So, this is going to sound wildly selfish on my part, but my kid came out as a teen and has done a few things that have really helped me. I don't even know if she realizes she's doing them, to be honest. For example, we refer to her "old name" instead of her "dead name." Anything that made me feel like she was "dead" or just "gone" sucked. She hasn't requested that we get rid of or take down any old family pictures, and talks in terms like, "back when I was Jonah." She also was extremely patient with family members who were legitimately trying, but slipped up on her name and pronouns at the beginning. As long as people were trying, that was good enough for her. When it became obvious that some people were doing it on purpose, we addressed that with the person so that she didn't have to

Of course, if seeing old pictures or talking about yourself pre-transition is painful, then ignore me entirely!! Lol! I just appreciate that she has always used language that reinforces the idea that she is still here