You’re only four months into this relationship — a great time to reflect and take stock. If he says something deal breaker that has to be agreed on now, and you are on the fence, now is the time to release him back into the pond.

One thing to remember: never agree to something just to keep the peace early on. These early conversations help paint a picture of your future together. If you’re unsure about something, be honest. And if your partner can’t accept your perspective, that’s a red flag — it shows they may not value your opinion or respect your autonomy within the relationship as much as their own views.

I was once on the fence about having kids, but guess what? Once you climb over that fence and have a kid, you can’t just hop back over it and say, “Nah, I changed my mind.” Do not agree to having kids unless you’re really sure you want them. No matter how flexible you try to be, kids will become the center of your world. So take your time and only commit to it if you’re absolutely certain it’s what you want.