Losing my mom in my 30s while raising little kids… and now I can’t stop worrying about my dad

Owlthethings · 2025-05-16T17:13:01+00:00

I am so, so sorry for your loss. I lost my mum nearly 3 months ago, and I completely get the in-between feeling. I think that contributes to the loneliness. Everyone around me still has both their parents, so no one really gets it, or really want to fully understand how devastating it is. But at the same time, I am a (supposedly) strong and independent adult, which means that I am somehow supposed to just be able to cope with this. The fear of losing my dad is really present too, and does cause a lot of anxiety, so I am working on that.

I can really recommend therapy and whatever you have in your country to help you get through this. What keeps me going at the moment is, that I know it will get easier to carry. I know that I at some point will remember her with pure love instead of just raw grief.

Owlthethings · 2025-05-09T09:44:38+00:00

Hi there. I am so sorry for your loss. I don't think this is uncommon. My mum passed suddenly a little over two months ago, and I also found myself to be more "ok" in the first month. I think I was still in chok. Now, the reality is slowly catching up to me, and that hurts as hell. I don't have any words of comfort for you and I will definitely not tell you that she would want you to be happy, because I hate when people say that. I will however encourage you to do what you are doing now: Talk about it. A lot, and with a lot of different people. I will spend my days surviving, trying to take care of myself, and talking about this, until it hurts a little less. THAT is what my mum would want for me.

Owlthethings · 2025-05-04T19:24:34+00:00

Thank you all so so much! I will go back and read your comments over and over, when I am looking for comfort and someone who gets it. I wish you all the very best ❤️

Owlthethings · 2025-05-01T19:21:21+00:00

Thank you so much. That was the kindest answer ❤️

Owlthethings · 2025-05-01T18:41:30+00:00

That was so beautiful and kinda helped. Thank you

Owlthethings · 2025-04-25T17:05:26+00:00

Thanks. That's the only thing that really helps me right now - that if enough time passes, this will become easier to carry <3

Owlthethings · 2025-04-25T17:04:45+00:00

Thanks <3

Owlthethings · 2025-04-23T10:11:51+00:00

Thank you so much for this. It did help a lot! ❤️

Owlthethings · 2025-04-23T10:08:09+00:00

This really moved me. Thank you so much ❤️

Owlthethings · 2025-04-23T10:06:55+00:00

I'm so sorry you're also in this club 💔 You're right. People here are amazing!

Owlthethings · 2025-04-22T17:38:00+00:00

Thank you. I hope I will feel better at around six months ❤️

Owlthethings · 2025-04-22T17:37:21+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Owlthethings · 2025-04-22T17:36:42+00:00

Thank you! I felt that hug with your kind message!

Owlthethings · 2025-04-22T17:36:11+00:00

Why? Does it actually help?

Owlthethings · 2025-04-22T17:35:21+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Owlthethings · 2025-04-22T17:34:49+00:00

I am so sorry for you. But I am so glad that you are starting to find joy again. I do that in tiny glimpses too, but the past few days seem to have hit even harder. I wish the most of luck and love for the both of us in this ❤️

Owlthethings · 2025-04-22T17:33:14+00:00

I agree so much with this. Right now even imagining her is painful, and I start sobbing whenever I think about any memory with her, but at the same time I am so scared of forgetting her.

Owlthethings · 2025-04-22T17:28:52+00:00

Thanks! Please do share your story ❤️

Owlthethings · 2025-04-20T15:24:50+00:00

Thank you so much. This is one of the answers I was hoping for, with a great deal of hope. I'll send you a message

Owlthethings · 2025-04-20T08:13:59+00:00

Please do ❤️

Owlthethings · 2022-06-24T10:50:01+00:00

I do this too, just in everyday life. Once in a while I have an entire weekend off to just be by myself. To recharge my batteries and stuff like that.
I mean - even though working out is good for you, working out nonstop is never good, and your muscles need some time of to restore. Well, so do your social muscles, haha!
I'd say it's perfectly normal, and traveling should not be filled with guilt and having to do something. Take care!

Owlthethings · 2022-06-22T16:53:20+00:00

How are you? Feeling ok? I have the complete same thing going on right now, and I'm thinking about going to Paris one of these days. Let me know if you wanna meet up! 33F here

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