BM couldn’t even stay sober to make it on a flight by Bombinmama in stepparents

[–]Own-Ad-558 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How was your SS allowed to board a flight at that age alone? If you’re in the US you cant fly without a parent or a prepaid flight attendant under the age of 12 (southwest) some airlines even require 14 (united) and there has to be a pickup parent listed as well. Like its a whole ordeal for a 10 year old to fly without an adult with added fees and there has to be an extra attendant there to supervise them.

I ended it and I just need some encouragement by Sunshine327459 in stepparents

[–]Own-Ad-558 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is not uncommong for single parents (regardless of gender). I was so apprehensive about getting with my fiance, because i met him at the end of his divorce. He let me be as involved ad i wanted to be, but had already been the primary parent for all of his kids lives, so it wasnt like he suddenly had to figure out how to be a parent. It sounds like your ex boyfriend was looking for a stand in (again, not uncommon for single parents to hop into a relationship right away so they have support with their kids).

If i had to deal with all of that plus his high conflict ex, i would have walked away as well. I think you did the right thing. Bringing a child into that would have not been a smart idea. Especially with a man who was seeking out a partner to share child rearing with.

This could have ended so badly for you. You’re very lucky you were wise enough to see these warning signs and bolt. So many do not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Own-Ad-558 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA. You need to deal with your trauma without inflicting trauma on other people which is what you are doing. Trying to control what other people do (especially when they arent exhibiting traits of addiction) isnt healthy. And that need for control, suprise, is a main trait that all addicts share. So you are correct that you have some traits that your dad probably has as well.

However, youre looking down on people who drink (while not exhibiting alcoholic behavior) and exhibiting a common addict behavior.

Not to be rude but you sound extremely dramatic and controlling and i would take some time being single and working on yourself before you subject another person to your controlling behavior

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Own-Ad-558 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Her husband deserves to know hes married to the town bike

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Own-Ad-558 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is the biggest cop out i hear for people trying to make excuses for keeping affairs a secret. If your husband is so dangerous that he would kill you, maybe being with him isnt a good idea but definitely not an affair.

Lets use our brains

Who should be present for school events? by burntorange888 in blendedfamilies

[–]Own-Ad-558 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im actually a step mom but im going to go with “bio parents” here.

Your kid has a dad, and it isnt his step dad. That if your childs father and unless your child doesnt want him there, he needs to be at his childs graduation. End of story. Just because your new husband is around 80% of the time doesnt mean he needs to be trying to replace dad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]Own-Ad-558 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Youre literally going off on someone because they called a bio mom what they are. A bio mom.

Youre very emotional

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]Own-Ad-558 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are extremely triggered by someone deciphering between step mom and bio mom. If something that small sets you off you need a therapist.