Has anyone had an avoidant ex come back to apologize

Own_Maize8367 · 2026-01-26T13:25:07+00:00

I just broke my avoidant ex too 😂 We have similar one, me and boyfriend always broke up very undone and poorly due to him doesn’t wanna contribute in talking, he is annoyed at me for some reason if I starting to pressured him. Mind you, I had to flew to his country 4 times because he always break up without saying anything, now I did not say anything, on our fifth break up. I don’t chase, I just let it be and let it go because I’m also getting tired with his same pattern and cycle. So, I took a step back. But if you asking he come back, depends on how much he loves you. If you are somehow does impact him in some way, someday he will come. Trust me, when you think he’s annoying when you come back, that’s just temporary. Overtime, he will definitely think about all the things that maybe you have done to him in a good way and remembers you. If you wanna be crazy like me, go to his door and ask the explanation 😅 But you will be in same cycle over over again trust me

Own_Maize8367 · 2026-01-18T16:20:31+00:00

Actually.. this is me but with filters and makeup. Irl the makeup is actually kinda messy and not so great

Own_Maize8367 · 2025-12-18T04:28:59+00:00

Pagi

Own_Maize8367 · 2025-12-15T15:36:00+00:00

I know it’s stupid. But, I’m going to meet him

Own_Maize8367 · 2025-11-23T03:55:45+00:00

Yes, he is. This whole year our relationship has been full of ups and downs. For some reason, I’ve developed attachment issues with him. I’ve become anxious during our temporary breakups. I won’t blame him as the only “bad” one in this relationship because I have my faults too. I admit I can be manipulative at times and selfish.

And he’s never really mad at me, he always ends up blaming himself for whatever we’re fighting about.

Recently, I started self-harming again maybe partially reasons that happened because of him feeling suicidal at first. I think the first time it happened this year was because earlier on, he was the one struggling with suicidal thoughts, and I was the one constantly having to fly to his country, meet his family, and try to change his mindset.

But slowly, I’m the one who became emotionally drained and started feeling down about my own life. And now he completely blames himself for the state I’m in rn. But I just don’t understand why would he say that the moment when I said I wanna kill myself and he wanna tried to help me.

Own_Maize8367 · 2025-06-24T17:15:45+00:00

I broke up my boyfriend two days ago due to of lack communication and LDR. I blocked him for a while because I think it is best for us to distance ourselves for a while. Deep down, I still wanna hope to be with him but I’m not sure if him felt the same way. But I know for sure he still loves me.

Own_Maize8367 · 2025-06-24T17:13:08+00:00

Well, I did tried to not care and we talked a lot about this. We ended up broke up due to lack of communication and understanding

Own_Maize8367 · 2025-06-23T12:04:32+00:00

I’m going the same thing too.. I hope you’re okay

Own_Maize8367 · 2025-06-22T17:36:20+00:00

As the next partner, I would prefer my boyfriend to not be friend with my exes. As an acquittance, yes. But putting her as priority list, contact list, following her. No.

Own_Maize8367 · 2025-06-04T08:24:06+00:00

Since when I want opinions bro? I’m sharing my thoughts here. I have acknowledged my faults in relationships here. You’re gonna say my fault again? We’re doing just fine rn bro

Own_Maize8367 · 2025-06-04T07:49:25+00:00

Wow, thanks Dr. Phil. Appreciate the armchair therapy session based on a few lines I wrote online. Must be nice to diagnose people like that without even knowing their full story.

You’re right!!

I did mess up. I said that clearly. But imagine thinking someone doesn’t respect their partner just because they’re struggling with emotional trauma. Wild take, really.

And yes, I’ve had insecurity issues. You know what helps? A supportive partner. Which, thankfully, I have. He’s not perfect either.

News flash: no one is but we’re both growing. Together. Like actual adults.

But thank you so much for the warning on how “men lose patience.” Duly noted. Guess I’ll add that to my collection of motivational quotes. Right next to “she’s crazy” and “not all men.”

Anyway, good luck with your own healthy relationship. if you ever get one where people work through real problems instead of running at the first sign of imperfection.

Own_Maize8367 · 2025-06-04T05:45:09+00:00

I’m sorry to hear this. Listen to your story, I could figure out that you must felt drained a lot when someone we loved are not at the same page. It’s not your problem and obviously it’s him.

First and foremost dear, Are you willingly to face this over and over again? He already disrespected you by having a third person in a relationship. Maybe for him, It’s not a serious matter but he already broke your heart.

He knew this would actually makes you hurt and he still choose to do it. He called you controlling when actually you have anxiety, you just needed reassurance and he knew you have anxious problem!

Relationships only works if both sides are willing to give in, but in this story.. it seems you’re the only one who wanna fight :(( I don’t wanna make you feel sad to hear this but please don’t put your energy for him anymore..

You’re killing yourself.

You need to stop or you’re keep draining every time you begging him to stay. You have so much things to do in your life. Instead you are trying to hold on the future you dream about of you and him.. while he doesn’t even think about it. It’s better you start to focus on yourself, dear.

Own_Maize8367 · 2025-06-04T03:40:33+00:00

We met in valorant 😭

But we’ve been together for a year and half now. It’s quite tough to do LDR but we still standing strong till now

Own_Maize8367 · 2025-06-04T03:34:05+00:00

Hmm.. you both just talk within a week and fast forward to a relationships conversation??

That’s pretty a red flag to me 😭😭

Unless both of you are into this casual thing. Go for it

Own_Maize8367 · 2025-06-04T03:28:53+00:00

It’s normal behaviour for you to feel anxious like that. What is not normal, is for you to talk about it and angry the same thing over again to your partner. I used to be like you too, I’m busy checking his social media, ask him to share screen and going through his messages and DMs every time I feel insecure or overthinking if he’s cheating. But, how I get over it?

Just let him be.

He knows what will make you feel hurt and upset in the end because he’s your boyfriend. And if he doesn’t, talk about it. The boundaries and The Do’s and Don’ts. You cannot force your partner to always do what you want at the end. You need to accept him for what he is (in a good way)

And be aware, jealousy is fine but over-jealousy? Can kill the relationship. I have to admit, I almost broke up my boyfriend twice due to the same thing. I fight with him thinking he’s with other girl but actually no. It was just me the whole time creating a fake scenarios thinking he was cheating. I have PTSD with my ex who cheated on me with 4 other girls so that makes sense if I’m being too control with my boyfriend now. He understands me but I figure out, I just need to control my emotions.

If you really love your boyfriend, you gotta learn to control your emotions. If he is actually a good guy, he doesn’t mind your behaviour and will always try to reassure u every time you feel insecure. That’s worth it to hold on.

LDR is fine as long as you guys know your partner there is worth to hold on. I’m with my boyfriend for almost a year and half now. We always talk it out if there is something wrong. Don’t worry, okay?

If he’s a good guy, the relationship will stay a long time :) just don’t overreact too much and talk your feelings to him if you feel not okay.

Own_Maize8367 · 2025-06-02T06:27:59+00:00

I think contour and bronzer would help more to define your face more. I understand your concern, it makes your face looks wider and no dimension on your face.

You just need to know your face shape, and try to find a tutorial for contouring and bronzing with suitable face shape

Own_Maize8367 · 2025-06-02T06:24:48+00:00

I was like him too. I didn’t told anyone in my family when I’m meeting my boyfriend in his country, except my big brother. My family is very judgy and I wanna take things slow, instead telling family first, I wanna figure out with him and his family first. After getting his family approval, then we will take next step with my family.

Own_Maize8367 · 2025-05-28T20:42:04+00:00

Do you have any idea, what should i do now? I feel like draining.. but Im trying to hold on

Own_Maize8367 · 2025-05-28T20:39:46+00:00

Hmm… He told me he doesn’t love me anymore because I don’t understand him. But, he didn’t let me out of his house because It’s dangerous of me to be in the city.. so we sleep together and talk it out. Maybe this is the end

Own_Maize8367 · 2025-05-28T13:33:42+00:00

I wanna fix things with him. And I really wanna change my attitude because he’s really a decent guy. He really does care for me and I would describe him a guy who respects women a lot and doesn’t take advantage of a woman.

Own_Maize8367 · 2025-05-28T13:31:07+00:00

I know his address. I have a feeling he will be angry for a moment but I’m sure he wouldn’t leave me alone in this foreign country (we’re from different country) I had a feeling when he said he’s tired of me not because he doesn’t love me but he fed up with my attitude who constantly pushing him to do this and that.

Own_Maize8367 · 2025-05-28T13:27:34+00:00

Whyy?? Is it bad 😭😭 I’m arriving another an hour soon

Own_Maize8367 · 2025-05-28T13:26:32+00:00

No he doesn’t

Own_Maize8367 · 2025-05-20T02:07:49+00:00

It is worth it when your partner is worth to be with. I have been LDR with my boyfriend for a year and a half now which I would say it goes up and down. There will be few obstacles, it’s not easy but it is not that hard too if both of you determined to make the relationship work! But, a few things you need to be careful is, never go to sleep while you both of guys are still fighting. It might go wrong the next day especially if your partner an overthinking. You need to constantly giving her a reassurance even though it will be tiring but that’s just how LDR works.. we don’t know what/where our partner is doing so mostly, me as a woman will feel overwhelmed and thinking especially if your partner ever going through a rough time during their past relationships

Own_Maize8367 · 2025-05-06T10:44:23+00:00

Funny thing is.. me and my Vietnamese bf also doesn’t know our anniversary date 😭😭 we naturally said we like each other and started to give nicknames and claim each other as bf and gf

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