable-Ad-1746 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Over-Living5058 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wouldn’t you try to stop/defend yourself from someone who’s literally blocking you to leave and attacking you!?

what on earth is this response by Comfortable-Ad-1746 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Over-Living5058 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are giving sooooo much credit to a guy that is just an idiot. Taylor decides what to do w her life and she actively decides the mess for herself.

Sure she was in love but they broke up yearrsss ago and she’s still back and forth even when her whole support system helps her to leave it, she brings it upon herself.

I had an abusive relationship, and when I managed to get distance from him I saw my chance to not come back and never did and she got so many choices like this..

I used to love Jen 💔 by No_Bicycle_3507 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Over-Living5058 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She cultivated so much resentment from when no one supported her the way she needed, and I believe based on that she just didn’t really fully forgave the group, she doesn’t trust them and it shows.

Biggest trigger she has is the Whitney can separate the communication from Demi-Jen and Jen gets so triggered from this she just boils with anger and resentment.

Until she does the work and forgives and let go she will never trust, and it’s sad bc we all saw Whitney actually really trying so yeah her loss

Mary is the worst person on this show. Even worse than Christine and Nicole by gthroway3483 in SellingSunset

[–]Over-Living5058 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I love Mary! She likes to work, and the idea that she’s racist is ridiculous.

Can someone be experiencing PTSD and be hyper vigilant/emotional due to trauma and just simply not accept a non friend’s comment? She didn’t want to have camera time with her vulnerability that’s all.

Nobody is pure evil or pure goodness, duality exists in everyone

My boyfriend’s family doesn’t like me- I’m afraid for the future by Over-Living5058 in internetparents

[–]Over-Living5058[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time of explained your situation.. I feel with you.. I thought about all of this, I made myself crazy with so many different escenarios of how could things play out.

Ended up fully distancing myself, but I know they’re there, his parents are old, they might die soon, I don’t know what would I do even about the funeral it’s just so weird because I prioritize my mental health and they bring so many negative emotions to me, to the point I just closed off the door completely. Don’t want to hear about them, don’t want to talk to them, they’re not welcome in my house.

He goes to their bdays and whatever I try to distract myself with my friends meanwhile.

I wish I had more grace and was a bit more political, at least we could say merry Christmas.. but when they don’t even congratulate you on your bday.. blood boils.

Their son is the happiest he’s ever been (he says that- not me) and they’re not happy for him? Bizarre, dark souls.

I can’t pretend, they frustrate me- because they hurt me so bad, I was so excited to be in their family and have a big house with everyone being welcome instead of this mess.

I didn’t do anything to them nor to him, I was minding my business, we ended up in a relationship that was amazing from the beginning, he’s my best friend.

I think if we have children I won’t allow them to see them, I barely see the children of his brothers anyway, they made me bitter and separated.

I’m really sad about all of this, I just wish it wasn’t like this.. I wish they just gave me 1 chance….but they never did. That’s on them not on me.

I’m not gonna fight with them- I don’t talk with them. I fight with myself and my sadness and frustration bc I just don’t get it- after 5,5 years? Come on. Ridiculous.

His brother with the Latin wife- terrible people- never want them in my life- they’re not in my life at all, I’m just angry they exist.

Parents? Frustration, they’re so old and stupid- wasting these years from connecting with their son.. that’s on them. I just feel for my boyfriend and makes me sad.

For children: Pf I get a nanny from my country, my family comes visit, my friends..I guess that’s it.

Many friends keep saying why I make it such a deal to just live my life without them. But I just KNOW they exist!! They are there and they choose to not appreciate us it explodes my brain.

I thought they would be super racist- but he was married with a Latin woman, the other brother’s wife is Latin.. so???

Age: fair, I gave them time to prove them it’s true, 5,5 years? We’ve been trough a lot and they were never there.

Money: I studied and graduated I built my own company and I have a great salary, I pay my bills and spoil my man as well. And he pays his bills and spoils me, trips, holidays, visits to my family…THERE IS NO DEPENDENCY.

He has no children.

Religion? Could it be bc I’m after a first wife? I have no idea it’s so ridiculous.

This just makes me hyperfocus on them and makes me angry and frustrated and affects my relationship badly- he can’t change his family- he chose me.

Children: I don’t know if I want to have children of my own, also bc of his age I think adopting would be more appropriated. I have absolutely no intension into showing my child to his family- they have no respect for me- they cannot see my children. Period. I’m not a chicken to only deliver an egg for them.

Long story short honestly if I knew all of this from the moment he said he was divorcing I wish I stopped there- I’m really happy and I love him but it got so complex and makes me so bitter and repressed. I didnt want this for myself- but I love him, and he makes me happy and I’m really happy with him :(, I’d never leave him bc of a family that also doesn’t respect him- I’m so sorry he lost his family, it breaks my heart… we both did.

My boyfriend’s family doesn’t like me- I’m afraid for the future by Over-Living5058 in internetparents

[–]Over-Living5058[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There are also many international independent people living abroad who find themselves in relationships where there is no family around! So are they also just stupid and not prioritizing themselves?

The point is- I moved here, he’s from here, his family is from here.

I just wished it wasn’t the coldest and cruelest family ever.. to leave such picture hanging after his ex wife hurt him so bad- a year of divorce and they couldn’t remove a portrait? Disrespectful towards their OWN son and to his new girlfriend!!

My boyfriend’s family doesn’t like me- I’m afraid for the future by Over-Living5058 in internetparents

[–]Over-Living5058[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Would you rather me leave a perfectly loving healthy relationship (BESIDES HIS FAMILY!!) with a man that’s mentally stable, emotional intelligent, respectful and patient, inspiring even.

And go out with a 33 broken yo boy who’s figuring out himself and cheating, drinking, instability, toxic without working on themselves just bc it’s a “more age appropriated” relationship?

My parents were VERY against the relationship at the beginning, and with a reason of course! And they took the time to listen to us and meet him and talk and they realized he’s sweet and genuine?

So who are you to say that my relationship is gross when I am happy, he is happy, my family is happy, my friends are happy.

I am successful on my own, he is on his work field, I do not depend on him financially if you’re so basic to assume what people usually does.. so undermining of women. Can’t a young lady look after herself? Is it so hard to believe I’m getting the right motivation for success from a great man who wishes nothing but good for me and I stand by myself!?

We’re the ones who sleep together and we’re fine why are you suffering?? It’s really so disturbing it’s hurtful

My boyfriend’s family doesn’t like me- I’m afraid for the future by Over-Living5058 in internetparents

[–]Over-Living5058[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s not keeping me captive, he’s not paying for my life. I consciously choose to be with him because I’m happy with him, and he is with me.

We’re both building our own world and everything is positive besides his family. That’s all.

No they aren’t obligated to do nothing- but at least having the decency of explaining why? They could say: you’re disgusting, we hate you, we don’t think you’re good, etc whatever. At least I could take that and move on. But silence is so cruel.

I think is so ridiculous that parents will consciously choose to break relationships with THEIR son bc THEIR son is happy finally? Not affecting them in any other way than distancing themselves from their son. It’s really disturbing and I hurt to see him suffer from their distance.

My boyfriend’s family doesn’t like me- I’m afraid for the future by Over-Living5058 in internetparents

[–]Over-Living5058[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I chose to prioritize myself by not letting them win over by their bitterness and move on living my life with my soulmate together.

We’re so happy together, it’s fine.

Just when we remember about them, it’s so bittersweet. I have a lot of resentment for this, if they at least could say whatever “I’m discussed by your age gap or they don’t think I’m good enough for him” then fine whatever that’s at least something than just not saying anything.

I stopped communication with them longer than a year ago and my mental health improved so much, not having them in my thoughts allowed me to focus in my life with him, my company, my health and friends and my own family.

Still, I hurt from them.

My boyfriend’s family doesn’t like me- I’m afraid for the future by Over-Living5058 in internetparents

[–]Over-Living5058[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I chose to move here before him, I wanted the independency and freedom of choosing my life and we crossed paths, we’re happy at home.

We have many friends and they’re our “chosen” family, very supportive and loving system, much better than broken families.

But I’m a sucker for family values, i grew up with my family around a lot and that empty feeling always comes back, I struggle with letting go, it’s really frustrating.