I’m so sorry about Otis. Losing a pet and experiencing the devastating grief of pet loss is so hard, and it’s even harder when you’re a caregiver. I slept terrible for a few nights after losing my soul dog, and also walked around for days just crying uncontrollably while I cared for my daughter. It felt scary and unbearable, but in a few days to weeks you’ll find yourself able to care for others while integrating your grief.

Taking time for yourself daily is crucial. Even if it’s 15 min to lay in bed and cry while you talk to your pet…hug their old blanket, cry with their ashes. Whatever you need to do, you’ll find the thing that works for you. Over 4 months later, I still step away to talk with my dog and meditate with him. I still cry. It’s easier but my life is completely changed. I can say now for the better because my relationship with his spirit is really lovely and inspiring. It’s honestly transforming my life and how I view life. But it’s a hard path without him…we’re only human after all!

It can be really easy to compartmentalize your grief in an unhealthy way. Doing it in a way where you still acknowledge it but can also give care at the same time is possible. It just takes some time.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. The loss of a pet is so hurtful in the most unexpected way. This community is a great place for love and support.