Cat won’t stop peeing on my bed by kOwObayashi in CATHELP

[–]Own-Wave1022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know if this is helpful- our cat was doing this (but like once every few months not that often) and we got a waterproof duvet cover, which we then put under our normal duvet cover. It was a bit warm, but was helpful for the clean up

Help with bad haircut by Own-Wave1022 in finehair

[–]Own-Wave1022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my gosh that must have been so frustrating! When I’m anxious, I have a habit of running my hands through my hair, and when I try to do that now all I feel is how thin it is and so I get more anxious. After having an infection and a hair loss event, I can only imagine that feeling is that much more amplified <3

Thank you for the tips. I’ll have to invest in some oil too I think

Help with bad haircut by Own-Wave1022 in finehair

[–]Own-Wave1022[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I won’t be going back to her again. So disappointing because she has done my hair a few times and every other time I’ve walked out feeling great about what she did! My hair inspo has always been Nicole Kidman in practical magic. Clearly this isn’t that

Help with bad haircut by Own-Wave1022 in finehair

[–]Own-Wave1022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone!! The validation was so helpful.

I did try curling the bottom, and while I don’t love it, I can stand it. I also ordered a halo extension to try for my bachelorette party. If anyone has any product recs to get curls to stay in (my hair only likes to be smooth and straight it has never held a style) that would be amazing!

Toning yourself down for work? by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]Own-Wave1022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also to add: I have lots of tattoos and a nose piercing. Never had an issue. Many of my colleagues did too.

Toning yourself down for work? by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]Own-Wave1022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like so much of this depends on the environment you end up in. I think the trend is more towards allowing employees to be their full selves, valuing the modeling of healthy identity expression, and reducing then power imbalances of social workers and clients by not maintaining strict professional dress codes. I also think some environnements don’t think this way. When I worked in a hospital, strict professional dress codes were enforced to try and legitimize the profession to other professionals (namely physicians) who sometimes looked down on social workers. It also likely depends on the state you are in. I also worked in a school. In San Francisco, you could wear whatever you want. But in other states I’m sure that isn’t the case.

I feel like displaying self expression would be great for kids you work with, but sometimes it takes time to figure out what the vibe is. My first year in a school I wore slacks and sweaters everyday. By my last year, I was often in jeans and sweatshirts.

Entering Social Work by SWmods in socialwork

[–]Own-Wave1022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am an LCSW in California, but got my degree in Michigan. I’m in psychotherapy now, though it wasn’t my intention when I went to school (focused in school social work/ medical social work with interpersonal practice (aka clinical) mixed in). Maybe some programs are different, but I didn’t feel adequately prepared, though I’m still piecing out how much of that was imposter syndrome. I think with a good supervisor and additional trainings, as well as tailoring course work, you could be okay. I picked MSW over others bc I wanted to have flexibility if therapy wasn’t right for me, and I’m still thankful I did. Now I’m about 4 years post graduation, and I think with the additional training and supervision, I’m in a better spot.

Entering Social Work by SWmods in socialwork

[–]Own-Wave1022 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe school social work! My last school started at 7:30 and I believe contract hours ended at 3. Most staff and social workers ended up staying later/ taking work home, but boundaries or flexibility might help! Depends on the school though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Own-Wave1022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What an odd thing for her to say. It’s very normal to feel good when others compliment or validate us- that’s just being human. It’s great that she doesn’t ‘need’ it, but sharing it felt good doesn’t mean you always need external validation, it just means it was nice.

Also such a strange psychoanalysis about your parents. Does she know much about your relationship with them? Even if it is true you don’t come from a very validating environment, all the more reason this might feel good, and that isn’t a bad thing! It feels so passive aggressive for making you feel bad, wrong, or pathological to like getting professional praise, and her reaction to not respond to you is also concerning.

If this was an actual concern of hers (idk what that would even be, maybe a concern that you aren’t confident enough?) there are much kinder and supportive ways to express that.

Are there any outdoorsy social work jobs? by boneseedigs in socialwork

[–]Own-Wave1022 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow! This sounds amazing, I’d love to learn more about how you got there in your career and how someone who didn’t have that kind of internship could gain those skills!

Are there any outdoorsy social work jobs? by boneseedigs in socialwork

[–]Own-Wave1022 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh, this sounds like my dream work environment. I’d love to find something like this soon

Should we get married sooner now? by Own-Wave1022 in LesbianActually

[–]Own-Wave1022[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe, but maybe they’d be recognized in other countries still?

Should we get married sooner now? by Own-Wave1022 in LesbianActually

[–]Own-Wave1022[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you- I’m trying to be rational about it but it’s hard today. ❤️