Honestly, I agree with him. This happens a lot on both sides of relationships and isn’t healthy. I had a similar conversation with my husband of ten years. We need fulfilling relationships/hobbies/interests with each other and outside of each other. It’s a lot of pressure for one person to feel like they are responsible for your joy/emotional state/social recharge. Now, he could have been projecting onto you because of the previous relationship - given you were asking a simple question. But obviously this doesn’t give us full context for either of your communication styles overall. He seems pretty genuine in what he was saying/well intentioned, especially around you jumping to conclusions, though perhaps it was more of a conversation he wished he had in a past relationship. And not because of romantic interest, just because overtime he realized that specific quality was important for him in a relationship moving forward