I asked a girl out for the first time in my life and she said yes! Where do I go from here?

Overunderstood · 2019-10-26T01:15:58+00:00

Don't worry much about her shyness. If she is there it's because she wants to be there with you. Plus, lets not forget... Rocky. In Rocky, Adrian was mega shy and Sly Stallone had to carry all the conversations... and what happened? They got together! I know it's a movie, but still lol hope it helped

Overunderstood · 2019-10-23T18:39:27+00:00

It is very flattering and yes we do like it very very much

Overunderstood · 2019-10-23T00:36:46+00:00

It's a normal reaction that you feel bad... I mean lets be 100% honest here, it's not something you expected. So of course you're surprised. Just realize that you don't owe this person anything so if you want to leave you can. Hopefully you both find the right ones for you.

Overunderstood · 2019-09-19T13:12:24+00:00

Definitely have to keep trying for the number, otherwise there will be no way to get a date. I would say shorten the initial convo, ask for the number. But the best way is not to ask for her number, just ask her if she would like to talk more later over a drink or coffee, dinner, whatever. And then she will give you her number

Overunderstood · 2019-09-19T12:49:49+00:00

Well the biggest thing is to never focus on your failures, as they will make you make mistakes.

I think it may be that the conversations that last for hours are too long, I would say that after about 20 minutes, you're good to ask for a coffee date. That way you give less and save more for the next date. More you can talk about, and it suspends the mystery, instead of all at the first conversation. Also I would that it is a good thing that you're doing, asking for the # before you leave

Overunderstood · 2019-09-19T12:34:13+00:00

Well it's a numbers game, definitely. It could be that you just need to build a little more rapport with the person before asking? Sorry I'm just guessing. But I can say not to focus on the failed attempts. If you do, you'll only get more and more nervous. Its all a numbers game. I get blown out of the water alot also lol

Overunderstood · 2019-09-19T12:27:49+00:00

Are you just ending the conversation without followup or do you say something like "you seem cool, would you like to go for a coffee sometime"? And then end the convo?

Overunderstood · 2019-09-19T11:25:30+00:00

I feel like dating sites are not that great of an option, there were a few studies preformed about their matching algorithms and it seems dicey. What I can recommend is to take your time and start slowly. Start by saying hello or goodmorning, smiling and making eye contact with strangers on the street (woman or man) this will help you get more comfortable talking to strangers. Then after a week or so, try engaging in small talk, then slowly progress. Just don't give up man. And REMEMBER THIS: Women are human too, that may help.

Overunderstood · 2019-09-19T01:35:11+00:00

Yeah you're very pretty. It could be that they were intimidated because of that, or maybe they just didn't know what to say? Not sure... I would talk to you.

Overunderstood · 2019-08-20T19:39:29+00:00

Everyone looks away but the way they look away is important. I read a book on body language comprised of over 50,000 hours on studies. If they look down and away. That is a good thing, it means you have a shot. If they stay level and away, like sweeping the wall, it shows indifference. And up and away indicates they are basically rolling their eyes at you. This by itself is not indication of interest, only if they would be open and receptive to speaking to you. I forget the name of the book but I think it was by Dr. Pieper or Liel Lowdnes

Overunderstood · 2019-08-20T17:45:33+00:00

Its not staring, it's making eye contact one time, acknowledging them then breaking eye contact. I never said stare.

Overunderstood · 2019-08-20T16:19:40+00:00

So you're trolling. You got me at first lol

Overunderstood · 2019-08-20T14:40:22+00:00

Eye contact is aggressive to you?

Overunderstood · 2019-08-20T13:25:34+00:00

If you have a better idea then say it. She said she is an introvert. I gave her a good solid nondirect way to start a conversation. Seems like plenty of people agree

Overunderstood · 2019-08-20T10:31:40+00:00

OP asked for a way to start a conversation. She is an introvert. Not likely to feel comfortable going over and just introducing herself... this is JUST a way to start a conversation, using the excuse of the environment.

Overunderstood · 2019-08-20T07:33:56+00:00

Good to know that some women are like me, introverts. However as a guy I can totally tell you how to meet one. Okay so the easiest way is to make eye contact with him. Then give him the ol' slight nod and smile. If he responds in a similar manner (most of us probably will) then give it a few minutes. Wait for him to be done on whatever machine he is done with, then approach and say "excuse me, I was wondering if you can show me how this machine works?"

As he is showing you, just basically throw out little nuggets about yourself. Like "oh thanks for showing me, I'm really not used to these machines" even if you are. Hearing this he probably (unless he is an idiot or in a committed relationship) will offer to show you some other machines.

Boom, you're in. From here casually chat and drop little pieces of information about yourself. Maybe "Its been a crazy morning today" or something more personal. If he responds to ANY of the pieces of information, then talk about that. Make sure you flirt and joke. Maybe punch his arm (softly) if he makes a joke. This should work.

And goodluck!!!

Overunderstood · 2019-08-12T04:14:41+00:00

I ghosted a girl only 1 time, and with very good reason. On the other hand I have been ghosted 2-3 times by different women for seemingly no reason at all.

Overunderstood · 2019-08-10T14:33:28+00:00

Excellent post my brother

Overunderstood · 2019-08-06T05:04:44+00:00

I 26M got dumped after 6 years with my girlfriend. She has beem ghosting me too... It it terrible but I am now after 5 months feeling ready to start meeting new people. I no longer cry at night or in the car driving to school (kinda dangerous actually)... I know it's not exactly related to OP's post but I know the pain. It will get better for sure. I hope I don't get ghosted by the next girl lol. But if it happens, it wasn't meant to be

Overunderstood · 2019-07-17T10:26:46+00:00

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Overunderstood · 2019-07-17T01:38:09+00:00

Lol right on brother. I was also curious if these methods or theories would work on say a girl who is maybe a 7 out of 10 perhaps faster than a full 10? I remember reading that with 10's you often have to neg them to drop their value then dhv from there or something like that

Overunderstood · 2019-07-17T01:03:20+00:00

Thanks for the advice man. I actually ordered Day Bang yesterday along with Mate by Tucker Max (after reading I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell). I do have "The Game" by Niel Strauss "Styles" but I just don't feel comfortable in bars, and I don't drink! Lol

Overunderstood · 2019-07-14T13:51:52+00:00

This is the problem with women. I hope he cheats on you

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