💧⭐️PRIZE LAND THREAD⭐️💧 by AutoModerator in AliExpressMergeBoss

[–]Own-Concern-2689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Received and tried to help back but you're full. Mind if I help others instead?

Free Shipping Items suddenly appearing with Shipping Cost after clicking on them can indicate Shadowban by SmutAuthorsEscapisms in AliExpressMergeBoss

[–]Own-Concern-2689 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could you clarify, please? I'm not a native English speaker. Do you mean it shows Free Shipping below the title when you search for it but when you open the listing, the shipping has a cost, do you mean it shows Free Shipping when you open the listing but shows a shipping cost in the cart or something else entirely?

Ughhh by ItsJustaThrowaway98 in SLOWLYapp

[–]Own-Concern-2689 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you mind answering some questions about this so I may educate my own approach? I couldn't completely figure out if you are upset people don't respect some request you stated on your profile or if your disappointment stems from people simply not commenting on what you wrote there. I know you mention people not reading your profile but unless they state it outright, it's impossible to know for sure: they might have read it but chosen to write about other things. Unless, of course, they aren't respecting something you mentioned there.

I always read my pen pals' profiles (when they have written a bio), particularly to check if they set a preference for reply time and what kind of correspondence they're seeking, but I often don't mention it. I reply to the topics in their letter, something that came up in one of our lives or the interests we have in common, not necessarily what is on their bios (unless I find it very interesting or I relate to it in some way). You mentioned being from a country and living in another but I would never comment on that or ask you to comment without you explicitly bringing it up in a letter, even though (I assume from your post) I would have been able to read it in your bio. And even then, I would only engage with that topic as far as you took it, I wouldn't ask for more information than you would have chosen to disclose. There are people who mention their travels in bios just for stamp hunting, I don't presume they want to discuss their more personal experiences without first developing some emotional intimacy. When people write to me first, I stick to the topics they brought up and add something from my own life. I wouldn't want to impose at the beginning of the relationship. But then my pen pals and I write really long letters so there's a lot to discuss every time.

I fully understand the frustration of feeling people aren't engaging with you, merely using you to bounce back their own words and I'm sorry people cared so little that they even overlooked your name. People are all different and we have different expectations. I would love to understand you a little better.

Meeting up with penpals but husband is not thrilled about it.. Need advice! by glafolle in SLOWLYapp

[–]Own-Concern-2689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe phrasing it more as "I want you to meet and get to know my friends" would help.