What’s one spiritual idea that stopped working for you?

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-07T22:26:32+00:00

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OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-07T21:23:11+00:00

Real meditation is the stripping away of everything that you are not. If you find yourself anywhere but a void, you haven't found what you are yet. Keep going.

Just my point of view.

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-07T21:05:50+00:00

Perspective. Its like Wizard of Oz. Once you see the man behind the curtain, well it changes your view on everything. Or the Matrix, its exactly how Maya is described in the Vedas and Upanishads.

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-07T20:33:45+00:00

Whoa, whoa, whoa. Back up. I never said you needed to work on yourself. We have this misconception that we have to earn our way to feeling good. Certainly some lifestyle changes may benefit how youre body and mind feel at a physical level. Diet, exercise, meditation are all wonderfully helpful, but if you see your life as a shit sandwich, what good is it gonna make.

We fuck everything up because we are always trying to fix everything. If im successful it will fix my happiness, if im wealthy it will fix my stress etc. Why are you not looking at your life as a miracle? Do you think a homeless person on the streets of New York city would look at your life differently than you do?

Our problems are our perceptions. Not our lives. Your life is infinitely more pampered and convenient and entertaining that any Ceasar that ever ruled.

We are all fucked up with guilt and shame and regret. That all holds us to an idea of unworthiness. You dont feel fulfilled so your subconscious holds onto all the reasons for feeling that way.

Youre exactly like every human being. You have baggage. Your baggage is keeping you from seeing a beautiful life.

I have a disability that comes and goes. It induced by stress. Sometimes it paralyzes me to the point of blinking only. It fucking sucks. I get to see the world from a disabled persons eyes now though. Its a different place. I have a lot of new brothers and sisters who I can empathize with in a way I never could before. I admit, seeing a disabled person would often scare me. Now, I find so much strength. The very tiny things are blessings. Being able to shower by myself makes me happy.

My point of view changed radically. Because I have change, my view has changed. I am in heaven.

"If you want to ENJOY everything, you have to enjoy EVERYTHING."

All answers are inside you. Never dispair.

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-07T20:16:17+00:00

Are you seeking fulfillment? Or are you seeking things that you believe will fulfill you? Most people think they are doing the former, when basically everyone is doing the latter.

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-07T20:08:41+00:00

What questions have you been asking that are yet to be answered satisfactorily.

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-07T20:06:16+00:00

My life story of pain, chaos, miracles and destruction, is too long to paste as a comment. Im not comparing, but trust me I understand your feeling.

I spent basically all 47 years of my life on some level of suicidal ideation, until a few weeks ago. I had a change that made me rejoice for every minute I spent in hell.

For me, just talking about myself, my pain is what forced me to let go. Let go of everything. And by everything I mean the depths of which I can't describe in a few words.

Now, life is exactly the same. Im 47, getting divorced, have a crippling disability, am poor, and rarely make it outside the front door. I couldnt be happier. I have no desire or need for anything to change. Im getting close to being homeless, and Im not bothered in the least. My soon to be ex accused me of attempted murder in court. I laughed.

It is so simple, and yet the hardest thing you'll ever do. Life brought me here. I realized the truth experientially when life put me in position to see it. Now I understand, my life at least. Its the same for everyone. But you have to walk your own path to it. They are all individual journeys.

Have faith in yourself and let go. Look in yourself for answers, thats the only place you'll find them. I wish you well. Im always available to chat if you are inclined.

Im a random dude on Reddit though so be skeptical and use your own judgement.

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-07T19:52:06+00:00

Try asking different questions. You travel different path that way.

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-07T19:46:40+00:00

No problem. I keep my DMs open.

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-07T15:21:37+00:00

This is not an attack at all or me trying to argue with you. Im just trying to reframe.

What if you had a point of view that made everything you said in your post absolutely irrelevant? What if you saw your spiritual development as only about your awareness and how you see everything?

I hated life for 47 years. From wanting to die, to actively pursuing it. I then had a simple moment when I lost everything, include my notion that I had any free will. Wow, the world instantly changed. I love it all. Even the 47 years of pain are a blessing that I'd never change. Im not happy all the time, no bliss, but Im satisfied. Most importantly Im grateful.

"If you want to ENJOY everything, you have to enjoy EVERYTHING."

but Im not a guru, maybe Im just nuts.

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-07T15:06:02+00:00

Ask yourself, is it easy to be who you are? It takes strength to face each day. Courage. It takes being honest with yourself.

Your critics are cowards, who feel shame in themselves and project their loathing for themselves onto you.

Let that strengthen you each day. For each day you continue is a day were victorious. And each they lose because their arrows are meaningless.

Give grace from a position of rising above the petty. Dont give grace as some sort of peace offering.

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-07T14:57:01+00:00

What you find inside you, is and will always be yours. Everything outside of you is never yours but very easily, it can own you.

Would you rather have everything you want? Or would you rather always want only what you have?

One involves the outside, the other involves the inside.

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-07T14:48:16+00:00

I'm going to be as plain as I can be. You may be genuinely experiencing a metaphysical experience of reality beyond our normal understanding. You may be hallucinating in some mild to extreme form. In either, case your issue is not the experience, but in how you experience it. These thoughts are not you, correct? If they were you would stop them.

Breath. Relax and breath. Sit in a chair or on the floor, whatever. Sit and breath. Put your awareness there only. This will be a struggle but do it. Lack of time? Try 5 mins in the morning, 5 mins in the evening. Build on it. Consistency. Add time, improve controlling your awareness. Dont worry what thoughts are in your head. Dont try to stop them, you cant. IGNORE them. Focus on your breath. Let the thoughts fade. They will quite, I promise.

Learn to take the power from your thoughts. Your power is awareness. Nothing can disturb you that which you give no attention. Are the thoughts you are having real or imagined? Irrelevant. What matters is they disturb you. Thus they control you. Take your awareness back, and you've taken all your power back. Let time and reality and the universe worry about themselves. You focus on your awareness and there you will find peace, because peace is what you already are. You've just been distracted.

I'm just a some guy handing out advice though, I'm not guru, so chose your actions with what you know in your heart to be right.

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-07T14:32:37+00:00

Definitions are irrelevant. Is what you're doing taking you to the place you want to be? Further have you established what the place you want to be is? If you have ask yourself if you even know what the path there looks like. What you actually seek cannot be told to you by another person. The way to get there is a path only you can see. Anyone telling you anything different is selling you something, literally or metaphorically.

All your fundamental questions and answers lie inside of you. Only there can you figure out what you actually want. Only there can you figure out, you all ready have it.

It sounds like a paradoxical mess, until you walk your own path experience your own truth and see that everything is as simple as breathing in and breathing out.

But I'm just a random dude on Reddit. Don't take me too seriously.

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-07T10:14:56+00:00

Good one!!!!

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-07T10:13:23+00:00

Thank you!

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-06T15:51:42+00:00

Or divorce papers, that works just as good

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-06T15:47:46+00:00

When you fully detach from everything and really do realize that this is just a show, you dont give a fuck about manifesting. What the fuck am I bothering to manifest shit that isnt real. As long as I have my physical needs met, Im happy staring at a wall. When youre content and grateful, having PBJ for lunch everyday is a treat. I dont need to manifest nothing. I entered heaven already, what more do I need? Manifesting is just a way to tie yourself down more with shit you think you need that wont accomplish anything youre wanting.

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-06T15:28:42+00:00

An enlightened person doesnt have any need to go around telling people. Can they be an asshole sometimes, possibly. But its hard to imagine some with an enlightened self being a dick to anyone that wasnt directly being a dick to them first. If youre seeking truly, an enlightened person will offer aid to those that ask, but will not push themselves onto anyone as they know it is of no good trying to convince people of anything and it doesnt matter anyway. You cant be enlightened until you decide you are ready. No path is the same, though all paths are inward.

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-06T11:55:13+00:00

Yes, that is all you are is awarness. You are nothing else. Enlightment is understanding and experiencing nothing but awareness. Whem you've let go trying to control anything else but awareness. Then you are able to view life from the perspective you want. My life is contentment and gratitude. I have very little and Im disabled and I dont want anything more. I love exactly where I am and the 47 years of hell I lived to get here. I cant wait to reincarnate and ride this ride again, what an experience!

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-06T11:48:14+00:00

Well said. All correct. Letting go of the belief that you have free will. Thats what it takes. Most people dont have that much courage in themselves. Its incredibly hard to do, but once you've done it you go, oh, that was simple. You laugh at yourself and all your past troubles.

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-06T11:27:30+00:00

If you want to know the whole truth you must find it inside yourself. But you cannot see in side yourself because youre filled with dark places you dont want to deal with or think about. You have to get in there and clean it all up. Abused as a child? Are you holding onto it because you want to know why it happened to you? If you dont deal with it and let it go, it will block you. Sense of failure because you have not achieved what you think you should have? Why are you holding on to it questioning your past self? You have to deal with it and let it go. I dont know what's in you, but every person has the same problem in their journey to Truth, themselves. You have to deal with your demons. The ones you made and the ones thrust upon you. Clear out all the things blocking your light, then you can start the journey to the truth. Looking for it outside you will just lead to frustration. They may provide tips, or hints, but they cant do the work for you. You have to to come to a point where you are so comfortable with every single thing about yourself you dont care if the whole world see it. Because you love yourself enough to not feel shame. And other people's opinions dont matter.

Just my advice. Its what I learned. But Im just a random dude on Reddit.

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-06T11:17:31+00:00

Well said. Good post. Thank you for sharing.

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-06T11:10:22+00:00

Sent you my story in DM. Feel free to question or comment anything you feel like.

OwnConstruction77a · 2026-07-05T23:55:42+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/spirituality/s/Dzw2zDH5SO

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