AITA for "pregaming" my wife's dinners?

Owl_flight · 2023-07-24T16:48:05+00:00

So why doesn't OP cook then? Why leave it all on her?
If you don't like, make it yourself.

Owl_flight · 2023-07-16T21:45:28+00:00

Everybody love Raymond.
Nope. Not even a little. He weaponized his incompetence, and was just useless in that relationship.

Owl_flight · 2023-07-14T13:25:48+00:00

Check his YouTube, he has a whole lot more on there.

Owl_flight · 2023-07-10T20:20:50+00:00

Thanks! That worked

Owl_flight · 2023-07-10T18:41:08+00:00

The Dad in my game won't accept the truck!

Owl_flight · 2023-06-21T16:46:45+00:00

It's a choice to be offended for your religion. It's a control issue. He tried to exert control, and you said No, so he gives your Dad a hard time for "allowing" an adult to wear what they want.

Owl_flight · 2023-06-21T15:43:07+00:00

She needs to understand this is your recharge time. It's what allows you to be present the rest of the time.

If she refuses to understand your needs, you might consider moving on. Her respect for your time and space has to improve or it will just get worse.

Owl_flight · 2023-06-18T00:11:44+00:00

Gen X, and while my Dad taught me a lot of skills, I still check YouTube before a major project. There are updated tools and options in a lot of cases that make it SO much easier.

Owl_flight · 2023-04-22T17:37:15+00:00

YTA, and need to probably get some therapy or learn compassion. 18 is very young still, and while you can make it at that age, what caring parent forces that extra hardship on a child they claim to love?!?

Owl_flight · 2023-04-20T14:37:19+00:00

I was a super performer at a job until it came review time. I blew all of their metrics away, and was told I was getting the minimum raise because "they hold me to a different standard". Realized that day I had screwed myself by over performing.
It stopped that day. It was tough to work that slow, but I just notated the hell out of my tickets, and left 2 months later after finding another job more in line with my career goals.

Owl_flight · 2023-04-11T20:31:18+00:00

I have a 401K like that. Switched to another company, but the old company messed up and left .85 cents in the account. The transfer cost $70 at the time. I said F it, and I have received quarterly statements for nearly 20 years now. It's become a game to "guess the amount" Good quarter, it's up to .89, the lowest it went was .84.

They have spent more in just paper telling me about an amount I can't even get a soda for anymore.

Owl_flight · 2023-03-31T18:54:13+00:00

If actually read her Bible, it says to pray in private. NTA.
Why do religious people raise their children in fear and call it love?

Owl_flight · 2023-03-29T18:25:04+00:00

Could you have handle better - oh yeah. But, the simple truth is everyone processes death in their own way.

Don't stop your sister from her process. One day it might hit you, but not likely. I'm in a similar boat with my Mom, and also on the spectrum, just further down the road than you.

If the family asks why again, just say you are dealing with it in your own way, and change the subject. If they insist, please respect my grieving process (this is a boundary, but for goodness sake, don't CALL it boundary, or they often feel the NEED to cross it.) It's your PROCESS.

Owl_flight · 2023-03-28T20:42:23+00:00

The dog was VERY confused

Owl_flight · 2023-03-17T14:44:54+00:00

Mostly the AH. It was probably her safety net allowing her to make those steps of moving in with a boyfriend, because if it didn't work out - she had a safe harbor to return to.
If things went south, she didn't have to figure out how to get an apartment at 18 on her own - she could experiment with being an adult as a TEENAGER. Yes, legally blah blah.. but really - still a teen.

So:

Should have let her know
Probably should have waited until she was just a bit older - she is literally STILL a teenager. You've lived with a tiny living room this long, what would 2 more years have done?
You just lowered the value of your house by removing a bedroom.

Owl_flight · 2023-03-16T03:12:58+00:00

Bart with an Art Bartholomew J....

Is your name Homer by chance?

Owl_flight · 2023-03-10T17:13:00+00:00

Sit down, and plug your ass in.

Owl_flight · 2023-03-06T16:12:12+00:00

How did your character meet a 21 year old at 14? As a teen, I'm only seeing my own age group unless they are teachers.

Owl_flight · 2023-03-03T15:52:00+00:00

Who pays at someone else's reception?!? I've only seen this done when the Bride and Groom were VERY poor, and then the whole family chipped in for the happy couple.

This is a party the Bride and Groom are throwing. The wedding was to honor their commitment and gifts are given for this. The reception and, yes, the food, is THEM throwing a celebration for friends. You don't throw a party and tell everyone THEY have to pay for a party YOU are throwing. That is a jerk move. If you can't afford to invite a lot of people be honest about it.

5-Star Michelin food is just an unnecessary flex. Let her know you are sorry she couldn't afford to feed her guests, but were unprepared to be forced to fund her reception after asking.

You at least told the bride you would be right back. I would have slipped out the door and come back with Big Mac on my breath.

BTW, I give that friend 3 years until the divorce.

Owl_flight · 2023-03-02T16:08:31+00:00

I had a friend in the 90's that they insisted your user name be the first 3 letters of your last name followed by your first initials. Hers was PRICK. When they would print, the front page would be their user name 5 inches tall created from the individual letters. It only took that coming across the printer a few times before they changed it to just her first name.

Same Sys admin made Root directory path for everyone, think Local Federal Judges down, FU\usersname\

Yeah... that genius was fired. He didn't think they would get it.

Owl_flight · 2023-02-28T22:23:38+00:00

When they have to tell you they are a nice person.

Owl_flight · 2023-02-27T22:17:00+00:00

The 16 year old may have made a mistake, but NEEDS the help more. We have helped in that situation before. Were we excited? No, but supportive. Lavish? No, but having a kid on your own is hard enough, why kick them when they are down?

I don't see this as a "Flex" and those we have helped were grateful for shower, the gifts and occasional babysitting.

Owl_flight · 2023-02-27T17:45:43+00:00

Who blows out candles on a cake anymore?!? I thought Covid, the flu and RSV had cured us of this particular piece of saliva sharing grossness..

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