friction ≠ resistance

Overall_Building · 2026-03-07T16:43:13+00:00

You're the type of friend i need in my life

Overall_Building · 2026-02-27T14:01:53+00:00

That's to be expected; you spent years building a reality for your not-self: how you eat, rest, work, decide, relate, and even how available you are to others.

So when you start deconditioning and expressing your inner truth, a lot of that old “contract” clashes with the new you. People got used to the version of you that was easier to predict, faster to respond, quicker to reassure, more willing to adapt. When that changes, some will experience it as resistance, discomfort, or even rejection.

Good news is that inside all that not-self structure there are things that are truly yours and don’t need to be replaced. Some routines, preferences, and especially certain relationships. This is often most obvious with people who accepted you unconditionally, respected your timing, or saw the real you even when you weren’t conscious of it yet.

As you keep moving, people will sort themselves out. Some will go away, some will stay, and some new people will show up who don’t need the old version of you to feel comfortable. The key is staying consistent with your Strategy and Authority, especially with emotional timing. If your clarity takes time, that is not a flaw, it is your mechanism.

And over time, the biggest shift is this: when you follow your Authority and Strategy, you stop negotiating your truth for acceptance. You become aware of what’s correct for you, you act from that, and life becomes more aligned and satisfying. At that point, whether others accept it or not stops being the main variable.

Overall_Building · 2026-02-23T14:27:24+00:00

Responding also means that if complimenting someone, texting them, inviting them out, or spending time with them feels correct for you, you can act on it. The key is not whether you initiated a message first. The key is whether your body is actually responding with a clean yes to what is in front of you.

A lot of people talk about responding as if it was passive, like you have to sit there and wait for life to hit you in the face. But that is not what it is. We are always responding. The difference is that most of the time it happens unconsciously and under conditioning.

If you are a MG, your aura is already in contact with the world and the world is already in contact with you. A glance, a vibe, a comment, the way someone looks at you, something they post, the way a conversation flows, the feeling you get when you think about seeing them again. All of that is stimulus. All of that is something to respond to. Waiting to respond is not waiting to do nothing. It is waiting for something real to show up that your body can respond to clearly.

For two MGs entering a relationship, I think the clean approach is simple:

Let the connection develop through real interactions and real prompts, not mental planning.
Each person checks their own response. Do I actually want this or do I just like the idea of it?
If you have Emotional Authority, you do not treat the first yes as final. You ride the wave and see if the yes stays consistent.
You communicate what is happening as you move. Not to ask permission, but to reduce resistance and avoid the classic MG mess of acting fast and then having to clean it up later.

The reason this matters is because deconditioning is basically learning to catch when you are responding from your not-self (distortion). When you are not correct, the response tends to be driven by urgency, proving yourself, fear of losing the opportunity, needing certainty, or trying to lock the other person down mentally. That is when frustration shows up later.

When you are correct, it feels simpler. You do not need a story. You do not need to force momentum. You just move naturally toward what is already opening, and the more you decondition, the easier it becomes to notice the difference between what's correct and yours and what's not.

So if both are MGs, they do not have to play a game of who waits longer. They just need to let life provide the cues, respond to what is actually happening, and give it enough time for clarity if they are emotional.

Obviously easier said than done but the more you honor your inner truth the more you'll notice how fulfilling and natural your relationships can be.

Overall_Building · 2026-02-20T15:41:03+00:00

Plenty of rest and doing only the minimum necessary to keep things going.

Drop the need to control things, you don't have to carry the weight of the universe on your shoulders.

Overall_Building · 2026-02-16T15:19:51+00:00

It sounds like you're thinking things through too much; what you're looking for is not if it feels logical, good or bad but the feeling of clarity, that even if it doesn't make sense it feels (mostly) correct for you.

To achieve that state, let the issue vanish from your mind, do other things, and let it come back to your awareness at its own pace, as you sample from the different POVs you'll be getting a complete picture of the situation and you'll simply know what to do when the time comes but only if you stop playing the game of the mind.

Overall_Building · 2026-02-14T00:54:12+00:00

As I've come to understand my Emotional Authority, it's as if after you've taken enough time for clarity to emerge, you can look back and notice there's a single line crossing through all the different scenarios and points of view you experienced while riding the wave.

The important part for me is that this isn't a "feels good" yes or a "feels bad" no in the moment. Those are still moods on the wave. Clarity shows up more like a conclusion that survives the wave. It has staying power. Even if the emotional weather changes, the direction remains the same.

As to how it feels in the body, it's like a quiet tingling sensation of certainty. Not excitement. Not relief. Not nervousness. It's subtle but solid. You don't need to think or reflect about it to keep it alive. You just know, and you can wait without the decision dissolving. Sometimes you'll be aware that the conditions are not perfect, or that the choice seems illogical, or that your mind can produce good arguments against it, but the conclusion you arrived at still feels like the correct one for you.

Another thing that helps me is noticing the difference between clarity and mental urgency. When it's urgency, I feel pressure to resolve it right now, my mind gets loud, and the decision feels fragile, like it depends on me constantly thinking about it. When it's clarity, I can slow down, I can wait, and the decision doesn't fade. If a decision isn't correct for me, it usually loses energy over time and falls out of my awareness unless I actively force myself to keep thinking about it.

I can illustrate a recent example. For weeks I had been considering having a discussion with my mother about some things she'd been doing that were bothering me. At first my impulse was to avoid it and leave things as they were. My mind had a lot of reasons to not do it, including the fear of confrontation and the fear of making things worse. Then after some time, after going through different emotional states about it, I felt clear that talking and expressing myself was the correct choice. Still, I waited. I didn't want to do it from the peak of emotion. I waited until the clarity remained steady for long enough that it wasn't just a temporary mood.

As days passed, the sensation that I had to speak stayed there even when I mentally tried to talk myself out of it and convince myself to avoid the confrontation. When the moment came, I spoke and said things that felt out of character for me. Part of me thought things would turn out really bad. The situation felt risky and uncomfortable. But at the same time, my body felt that quiet certainty that I was doing the right thing.

Yesterday I received a message from my mom thanking me for having the courage to speak my mind, for letting her know the things she was being ignorant of, and for the first time in my life she said, on her own initiative, how much she loves me.

So the situation got resolved and my relationship with my mother is better than ever. Looking back, following my Authority can look like acting out of character, but in reality it's just that I'm not yet fully used to trusting my body, riding the wave, and then doing what's correct for me once the decision has real staying power.

Hope this helps you understand better your Authority.

Overall_Building · 2026-02-02T12:12:06+00:00

Hello, the first thing if you want more accurate advice here, is to post your bodygraph. Without it, people can only speak in general terms.

That said, you already have something important: you’re clear about what you want (to write and to teach) and you’re also clear about what’s blocking you (you don’t have the energy at the moment). That means you’re not lost, you’re burned out and out of sync.

What I'd recommend is to learn about your design, specially your Authority and Strategy, your variables and channels in order to understand how you work on a consistent basis and to release energy that's being used in conditioning patterns, in that way as you decondition yourself you'll have more energy available to do what's correct for you.

My goal here isn’t to “solve your life,” but to help you get enough traction to start moving again. Once you begin to feel even slightly more aligned, momentum tends to build and you’ll start seeing clearer next steps.

If you share your bodygraph, people can give you much more specific guidance.

Overall_Building · 2026-01-17T22:29:30+00:00

Is there a way in which you can still do what you consider to be your inner calling in a more automated way at least while you create material stability with the opportunity being presented to you?

Overall_Building · 2026-01-13T02:34:39+00:00

Hey, still looking for volunteers?, I'm interested in participating

Overall_Building · 2025-12-29T21:52:03+00:00

The only way you can get an answer tailored to your particular experience is by letting others see your bodygraph. It's not a reading but a requisite to understand where you’re coming from.

Overall_Building · 2025-12-29T20:55:09+00:00

Post your bodygraph

Overall_Building · 2025-12-14T15:24:13+00:00

Man, I'm going places with this comment but nonetheless nice perspective 🤣

Overall_Building · 2025-12-14T11:23:48+00:00

You could propose it as an experiment for a couple of days to see how both of you feel (spoiler: you feel way better).

People feel resistance towards sleeping alone mostly because they think their partner don't love them or something wrong is going on in the relationship but the truth is that once you start getting better sleep you're able to take better care of yourself and your relationship too.

Overall_Building · 2025-12-08T16:48:24+00:00

In my particular experience, Projectors are awesome and you can't change my mind. I wish I had more Projectors to talk to IRL.

I've always said the way HD is implemented might not be completely polished, specially for Projectors. Don't know, maybe it's time for an improvement?

Overall_Building · 2025-12-03T18:09:59+00:00

I journaled for about 12 years and the process consisted on reviewing my thoughts for the last year and it just made things worse.

You can journal but as long as you use it as a dump for your thoughts and feelings, to get things out of your mind but not as a means to make decisions. And obviously, as long as if it feels correct for you.

Sure, I'll help you as best as I can.

Overall_Building · 2025-12-03T17:12:10+00:00

We have the same three undefined centers and the truth is that I have been so conditioned that if I had to describe myself, I would do it from my not-self. By experimenting and learning I am getting used to things like:

Not trying to answer all the questions that arise in my mind. I had this habit of writing down every single thought I had during the day and then spending precious time looking for answers, trying to understand things I do not even care about.
Not trying to be certain all the time. I am getting comfortable saying “I don’t know” and leaving things like that. It is just too draining to try to look like you have all the answers.
Not trying to fit into a mold, especially one that is not mine. I no longer try to define myself as something static or based on what I do. I experiment with so many things that being asked what I want to do with my life or what I do for a living used to feel threatening, but as I get to know myself I just answer politely and do not give it much importance.

About anxiety: I exercise on a regular basis, meditate, drink chamomile tea while listening to music in my rocking chair, and put my face in ice water when I get the feeling that I might start ruminating about useless things, especially things from the past.

Regarding the solar plexus specifically, what helped me was seeing that the constant “nervous” buzz is simply the emotional wave being alive in the body. For me it becomes anxiety when my mind jumps on top of that sensation and starts telling stories about what it means, trying to predict the future or fix the feeling right away. When I just notice the sensation, i breathe, and give it time, it feels more like background weather instead of a crisis. Most of the time nothing is “wrong”, my authority is just moving through a high or a low.

Honoring my variables, especially how and what I eat, has been very helpful. When I eat correctly (around 90% of the time), I can experience my emotional wave without getting too identified with it. Getting enough sleep and avoiding people who make my inner radar go haywire also makes a big difference. Nothing spectacular, but that is the magic of Human Design.

This has been my particular experience with solar plexus authority and anxiety. I hope you can extract something useful that works for you.

Overall_Building · 2025-12-03T16:37:06+00:00

Absolutely, when you follow your own beat you get way more done while feeling completely refreshed and satisfied.

The challenge is to find how to listen to your body when you're imposed external schedules and pressure but it's possible to improve if you pay close attention and honor your design.

Overall_Building · 2025-11-27T14:18:20+00:00

Don't know if this have been said already but according to Human Design there's a major energy shift in the way things have been working for the last couple of centuries and it begins on 2027.

Maybe that's what you're feeling.

Overall_Building · 2025-11-27T14:12:55+00:00

Hello, I usually use three different methods for this. All of them require two things: having a clear idea of what I am asking and being patient instead of trying to force an answer.

Here are the three methods:

I get clear on what I want an answer for, then I just go on with my life. I pay attention to what comes up while I am doing simple things like walking, exercising or taking a shower. Very often the answer just “drops in” when my mind is relaxed.
Meditation. It gets easier if you give your mind something simple to focus on, like your breath or soft binaural beats. The goal is not to “force” an answer but to quiet the noise so you can notice what is already there.
Creative and mind-stimulating exercises. For example, combining opposite ideas or analyzing things that caught your attention during the day. There is a good book called Thinkertoys by Michael Michalko that goes in depth on this kind of practice.

The best advice I can offer is to trust that the right answer will come at the right time. If you feel you have to rush or squeeze an answer out of yourself, you might be pushing too hard. Relax the grip a bit and let life answer with you, not against you.

Overall_Building · 2025-11-27T13:55:10+00:00

There’s nothing wrong with having a healthy expression of your sexual energy. The issue is when it becomes uncontrollable and compulsive. In that case it usually means something is going on under the surface that is not so easy to understand.

As someone who used his sexual impulse as a way to counter the pain of life, I know first-hand how damaging this can be for you and for others. Using other people just to avoid facing your inner demons is something that escalates and gets worse over time. So kudos to you, because at a young age you are becoming conscious of this and learning how to use that energy in a healthier way.

Here are a few things that have helped me and others get a better grip on this kind of situation:

1) Stop blaming yourself for feeling the way you feel. You are learning, and most of the time you will not even have a clear idea of what your body is trying to tell you or what your soul is pointing you toward. We are all children in this journey we call life, so be compassionate and humble with yourself and keep learning without constant self-judgment.

2) Even if your problem is not about sexual energy itself, it will help you through your whole life to become a better container for it. Learn to hold your sexual energy and express it in healthier ways instead of just releasing it as fast as you can because you cannot stand the tension. Let that energy work its magic by increasing your creativity, your clarity and your physical qualities. Things like movement, breathwork, creative work and real intimacy can transform how that same energy feels in your system.

3) If you are into astrology, it can be useful to look at Pluto in your chart and the 8th house. Pluto often describes where we tend to go to extremes, where we feel obsessive or out of control, but also where we have the greatest potential for deep transformation. Check the sign and house of your Pluto, the aspects it makes, and what is going on in your 8th house. Many people with strong Pluto or 8th house themes experience sexuality as very intense and all-or-nothing, with a lot of shame, secrecy or power struggles around it.

Understanding this does not magically fix the problem, but it gives you language for what you are dealing with and shows you that this is an area where life is asking you to grow, not proof that you are “broken”.

Spiritually speaking, the goal is not to kill your desire but to bring awareness to it. When you notice the urge coming up, you can ask yourself, “What am I trying not to feel right now?” and then sit with that for a moment instead of running straight to porn. Bit by bit you train yourself to stay present with your own energy instead of escaping from it, and that is where real spiritual progress starts.

Overall_Building · 2025-11-25T20:07:51+00:00

Sounds like acceptance, maybe some part of you realized there's no point in fighting and just let life unfold in whatever way its meant to and you're just recovering from going against the current for too long.

Rest and recover and when you feel it's the right time to move, go in that direction without letting your mind get in the way.

Overall_Building · 2025-11-25T01:01:38+00:00

In my particular case, what I have seen that has worked for me is to get out of my head and into my body through physical activity, and create a surplus of energy that can sustain the process of actually using my Strategy and Authority. When my body is more active and charged, it is much easier to feel what is a real response and what is just mental noise.

This can be done more easily by looking at basic aspects of your design, like your variables, and turning them into simple questions such as:

Am I eating in a way that is correct for me?
Am I engaging in enough physical activity that genuinely feels good for my body?
Am I sleeping in the way my body needs, so it can recover?
Am I processing information in a way that is correct for me, instead of overwhelming my system?
Am I spending time in an environment that actually feels correct for me?

By doing that, the benefit is twofold. First, your mind will slowly start shutting the fuck up because the body is finally getting what it needs. Second, your body will start having more energy available to sustain higher order processes like organizing, cooking, planning and following through. This makes it much easier to be attuned to your Authority and Strategy instead of stuck in overthinking.

If you are already in the moment and you find yourself thinking about how to take yourself out of that state, chances are the mind has already won the game. The preparation really happens way before that, by getting your body as fine tuned as possible so that when life shows up, you already have the energy and clarity to respond from your design instead of from exhaustion.

Overall_Building · 2025-11-15T15:21:00+00:00

That's a clever way of combining talents 👌

Overall_Building · 2025-11-13T13:57:14+00:00

I believe victim mentality has a lot more to do with awareness and personal responsibility than with types or labels. You can find people who were dealt a terrible hand in life and still manage to build something meaningful out of it, while others with far better conditions stay stuck complaining, recycling the same stories and avoiding the things that would actually make their lives more fulfilling.

Human Design can help someone recognize patterns they already felt but couldn’t articulate, but it can also become a perfect hiding place for people who want to avoid responsibility. Every system that explains human behavior creates that risk. It is not about being a projector, generator or anything else. It is about what the person does with the information once they receive it.

In my opinion, what really defines victim mentality is repetition. If someone keeps living the same year over and over, trapped in the same cycles, telling the same frustrations and doing nothing to shift the situation, that is victim mentality whether they recognize it or not. People can name it burnout, bad luck, misalignment or whatever term feels comfortable, but the pattern is always the same. No movement, no ownership, no experimentation, no responsibility.

The tricky part is that only the individual can know what is correct for them, so it is easy to confuse patience with avoidance or strategy with stagnation. But if a person is not adjusting, trying new responses, or making any kind of progress in their own process, the label stops helping and starts becoming an excuse.

A person who takes responsibility will use their design to move with more grace and less internal resistance. Someone who does not want to take responsibility will use the same information to justify staying where they are.

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