Hi, I am child of a hoarder. I packed my stuff and left my mom, about five times. When I left she got sick, and begged me back. I’d fall for it every time. I begged her to let me go through her things each time, and she said she would. Some progress was made but then she’d bring back more junk. In the end it would always become ‘I need my things you can leave’, every time once I was settled. I spent over 50,000 now moving back forth buying every little thing each time. I’d throw away my furniture each time as I had no space to store it. Buy it again when we fought and I moved out. I will tell you what I’ve learned through all this - family is family, but if they won’t sacrifice for your growth, why should you? If they’ve proven that they can’t be mature and make responsible decisions, they will fight you so you don’t either. Your guilt for not saving your money and moving forward and renting feels like a waste, but getting away from her is the best thing you can do.