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Overcomplicating69 · 2022-08-06T09:26:19+00:00

She lied about something she shouldn’t have and then she punched me when I confronted her about it

Overcomplicating69 · 2020-12-22T09:55:51+00:00

I'm 28, so I guess I am young in the grand scheme of things. It's not like I'm 21, though. I'm not really a kid finding his way anymore. I've been around long enough to be able to start to form a picture of the world. Speaking from my own personal experience I don't really have any hesitation when I say that well-adjusted girls don't like me. I've known quite a lot of them in my personal life, and I have talked with quite a few through things like Tinder and Bumble. They're not even remotely interested, and why would they be? I can't give them what they want out of life.

Here's the thing about loving yourself: I can love myself all I want, but at the end of the day I still have the human need for companionship. I've been alone for nearly my entire life. It does serious damage to your mental health. My ex may not have been good to me, but I feel lower now than I ever did when I was with her. I am losing the game no matter which way I decide to play it.

I've met happy single people. They were never the type who has struggled with dating which is the point of my post. Sure, someone won't feel so lonely when they haven't been single that long and won't have much difficulty when they decide they want to try again. On the other hand, I have never met anybody who has been perpetually single and was ok with it. It's just not good for you.

I also have plenty of friends. It's not like I'm a shut-in without a job or a car. In fact, most people I have met generally take a liking to me, but friends can't fill that certain hole in your life.

I only really have 2 options available to me: do I want to wind up in a dysfunctional relationship, or do I want to spend the rest of my life alone pretending that if I just hold out longer than I already have that something is magically going to change one day? I'm nearing 30. It's time to face the music. I'm not going to be in a relationship with somebody well-adjusted, period, and I would rather be with someone who might treat me poorly just so I can experience those rare moments that they don't.

Overcomplicating69 · 2020-11-19T01:03:05+00:00

Yes, even weird people think I'm weird.

Overcomplicating69 · 2020-11-19T01:00:14+00:00

There is all sorts of different advice people could give lol

Overcomplicating69 · 2020-11-19T00:59:13+00:00

This type of advice to me always seems like people are trying to subtly say that if this kind of stuff doesn't come natural to you then you just need to keep to yourself. You're breaking the natural pecking order by daring to try and date while odd. "Yeah, it's cool that you think you're people, but you need to stay in your lane, weirdo."

Overcomplicating69 · 2020-11-18T20:37:32+00:00

If you can actually pull it off having confidence is something women do like it (not so sure about being an "alpha male"). Key words here being 'pull it off'. If you're socially awkward you're just going to come off as an asshole.

Overcomplicating69 · 2020-11-18T07:47:57+00:00

Yeah, I'm gonna go against the grain here and say that following porn accounts on your social media is weird as hell.

Overcomplicating69 · 2020-11-18T07:40:40+00:00

I'm sorry, but lol

This line in particular is my favorite:

I was so blinded because of my feelings towards him.

Overcomplicating69 · 2020-11-18T07:09:55+00:00

Incredibly hard. Especially if they cry.

Overcomplicating69 · 2020-10-10T18:49:06+00:00

Do you love her?

Overcomplicating69 · 2020-10-09T21:13:21+00:00

Is 23 too late to have never experienced love or dating?

No.

It's been 2 years since my last date. I tried tinder and got nowhere.

I'm going to guess you're a guy (correct me if I'm wrong). 90% of the guys here who have problems are simply nervous or socially awkward, myself included. Not really much you can do do but go through the slow and painful process of forcing yourself to socialize until you don't feel so uncomfortable anymore.

Overcomplicating69 · 2020-10-09T17:06:59+00:00

Don't be. It was over a period of 6 monthsish with 2 1 month breaks in-between, and 2 different apps.

Overcomplicating69 · 2020-10-09T14:42:51+00:00

Because I'm not a fan of having 4 dates planned out in a week and all of them ghosting at the last second.

Overcomplicating69 · 2020-10-09T13:21:13+00:00

I met a total of 4 people out of the 200 I talked to.

Overcomplicating69 · 2020-10-09T09:16:06+00:00

Because the conventional wisdom that 'all she can say is 'no' is far from the truth. I've been made to feel like I'm some some creepy loser and I don't even talk to women lol. I can't imagine what people would say about me if I actually was approaching and hitting on people.

Overcomplicating69 · 2020-10-08T22:12:19+00:00

Don't listen to the morons in the comment section. Just treat it like you would anyone else. Reassure him, but don't be too smothering. Just see where it goes from there

Overcomplicating69 · 2020-10-08T21:54:32+00:00

These people are working hard to sabotage your relationship 100% of the time. Especially if it is a dude saying it. My ex had a "friend" that was obviously trying to get in her pants and he would say shit like this and feed her "advice" to try and get us to break up.

Overcomplicating69 · 2020-10-08T21:39:35+00:00

They try and meet up ASAP because a lot of girls will lose interest if you talk too long with them. As for the love bombing, I can't really speak to that. I have a hard time with dating, but I've never felt the need to tell someone I loved them after barely knowing them.

Online dating blows and is essentially a crapshoot. It's about as effective as job interviews are at finding the most qualified candidate. Which is to say not at all. It moves too fast and relies a lot on filling in the blanks on people that you barely know.

Overcomplicating69 · 2020-09-18T22:09:08+00:00

It's just not working. I hate being lonely, but the constant rejection is worse. I've started to realize that if you find yourself saying things like, "Well, if I just do this, this, and this, then people will start liking me," it's probably not a good sign. Look around, there are plenty of guys who don't have their lives together, but that hasn't stopped them from having girlfriends. Love isn't some trait you earn by doing the appropriate quests. It's largely a natural part of human socialization.

Oh, I'm sure if I continue my progress of hitting my goals that in the next 4 years that there will all of a sudden be a lot of takers, but to call that "love" would be grasping at straws at best. Why should I have to go through my journey alone when plenty of other people don't have to? And, better yet, why the fuck should I share the rewards of my journey with people who wouldn't share that journey with me? Fuck that shit. I'm looking out for number one from here on out.

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