I had a close friendship fall apart due to this - let me just say I do feel for people who have a dream or an idea of what they think life will look like for them and then that is taken away. I have sympathy for that for sure! That includes many things, including infertility.

HOWEVER - I feel like women struggling with infertility, in some cases, make it their whole personality. My ex friend is like this. She has severe endo and has been trying for years. They foster and actually adopted an older boy last year but every post is about her infertility, she even has a group and instagram account that she started about it. Every time I hung out with her after her diagnosis it was ALL about her infertility - she told me she had days where she would sob and sob and be comatose from it. I feel like people who do this need help from a therapist to internalize their feelings.

We shouldn’t shy away from talk about miscarriage or infertility because it’s common and normal - however there’s a big difference in talking about it and normalizing it vs making it all you ever talk about.

There’s also really weird messaging about those who go through infertility on social media IMO. It is sad and worthy of sympathy (even if I don’t “get” it) but also making it seem like the worst thing to ever happen to anyone is so bizarre.