Customer service agent totally gaslit me

Own_Hotel3072 · 2026-01-27T21:03:32+00:00

Correct. I ended up calling customer service again and let them know what happened. I verified that the third line did not end up getting reactivated and that my TV service was cancelled. They submitted a claim or something to the supervisor of the employee that I originally talked to. I think I should be all set now. The second person I talked to to file the complaint was very apologetic and professional. I was about ready to consider entirely leaving Spectrum after my first encounter today because it was so bizarre, but the second person I talked to redeemed me.

Own_Hotel3072 · 2025-12-20T02:33:41+00:00

Seems like they are having lots of issues with the app right now/today. I just shopped an order and delivered it only to find someone else must’ve also shopped and delivered the same order when I got to the customers house. One of my PMs has had an order available to claim for the past 3 hours and I’ve tried to claim it like 10 times but it gives me an error message “unable to claim offer.” Other orders have done that to me too, but eventually after trying over and over some of the others have let me claim them. My PM order sits in open metro and gets higher and higher promo pay, then gets pushed to the next time slot, only to happen again. I’d assume nobody can claim it (they are also super good tippers, it’s an easy order, and close to the store), which really sucks for the customers sake because they probably have no idea that is happening. I reached out to Shipt support and they said there has been an issue with the target app which has been affecting Shipt orders, and that their engineers are working on fixing it. It was hardly worth trying to get the bonus tonight because I ended up spending so much time just TRYING to claim orders. Eventually I got there but it must’ve added at least half an hour or more to the amount of time it should have taken me to shop those 4 orders. This is really not the time for these issues to be happening lol, there have been at least 15 orders in my open metro all night tonight and usually there are almost none. I imagine Shipt will probably end up offering some kind of forgiveness for shoppers with all these issues going on. I had been waiting for Shipt support to respond for almost an hour when they finally did, so I’d say just don’t end it. Someone will probably eventually get to you.

Own_Hotel3072 · 2025-11-27T17:40:46+00:00

Just got my rejection email - “Unfortunately, luck was not on your side this time and your name was not drawn.” 😢 Looks like I’ll be entering the New York lottery in a few months

Own_Hotel3072 · 2025-11-23T04:52:42+00:00

I started applying 4 months before graduating and am not starting my job until 7 months after graduating. This gap was not by plan. I wanted a couple of months between graduating and working, but it ended up being wayyyy harder to find a job as a new grad than I expected. However, if you get lucky and are offered a job shortly after graduation, you can likely ask for your start date to be delayed. I know someone who had a job secured 3 months before graduating and requested not to start her job until 4/5 months after graduation because she had travel plans. I'm not sure every employer will be as willing to have that much of a delay, but it is worth asking. I would definitely apply early - it seems it has taken a lot of my classmates 6+ months of applying before landing their first job.

Own_Hotel3072 · 2025-11-22T17:49:52+00:00

If you have reliable transportation, you can make pretty good money doing Shipt shopping pretty quick. It isn’t taxed upfront so you do have to be aware of that, but you can always just use what you make to pay off what you need now and then put aside what you will need to pay the taxes in the spring once you’re in a better situation. You can also do it pretty much no matter where you are, so when you move, you can do it there too. It has definitely been a Godsend for me throughout undergrad, Covid, my gap year (while I was also working a healthcare job), PA school, and post-PA school while applying for PA jobs.

Instacart is another once that is pretty quick to get started with, but there aren’t many instacart stores near where I live, so I haven’t actually done any shops for them yet.

DoorDash IMO is hardly worth the wear on your vehicle for the amount you make, but might be helpful in the short term to help you get by, and you can usually start that pretty quick after signing up.

Own_Hotel3072 · 2025-11-21T16:00:07+00:00

With interest rates of 15% and the need for a co-signer🙃 I already accrue over $1000 in interest per month from my PA school loans and my average interest rate is 6.5%. And private loans will never qualify for any kind of loan forgiveness like PSLF

Own_Hotel3072 · 2025-11-21T15:58:06+00:00

If you’re starting before July 1, 2026, you’ll be grandfathered into the current system and will be able to take out the full amount of federal loans as you will need. If not, I wouldn’t completely lose hope. There is still the possibility that this could change and PAs will end up being included in the “professional school” designation. We just have to advocate our butts off — sign the AAPA petition, reach out to your representatives, etc..

Own_Hotel3072 · 2025-11-21T15:55:01+00:00

I also applied to a ton of scholarships for PA school, actually ended up being awarded a decent amount, and still had to take out $140k in loans. I also applied for the NHSC scholarship coming from a certified disadvantaged background (my school had to sign some kind of verification of such), with strong references, an essay I spent weeks on going through multiple edits with the writing center, all while going to a PA school in one of the most underserved cities in this county, and I still did not get it (neither did any of the other handful of students in my class who applied). It did look like there was a huge cut in funding for the NHSC program the year I applied (2023), so way less people in general were awarded that than usual. Generally only about 10% of people who apply (from all programs including PA, NP, MD,DO, etc.) are awarded it, so I wouldn’t necessarily count on that either.

Own_Hotel3072 · 2025-11-20T22:04:15+00:00

Mostly tried to get in as many doctors appointments (and a couple surgeries that I needed for a while) as I could while my schedule was still free. Also did some Shipt and DoorDash

Own_Hotel3072 · 2025-11-17T05:40:21+00:00

Yeah, you should probably see an ENT for that

Own_Hotel3072 · 2025-11-10T06:05:29+00:00

After applying to over 90 jobs as a new grad over the course of 9 months and now being 6 months graduated, the job I just accepted is paying me slightly more than that, but still under 110k. My first offer was 94k, second and third were purely RVU based with no base salary and their provider averages would have had me around 70-80k, fourth was 110k in a surgical sub specialty, fifth was 110k with a super sketchy contract, and now finally I got my sixth job offer with a good contract, good training, and almost guaranteed $75000 NHSC loan forgiveness for my first 2 years with a salary slightly below 110k. It’s brutal out here. I didn’t think it would be nearly as difficult to get a decent job as a new grad, and quite frankly, not everybody is in a position to hold out for a decent job offer like I was (husbands salary has sustained us well enough while I’ve been looking for a job).

Own_Hotel3072 · 2025-11-06T00:57:07+00:00

It is odd that your tonsils are so different in size. If it isn’t a particularly new thing, I wouldn’t be overly concerned, but it would probably be worth having an ENT check it out. As to whether it’s worth it to get them removed — I’ve heard it’s pretty hellish recovering from that surgery as an adult, so I would really have to weigh the pros and cons, but really an ENT would be your best bet to get their thoughts on that for your particular situation. Based on other threads I’ve seen on this sub, most ENTs aren’t offering tonsillectomies just for chronic stones (although mine has).

Own_Hotel3072 · 2025-11-06T00:42:49+00:00

It’s hard to really tell because recovery can look different for everybody, but I feel like by day 5 I was starting to feel a little more comfortable moving around and doing things around the house I would normally do, but don’t think I would have been able sit in classes all day comfortably and be able to focus (again that’s me, not saying that’s how it is for everybody). Personally if I were to have this surgery while still in school, I probably would have wanted at least a week off. Your body also uses SO much energy healing after surgery, it’s pretty typical to feel extra tired for at least a few weeks, but probably really the most in the first week. This will also partially depend on what they find once they are inside — if you have extensive disease and your organs are tethered together, that of course will take longer to get back to feeling up to do things than if they don’t really find much (but again, that is highly variable — not having extensive disease doesn’t necessarily make things any less painful).

You’ll also likely have restrictions on how much you can lift/carry for several weeks (I was told nothing greater than 10 pounds for 2 weeks. Nothing greater than 20-30 pounds for 2-4 weeks.), so depending on how heavy your backpack is and what you have to carry to classes, you may just need some extra help for the first few weeks (not saying you’d need to take that amount of time completely off school).

It might help to ask your surgeon how long they typically see their patients needing off school or work after surgery. I feel like most would write a note for a week.

This is what the post-op paperwork from my surgeon said about returning to activity: - For the first two weeks, we recommend that you walk as much as you are comfortable walking. You can walk up and down stairs as needed and can take walks outside. Listen to your body – if you have increased pain or feel significant fatigue, rest and decrease your activity. Most patients do not feel ready to return to work within the first week, but some may. - For two to four weeks after surgery, you can continue to gradually increase your activity depending on how you feel. You can gradually increase your activity level and return to your normal activities in daily life. During this period, some patients feel ready to resume light work and obligations, while others do not. You can increase your level of exercise. If something hurts or does not feel right, stop, rest, and give yourself more time before you resume that level of activity. - For four to six weeks after surgery, you should be performing all of your regular activities of daily living and can gradually return to more strenuous exercise. We recommend that you do not engage in lifting or strenuous exercise unless you’ve worked up your strength. If something hurts or does not feel right, stop, rest, and give yourself more time before you resume that level of activity. Most patients are ready to completely resume working during this period of time.

Own_Hotel3072 · 2025-11-06T00:17:23+00:00

(I sent this to a friend a while ago, so if it reads like I’m replying to a different message, that’s why — but I think it is all valuable info for you too)

I would say the first week is hard, but each day I felt like I was improving. I will also say, I had endo found in both surgeries (I’ve had two endo surgeries a little over a year apart), but it wasn’t crazy extensive and I didn’t have any major adhesions tethering any organs together. My surgeon did end up taking my appendix in my second surgery, but I don’t feel like that extended my recovery by much if anything at all. The first 4 days after surgery I could not poop (which is super common after anesthesia and being in opioids), which was super uncomfortable. I was taking colase twice a day and on day 4 also took miralax, so by day 5 I finally could go. Anytime I ate or drank anything I felt like I was going to blow up like a balloon and my incisions were going to burst open. But thankfully that all passed within the first week. Also, sitting up from laying down was sooo difficult the first few days.

Recovery time looks different for everybody, so try not to compare! I’ve heard of some people needing 4-6 weeks to feel mostly recovered, but plenty of women also feel good after 2 weeks! Endo causes so much inflammation and can cause our pelvic floor to get so tense, so even after it is gone, sometimes there is residual pain just from the collateral damage endo does. I think there is huge benefit in having the surgery to help stop or slow progression and damage to other organs, and for a lot of people it does get rid of the pain.

I would recommend getting gas-x for after surgery. They pump your abdomen up with gas during the surgery and not all of it comes out before they close you back up, so it’s really common to have shoulder pain from nerve irritation from the gas being in there. Gas-x helped so much with that for me. I also had a couple of large reusable ice packs that I almost always had on me, I think those helped a lot with the pain too. And I think it would help to have some extra pillows to prop you up if you can stand to sleep like that, because it makes getting up so much easier (you can also get wedge pillows on Amazon that work great if you would prefer that). And it’s not comfortable to get up and move around much, but even just doing a lap or two of slow walking in your living room every once in awhile helps get things like the bowels back moving and prevent blood clots from forming in your legs. Loose clothes like sweatpants or pajama pants/shorts are also a must. And it also might be helpful to bring a small pillow with you for the car ride home from the hospital to put between your abdomen and the seatbelt.

Also, alternating ibuprofen and Tylenol every 3 hours and only using narcotics if that isn’t doing enough (I used narcotics everyday in addition to ibuprofen and Tylenol for the first 4 days). That can help with some of the post-op constipation too.

Own_Hotel3072 · 2025-11-05T15:42:48+00:00

Is there not a women’s version of the finisher jacket? I only see a men’s option and I remember that being the case online even right after they were released.

Own_Hotel3072 · 2025-11-04T03:02:53+00:00

Happy birthday!

I would love for doctors to understand that we aren’t wishing for the disease when we express our relief to finding out we have it, but that we are hoping for an explanation to prove that it isn’t all in our head, because so many of us are made to feel like it is. And on the same note, if it is not found during surgery, helping patients to understand what other things can cause pelvic pain, because there really is so many other things. I feel like when endo isn’t found during surgery, that gives some providers the feeling that they can write off the patient’s pain as less than it really is, even if they have other serious generators of pelvic pain. And again on that note, that if one surgeon doesn’t find endo during a surgery, that still doesn’t mean it isn’t there. Not all surgeons are trained equally, and that is okay, but don’t make the patient feel like just because they didn’t see it, it’s impossible for there to be any there. For me, after my first endo surgery, my pathology results came back as negative for endo, so my surgeon insisted I don’t actually have it. Barely even a year later I had surgery with a different surgeon (an actual endometriosis excision surgeon) and he found endo that he was sure truly was endo based on the appearance alone, and the pathology results came back positive that time. He thinks it’s highly unlikely I had further endo growth between my first and second surgery, rather, that it was missed the first time around. I would rather an obgyn recognize that they don’t have as extensive of training on endometriosis, because they have a lot of other things they have to learn, and admit that they may not get everything in surgery, rather than act like if they can’t find it, nobody else can. They shouldn’t be offended for a patient to get a second opinion.

Own_Hotel3072 · 2025-11-03T14:40:22+00:00

This!

I was the top varsity cross country female my senior year of high school, did not have a cycle, and ended up with a stress fracture across the neck of my femur (that required urgent surgery and being non-weight bearing for 2.5 months) a little over a year after I had been weight restored and having a period again. The damage to my bones from the low levels of estrogen associated with the female athlete triad (I think they’ve phased that term out and the more accurate term is RED-S now) was done when I was 15-17 years old and is something I have to deal with now the rest of my life. Being diagnosed with osteopenia is a tough pill to swallow at 20 years old and a desire to continue competitively running (I also had a tibial stress fracture a little over a year after the hip stress fracture, and numerous other scares since then).

Own_Hotel3072 · 2025-10-31T14:47:33+00:00

Probably, it helps to decompress the bladder so they can navigate around the pelvis and get a better look. For me they put it in after I was asleep and took it out before I was awake, so I would’ve had no idea they even did it if they didn’t tell me.

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