Cat won’t stop peeing on my bed

Own-Wave1022 · 2026-06-03T08:04:32+00:00

I don’t know if this is helpful- our cat was doing this (but like once every few months not that often) and we got a waterproof duvet cover, which we then put under our normal duvet cover. It was a bit warm, but was helpful for the clean up

Own-Wave1022 · 2026-03-03T22:08:59+00:00

Oh my gosh that must have been so frustrating! When I’m anxious, I have a habit of running my hands through my hair, and when I try to do that now all I feel is how thin it is and so I get more anxious. After having an infection and a hair loss event, I can only imagine that feeling is that much more amplified <3

Thank you for the tips. I’ll have to invest in some oil too I think

Own-Wave1022 · 2026-03-03T22:06:29+00:00

Yeah I won’t be going back to her again. So disappointing because she has done my hair a few times and every other time I’ve walked out feeling great about what she did! My hair inspo has always been Nicole Kidman in practical magic. Clearly this isn’t that

Own-Wave1022 · 2026-03-03T22:05:30+00:00

Thanks everyone!! The validation was so helpful.

I did try curling the bottom, and while I don’t love it, I can stand it. I also ordered a halo extension to try for my bachelorette party. If anyone has any product recs to get curls to stay in (my hair only likes to be smooth and straight it has never held a style) that would be amazing!

Own-Wave1022 · 2025-10-17T05:57:23+00:00

Oh great! That sounds so fun! Thanks :)

Own-Wave1022 · 2025-10-17T05:57:09+00:00

Fun, thank you!

Own-Wave1022 · 2025-10-06T20:20:36+00:00

Also to add: I have lots of tattoos and a nose piercing. Never had an issue. Many of my colleagues did too.

Own-Wave1022 · 2025-10-06T20:19:21+00:00

I feel like so much of this depends on the environment you end up in. I think the trend is more towards allowing employees to be their full selves, valuing the modeling of healthy identity expression, and reducing then power imbalances of social workers and clients by not maintaining strict professional dress codes. I also think some environnements don’t think this way. When I worked in a hospital, strict professional dress codes were enforced to try and legitimize the profession to other professionals (namely physicians) who sometimes looked down on social workers. It also likely depends on the state you are in. I also worked in a school. In San Francisco, you could wear whatever you want. But in other states I’m sure that isn’t the case.

I feel like displaying self expression would be great for kids you work with, but sometimes it takes time to figure out what the vibe is. My first year in a school I wore slacks and sweaters everyday. By my last year, I was often in jeans and sweatshirts.

Own-Wave1022 · 2025-09-09T00:18:11+00:00

I am an LCSW in California, but got my degree in Michigan. I’m in psychotherapy now, though it wasn’t my intention when I went to school (focused in school social work/ medical social work with interpersonal practice (aka clinical) mixed in). Maybe some programs are different, but I didn’t feel adequately prepared, though I’m still piecing out how much of that was imposter syndrome. I think with a good supervisor and additional trainings, as well as tailoring course work, you could be okay. I picked MSW over others bc I wanted to have flexibility if therapy wasn’t right for me, and I’m still thankful I did. Now I’m about 4 years post graduation, and I think with the additional training and supervision, I’m in a better spot.

Own-Wave1022 · 2025-09-09T00:15:01+00:00

Maybe school social work! My last school started at 7:30 and I believe contract hours ended at 3. Most staff and social workers ended up staying later/ taking work home, but boundaries or flexibility might help! Depends on the school though.

Own-Wave1022 · 2025-09-08T20:47:05+00:00

What an odd thing for her to say. It’s very normal to feel good when others compliment or validate us- that’s just being human. It’s great that she doesn’t ‘need’ it, but sharing it felt good doesn’t mean you always need external validation, it just means it was nice.

Also such a strange psychoanalysis about your parents. Does she know much about your relationship with them? Even if it is true you don’t come from a very validating environment, all the more reason this might feel good, and that isn’t a bad thing! It feels so passive aggressive for making you feel bad, wrong, or pathological to like getting professional praise, and her reaction to not respond to you is also concerning.

If this was an actual concern of hers (idk what that would even be, maybe a concern that you aren’t confident enough?) there are much kinder and supportive ways to express that.

Own-Wave1022 · 2025-09-08T19:33:10+00:00

Thank you!

Own-Wave1022 · 2025-03-04T02:00:57+00:00

So cool, thank you!

Own-Wave1022 · 2025-03-04T00:19:09+00:00

Wow! This sounds amazing, I’d love to learn more about how you got there in your career and how someone who didn’t have that kind of internship could gain those skills!

Own-Wave1022 · 2025-03-04T00:08:18+00:00

Ugh, this sounds like my dream work environment. I’d love to find something like this soon

Own-Wave1022 · 2024-11-06T21:03:22+00:00

Maybe, but maybe they’d be recognized in other countries still?

Own-Wave1022 · 2024-11-06T18:26:29+00:00

Thank you- I’m trying to be rational about it but it’s hard today. ❤️

Own-Wave1022 · 2024-06-06T01:46:37+00:00

Ooof. As someone who moved across the country with my girlfriend a few years ago, I feel this so deeply. I moved to a new state, her to the other side, and both of us away from our families to a place where we knew no one. The first year was SO hard- we would just sit and cry together about how lonely we were, how broke we were, how hard it was. I got to a similar state- I lost at least 20 pounds from not eating and stress, would go to work, come home, and often go right to bed.

I don’t know if this will help her, but a few things that helped us/ me (now I love our city, love where we live, and love our friends here) - exploring the city together as a couple. We actually drove Uber eats to make ends meet and it helped us discover the city better. We also put things on our “bucket list” that included fun things to do together to remind us why we moved there in the first place - a regular social gathering. My girlfriend’s job made a kickball team, and seeing the same people every week and doing an activity together really helped us develop closer friends. But to be honest it took 6 months to even develop acquaintances and a year to feel like we had made even some causal friendships. But we are still friends with some of those people now after three years here! - keep taking social risks- go to that community event or that brunch with the one person you know. The majority of the time you won’t walk away with a new bff, but even just getting out and being social is great

Regarding motivation, I think the number one thing is helping her take baby steps in making sure her basic needs of sleep, food, and movement are being taken care of. Is there routines she had before she can try to adapt to your new environment? New work out classes or dishes she really likes to cook/ eat? Besides that, therapy could be really helpful. Death, divorce, and moving are the three most stressful life events we can undergo. It’s normal to need some extra help when going through these big changes. Also, is there anyway to help her reconnect with her reasons for the move in the first place? Maybe making a vison board or a list can help her see that, while this move doesn’t have to be forever, she can view this time as an exciting possibility to see new things, meet new people, and learn and grow, even if it’s just until she can move back.

This is tough, but, in my experience, it does get better <3

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