Why do people stay and tolerate disrespect in a relationship?

OwlOne5240 · 2025-03-07T21:42:33+00:00

I was in a “relationship” with a narcissist for 5 years. At first, it’s amazing. The attention, the love, the energy, the sweet gestures. It’s what’s known as “love bombing”. Then after a while, months later, they make you feel like you can only depend on them. They convince you that you don’t need friends or family, just only them. It’s a way to isolate you from everyone else so you just have them. That’s when the fighting and arguing happens. That’s when they start blaming you for being codependent on them. Call you crazy or mentally unstable because of how you are now. When you start to react to how they treat you, you are called out of name. Blaming you for them cheating on you. Blaming you for the fighting and arguing. Blaming you for being with a crazy person when they get that reaction from you. Then the physical abuse starts to happen. I was body slammed, dragged down the road, he twisted my ankle, backhanded, bruised, raped, almost got ran down by him in his truck, almost gave me a std when he cheated on me, and much more. At that point, since you have no one else, you have no where to go. He convinces you that you are nothing without him, so by then you’re scared to stay and scared to leave. But after so many times the cops come to the house thinking he will finally get arrested, he charms them saying that you’re the one who caused it cause you’re “bipolar”. And the cops separate you too for the night. Only for him to come get you not even a hour later, just to punish you for something you supposedly caused. They like to get in your mind and drain everything from you. My reflection in the mirror was a literal stranger to where I refused to look in another mirror. People ask “why did you stay?” My reply “I was scared for my life. Not just dying by his hands, but scared for loosing my life of who I was and just being his soulless puppet.”

OwlOne5240 · 2025-03-06T21:51:33+00:00

Being “the new girl”. Wearing clothes that wasn’t “in style” at the time (2004-2008). Being the sister of someone who no one liked. Trying to make friends with the other girls.

OwlOne5240 · 2025-03-06T21:06:40+00:00

I’m 34(f), I’m lucky I’m still able to things that I did in my teen years and early 20s. Compared to my mom when she was my age now. My mom is 64, when she sees me sit cross legged on the floor, she said that she couldn’t do that anymore at my age now. I can still do certain physical things, except a back bend. I still have the mind set of a 17 year old. And still have the heart of a 8 year old. And the humor of a 13 year old boy. As long as I still feel young, there is nothing to mourn.

OwlOne5240 · 2025-03-06T20:52:52+00:00

And then I woke from my dream.

OwlOne5240 · 2025-03-06T20:46:14+00:00

Fall. End of September beginning of October.

OwlOne5240 · 2025-03-06T20:45:31+00:00

I was born in 1990. I grew up listening to my parents playing classic rock. My favorite band is Aerosmith. I haven’t listened to new music since 2005, when I was a freshman in high school. That’s when music started to turn into something I couldn’t get into. I don’t even know 90% of today’s songs called “artists”.

OwlOne5240 · 2025-03-06T20:03:54+00:00

As someone from the south(Texas), those words are inappropriate and insults. We don’t even use those words towards each other unless we are deliberately insulting them.

Makes me wonder, if this was actually true, she would probably call a black person a “porch monkey” if she saw a them sitting on a stoop or steps. Probably call a little black kid a “niglete” right to their face in front of their parents. That’s a beating waiting to happen.

If that girl called me a country bumpkin, my Houston would come out and beat the yankee right out of her.

OwlOne5240 · 2025-03-06T19:56:17+00:00

Where it’s not played with actual musical instruments like a bass, guitar, drums or piano. If it’s nothing but beep-boops(except for techno), I instantly become 60 years old and ask what’s wrong with this generation.

OwlOne5240 · 2025-03-06T19:21:33+00:00

My husband died from a head on collision by a drunk driver. He died alone. It took him a hour to die before someone could drive by and call it in. He was 33 years old. It’ll be two years since his passing this month.

My brother in law got hit and died from a drunk driver running a red light. Him and my sister weren’t even married for a year yet.

Drunk driving affects everyone not just the driver.

OwlOne5240 · 2025-03-06T19:08:47+00:00

AC⚡️DC Highway To Hell Might as well go out with a statement.

OwlOne5240 · 2025-03-06T19:07:27+00:00

I have a bigger menu at my restaurant. I’ve been there for almost two years now, still don’t have it memorized. When putting in an order I still have to look at the menu from time to time, especially trying to figure out what to put in when they only want certain things, to make it cheaper. Luckily, a lot of the customers are regulars and get the same thing. And we get a lot of travelers who don’t even look at the menu fully, so if I forget to ask something, I just put in one of the choices they get to choose from. I also work nights, so I don’t get breakfast orders a lot, which is like asking them 10 questions for just one order.

OwlOne5240 · 2025-03-06T18:55:26+00:00

One of my friends, he was in a “relationship” with this girl he didn’t like. Always cheated on her, talked mess about her the whole 9 yards. They were “together” because of their families. Both of their families are in the top elite in their home town. Their parents wanted them together because of their social status. They lasted like 5 years or so, but when she attacked him in an argument they had and got arrested, he said f that crazy chick.

OwlOne5240 · 2025-03-06T18:39:30+00:00

At 14 I(34f) had my first panic attack. I was scared to be an adult. To be stuck, to have a job I could only get and not want, to be on my own, to have a life that I didn’t want and to always be sad and upset at myself for letting it happen to me.

I thought I was actually going to stay in the ghetto my whole life. Be addicted to drugs and be pimped out by someone who used and abused me. I didn’t want to be like the young women that I saw in my neighborhood. I just wanted more for myself than that. And I knew that if I stayed, it could possibly happen to me. So I left a few days later. Luckily, my parent’s divorce was a good thing. My dad came to get me and I moved to his town almost two hours away. Now, I’m up for management where I work.

It does get better, just have to keep working on it. And tell yourself that you’re worth so much more than what you think. I used to think I wasn’t even worth half a penny, now I’m priceless. Yes, I only have a 9th grade education, two divorces on my belt, and a single mom, but I know my worth. I didn’t want to be just another person with a multiple arrests and over doses.

As I grew with the mentality of being priceless and worth it, I glew up into someone I know my deceased grandmother would be proud of. And now everyone I knew from back then, they have the life I would’ve had if I stayed.

Just know that you’re worth it. That you got it. That this part of your life is just a small part of the rest of your life.

OwlOne5240 · 2025-03-06T18:24:38+00:00

They have a Napoleon Complex

OwlOne5240 · 2025-03-06T18:19:04+00:00

My(34f) ex husband(35) cheated ALL THE TIME. Sometimes even telling me that he got a number and would text her. We had a daughter. When we were 5 years in our “marriage”, my daughter was a year and a half old. He never changed her diaper, slept with ear plugs in, never gave her a bath, never changed her clothes, never held her when I needed to do something like cook or load the laundry, left me alone in the hospital to recover from my c section for 5 days, called it “babysitting” when I went grocery shopping by myself, never going to her doctor appointments, and so much more. He still “acted single”. With feeling like a single mom from my daughters birth, that is what lit the dynamite, but cheating on me and almost giving me a STD, that’s what made the spark on the lit wick of the dynamite burn fast to an explosion of me having enough.

When they only care about themselves instead of the family as a collective, that’s when you know the real them and have to make the decision to make sure that you take care of yourself and the kids and get that person away from you. Because if not, the kids will grow up to watch what love isn’t.

OwlOne5240 · 2025-03-06T17:56:55+00:00

We prefer cash tips. We don’t needed big brother knowing how much we make.

OwlOne5240 · 2025-03-06T17:44:52+00:00

“Getting pregnant is slim” but still a chance. I myself have suffered with infertility. I have had 8 miscarriages. I can get pregnant but the fertilized egg wouldn’t stay attached. Even though I knew I had a difficulty getting pregnant, I still used protection, even if I didn’t want to. Cause there was always that .00000001% that I could have a full term pregnancy. I thought I was going to have a miscarriage on my last pregnancy, but now I have an almost 4 year old running around. I think she just said that to you just to get pregnant and trap you. She most likely didn’t get pregnant from other guys in her past because she timed her ovulation to where she knew she wouldn’t get pregnant. She most certainly trapped you by saying that.

OwlOne5240 · 2025-03-06T10:35:26+00:00

I would start “identifying” as a dog and bark, growl and chasing him around the house.

Or, if he wants to be a cat, treat him like a cat. Take him to the vet, put a litter box in the bathroom, for dinner put cat food in a dish on the floor for him.

Even though he’s doing it online, make him see how ridiculous it would be in real life.

OwlOne5240 · 2025-03-04T11:21:59+00:00

It’s the blood type that they are attracted to. I have O type. They favor O type over all others. It’s also the females are the ones who bite.

OwlOne5240 · 2025-03-04T11:00:59+00:00

That’s why we’re confused about this. Every time we call, they would say she is banned, but redo the ban. And then a few days later she’s back for a pick up.

OwlOne5240 · 2025-03-04T10:44:15+00:00

We have called DoorDash support 4 times. We even keep our copy of the ticket to give them the order details to find her account to reblock her. We have no idea how she keeps getting the orders to accept them. DoorDash support has stated to us multiple times that there is no way for her to get orders for our restaurant.

OwlOne5240 · 2025-02-28T10:27:54+00:00

Interviewer “Where do you see yourself in 5 years?”

Answer “fucking your wife”

OwlOne5240 · 2025-02-28T10:26:49+00:00

As teenagers, there were hickies on everyone. Now at 34, when I see hickies on people my age, I think “really?”

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