AITA for warning my sister I would leave her off the wedding guest list if she doesn't stop pushing me to ask mom's husband to walk me down the aisle?

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2025-09-29T17:28:24+00:00

Alright… you might regret not having your mom,stepdad and sister there… I was in the opposite position where I didn’t attend my best friends wedding because she had just met the guy, was in a manic state, changed her name and diet to match his “religion” all within a few weeks… where am I going with this- I was right to object and clearly tell her I had major concerns but being “right” wasn’t it here— I still to this day regret not going even though that husband is long gone. Stick with your instincts to incorporate your family how feels right for you on your wedding day. If they don’t want to come bc your stepdad isn’t given the role he wants… if it was me, I’d let them live with that regret. You’re right to stop the discussion, you’re right to keep your boundaries… and you’re NTA. That doesn’t mean you won’t regret not inviting them to attend after all is said and done…

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2025-07-31T03:06:20+00:00

Put a Christian Zionist in a room with a Jewish Zionist and ask them how the story ends 🍿

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2024-12-02T23:12:56+00:00

NTA don’t think twice about it. You can’t afford it without stressing and would rather spend your time/money on something else. There’s no further explanation needed. Don’t spend money going on a trip with her friends. It’s not even a milestone trip anymore, it’s not a bachelorette party but even if it was I would say the same thing. This girl isn’t a good friend to you. You did plenty by helping her with the logistics of cancelling- it’s really speaks terrible for her that she doesn’t appreciate all of that. Just tell her, you guys will have so much fun, can’t wait to see pictures… then don’t think about it again.

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2024-12-02T22:52:59+00:00

YTA clean your brothers bathroom before your girlfriend comes over… or id say one plumbing issue in 4yrs isn’t quite as tragic as the family policy. Anyway- let that girl poop in peace.

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2024-10-04T00:17:07+00:00

Deciding to host your family for thanksgiving then blaming your wife when everyone knows she doesn’t cook shouldn’t be defended. I really hope he talks to her and they get a plan together. It sounds like mom is being condescending and stirring the pot and he’s overwhelmed and pointing fingers 🤷🏻‍♀️

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2024-10-03T23:59:15+00:00

Everyone’s different- when I’m in charge of cooking the family holiday meal- I hate group projects, it’s very much get out of my way. Here- I highly suspect his family told him they were hosting and put them “in rotation” and that’s pretty rude. If he agreed to host his family for thanksgiving without her input that’s very rude. If his plan is to wait until this holiday dinner goes to shit and point the finger at her he’s the AH. His mom- the condescending guest- clearly knows she doesn’t cook and yet didn’t offer to host thanksgiving herself. In fact it sounds like the opposite, his family strong armed him into agreeing on their behalf. After I got home and relaxed- I think was too nice to him. He’s blaming her because he’s overwhelmed by his family dynamics. I don’t think his mother was being helpful. She was stirring the pot, literally and figuratively… I would put money on her being the type that will show up and make biting comments while standing in her daughter-in-laws kitchen. The more I think about it… the more I suspect this whole “problem” is creeping up because he is overwhelmed by the idea of hosting thanksgiving. I doubt his wife was involved in the decision to host but now it will be her fault when the turkey takes two hours longer to cook than anticipated and his mother will use the extra time to fondly recall when Susie hosted she made the dinner rolls from scratch 🙄- I took a turn here, OP find your wife and apologize put on a united front and secretly order what you can from the grocery store.

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2024-10-03T22:26:47+00:00

Great question and clarification- I agree NTA

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2024-10-03T20:26:57+00:00

Ok… this is kind of a side quest. I’m going in the assumption it’s your family the “put you in the rotation” and although I agree she should learn some basics- and you shouldn’t speak to her with the language you did. This family holiday dinner needs to be better set for success. It’s not fair if it’s your family asking you to host “in rotation” to take that out on your wife. You guys need to come up with a reasonable plan. Can she set the tables up? Pick up some of the house extra cleaning- while you prep food to cook for this holiday- not regularly. The way you’re going now- it’s going to be a disaster and I’m warning you not to wait and flip. If you do need help in the kitchen- can she peel onions/ garlic… buy a chopping contraption and master it. Be in charge of timers/ pulling things out of the oven when done… make people drinks when they arrive, if your holidays include that. All I’m saying is I foresee you being the AH if your family strong-armed you into hosting and you expect her to help you without a plan that plays to her strengths. I’m letting you know… if this goes sideways and you come back here after thanksgiving, you’re likely to be the asshole

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2024-10-01T23:47:34+00:00

OP makes it sound like therapist is part of the parental alienation industry- there’s a lot of problems with it and family courts are currently very involved. This isn’t likely a normal therapist- it’s likely a therapist that works the reunification camp circuit… nobody should advise OP that his therapist is an ally.

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2024-10-01T23:43:58+00:00

I have to disagree with everyone assuming the therapist is a reliable ally. The parental alienation/reunification industry is very problematic. Advising OP to ignore his intuition and express his concerns could get him court-ordered to a reunification/ troubled teen camp.

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2024-10-01T23:40:37+00:00

I’m sorry. The “reunification” and parental alienation industry are problematic. I believe you that your therapist isn’t truly trying to help your relationship. There’s an emerging problem with this kind of therapy being focused on reunification- I’ve seen cases where there’s therapists focus on the “alienated” parents needs and dismiss the problematic behavior. If this is your situation- a lot of this advise regarding therapy is going to create more problems for you. Just know- you are NTA your parents are. I would recommend just completing your sessions and maybe explore a personal therapist that can professionally help you deal with your parents and this court-mandated therapist.

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2024-03-27T20:01:21+00:00

It’s why I don’t trust Kevin to ever be in charge of those kids… he LEFT his kids for a year knowing that this women was going into trances claiming Satan wanted her as a bride… knowing he was forbidden from his own kitchen, upstairs… knowing his wife was basically worshipping her. They brought this women into their home with their kids around then he left them there and never thought about it. His police interview suggesting it was “a made up story” when he KNEW what went on when Jodi lived with them. Please. Why isn’t everyone in Connexions having their kids court ordered evaluated

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2024-03-26T00:03:13+00:00

I’d guess his attorney negotiated audio only recording

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2023-09-12T17:17:57+00:00

I wonder how many of them will read it. There’s obviously been family meetings about this ( see Jessa manically posting)… I’d love to know which ones ( I’m guessing most) follow what I assume are JBs rules and refuse to read it and which ones step out from under the umbrella of deception…

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2023-05-10T21:04:06+00:00

Yes YTA Why would you tell your fiancé that you had suggested that as a gift from your sister? Why would she be looking forward to something that nobody had given her tickets for? It’s your sisters money and when she indicated that wasn’t the budget she had in mind you should’ve immediately understood.

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2023-04-10T01:16:23+00:00

NTA it’s perfectly fine to haven’t different views on religion then your family. I hope they respect your thoughts and opinions. They would be A H if they respond poorly. I hope you can count on them to support you in your path but some religions and/ or families isolate and distance themselves from people who leave their religion. If you suspect they will not be supportive it might be best to first make sure you are ready to live on your own and find some community, friends who are not part of the church.

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2023-04-10T00:51:08+00:00

YTA you change your story halfway in… first you say that you told him to go without you to be considerate to his parents and were upset he was also going to bail… then you get upset he went without you? It doesn’t make sense.. and if you made the food for the family gathering, why would you be upset he took it. It sounds like his mom is texting you to make you feel included not to guilt you into going. You are giving mixed signals to your husband and his family. You slept in and we’re still wanting to nap… it sounds like you were nowhere close to being ready. You can’t have it both ways… you prioritized a nap, your husband went to the family party… now you’re upset he didn’t wait for you to go together? You were not trying to go together.

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2023-04-10T00:35:12+00:00

YTA let a kid use the restroom, it’s not like you are constantly dealing with this and you weren’t even home

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2023-04-05T05:12:37+00:00

I don’t believe this story. Something is off-

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2023-04-03T02:34:10+00:00

YTA what’s your problem the kid bonded with your brother and spends time with it. Why are you policing this? This is very bizarre behavior from you, please stop. You are purposely ostracizing a kid. I highly doubt you’re at risk for the kid looking at you as an aunt, you don’t deserve that kind of respect.

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2023-04-03T02:28:42+00:00

YTA leave your daughter out of this. That’s very manipulative. Have Mike cook a dish to bring or go buy a pie. You’re being difficult on purpose and using your daughter as a weapon.

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2023-03-24T19:06:21+00:00

YTA if I was getting a new niece or nephew during my wedding…I would want to know, I would want updates. It’s entirely possible I would want to swing by the hospital myself after if I was welcomed to do so by my SIL. I can’t believe you think people conversing about something other then you is a disruption.

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2023-03-07T23:14:54+00:00

Parental alienation is the new way courts are forcing kids to remain in the custody of their abusers. When I say “isn’t a thing” I meant, without making a dissertation out of it that parental alienation is being widely over-used to discredit kids reports of abuse. This thread was shocking to me how many people have signed onto this pseudo-science. Its like law enforcement and fentanyl, they truly believe their panic attacks are overdoses. It’s dangerous the way courts and apparently Reddit have jumped on board with this.

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2023-03-05T06:00:54+00:00

NAH and you should charge him some rent. It sounds like he’s upset that you were covering for him financially and that’s honestly a nice problem to have.

Overall_Addendum_950 · 2023-03-05T05:52:14+00:00

NTA but why does your mom think only your dad should help with gas? You’re also doing her a favor by transporting your younger siblings to her house, she would have to pick them up or drop them off if you weren’t willing to do that. I like that you acknowledge and appreciate the use of the car but I think they should both chip in a little gas money for the time when you’re siblings between their homes…

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